Sudden Infant Death syndrome?

Question

Im 22 years old and trying to concieve i just lost a child on june 30th he was born on may 26 he lived only for thirty-four days and tne medical examiner said the cause of death was sids i feel like im pregnant my cycle came 5 days earlier than normal but i have took two hpt and they were both neg can the test be wrong i also went to the doctor and took a urine test can my dream still come true what do i do i need help im desperate and i wont on serious answers what do i do i need help to over come this situation after nine long months of pregancy hes now gone and it all happen to fast i need to fill this empty space PLEASE HELP

Answer 1

First off I think that you need grief counseling, lost of a child is always hard. You may suffer from what is called phantom pregnancy, this is when a woman feel the symptoms of pregnancy but she isn't. You really should get some help because stress and worrying can lead to an abnormal menstrual cycle. My best friend lost her first son about ten years ago to SIDS and she went on to have another child, so I am sure that you most likely will conceive again, give it time and please, please, please talk to someone it will help you. I am truly sorry to hear about your lost and I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 2

I don't have the answers. Certain things are in gods hands and that is how I believe. my sister lost a child many years ago at that time it was called crib death, so I do understand some about the medical part . I understand your feeling of loss also, I have 3 living children and lost one child while pregnant and carried only 7 months. In away god blessed you with time. God blesses all in different ways and I feel you were blessed. I'm not sure if you might feel you might not get pregnant again because of this. I just want you to know after my sister lost her child to back then it was called crib death she went on to have 5 more healthy children. I feel for you over yout pain I have lost both of my sisters and my mother within the last 1 1/2 years. The emptyness is almost sometimes alot to handle I do truly understand. Don't take it all by yourself, talking and leaning on someone does truly help. When it is time god will bless you with another child, I have heard that sometimes stress can slow things down I don't know if it like an old wise tale. Maybe just step back and don't try so hard and things will just happen. Your body needs time to prepare its self anyways, just think of all the things you could'nt do while pregnant and enjoy some of that stuff now because when the time comes it will be a while!! Lean on your family sometimes we think we are burdening them with our problems but thats what they are there for, talk with them and enjoy your friends and family . I truly feel your pain and I hope I was able to help some. Signed, someone who does care Tamera

Answer 3

I am truly sorry for your loss, but i do not think the answer to your situation is to try and replace your child with another. Get some counseling, maybe that will help you ease some of your pain and when you are TRULY ready you can try again and be healthy and ready to raise your child.

Answer 4

Start by asking your doctor or someone at your church about counseling. You need to take to someone about your loss and get ready to bring another baby into the world.
Best Wishes.