hi, i am a 27 yr old married man from past few months.My wife is 24 yrs old.I am very lucky to get her as my wife.She is a nice girl and we respect eachother a lot.i love her a lot and i know that she too loves me.But my problem is she is too shy in bed and does not co-operate me to fulfill my sexual desires.She tries to hide herself too much when i kiss her and i find her shivering when i hug her and try to make love to her . She does not complain or tells anything about her problem . I have a feeling that she is too shy and scared to discuss about that.but somehow i want her to make her feel happy and comfortable with me in bed.I am really worried about how can i make her ready so that i can enter her.I am sure that she do not have any bad sexual experiance before our marriage . Pls reply me with decent answers and help me to overcome her problem
2006-10-22 22:31:25 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you're sure there's no past bad experience then honesty is the ony way out. Make her dinner one night and bring some good wine, then after dinner hug her and talk to her and tell her you only want to make her happy and you like her just as she is. A main thing that causes women to act shy in bed is the fear of doing something wrong. Especially if she doesn't have a lot of experience it's likely that she's just afraid of what you may think if she does sth she finds wrong. So you need to be patient and explain to her that whatever happens you still love her and it'll be better for both. But it is important that you keep your voice calm and sweet and don't press her to talk to you. Tell her what you want and then just hug her and make her feel warm. Be kind and open and warm towards her and when she's ready she'll show it to you by herself
2006-10-22 22:40:38 · answer #1 · answered by speedy eleni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone thinks I look older than I actually am! A few years back, when I was 10, the lady at Sears offered me a coupon for a free coffee which was for 15+ and she was like "Are you 15??" XD When I went to a baby shower everyone thought I was at least in my teens when I was 11... strange. I hope people don't think I look older when I'm 40 or something! X_X
2016-05-22 00:38:33 · answer #2 · answered by Ethel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything you told us, think its time you sit down with her and open your heart to her, be gentle with her. Maybe that's all she need to open up to you. Ask her to make a problem list that she have and you do the dame. You are married, communications is the most important factor in a relationship, with the list you won't miss anything. When she start to speak don't inter up, just listen, after that you give your story, after that you both think of a solution, write i down. In the beginning its important to have a meeting ones a week, know its sound Ward, but handle it like grown-ups. Good luck!
2006-10-22 23:09:20 · answer #3 · answered by confussie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is afraid. You have to tell her and show her that you are going to BACK OFF and let it be up to her. If you are patient enough and don't pressure her it will be a great reward for both of you. In the meantime continue to show her respect and nurturing love and devotion. If you can't hang in there, counciling is always a good thing. Remember she's just afraid. Good luck.
2006-10-22 22:48:42 · answer #4 · answered by Bullwinkle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i had that problem befor i met my partner i was just like her i wouldnt even take my clothes off in bed he did it for me and when we used have sex i would keep my eyes closed i was that shy but over the years we are still together after 3years she needs to trust you in bed reasure her talk about what you are going to do to her and if she agrees you are on a good start my only problem cause i was realy shy was i was a virgin when i meet my lomg term partner i didnt know what to do in the bedroom department and didnt tell him that til 2years later i didnt wont to lose him but he was ok with it you need to give her time to help her loosen up have some wine before bed time she should feel more relaxed by then. goodluck.
2006-10-22 22:42:14 · answer #5 · answered by baby dust for me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I agree with Tina... Take lots of time... lots. Cuddle tell her how u love her being your wife. Tell her about how she is beautiful inside and out in your eyes. Does she kiss you? Does she let you kiss her? Romantic kisses? Have you made love together before? Does she touch you anywhere?
2006-10-22 22:46:33 · answer #6 · answered by alheseas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you discuss things openly with her? It could be shyness. If that's what it is,romance her a bit more. Set the scene prior. A little music,soft candlelight and tenderness. Be patient. Good luck my friend.
2006-10-22 22:36:05 · answer #7 · answered by kick it 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like such a kind and understanding man. It is very difficult to answer without knowing a little of your wife's past, culture and relgion.
2006-10-23 01:18:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to talk to her and find out why she is having these reactions..maybe she's not confident with her body and her sexual abilities..
tell her that you love her and you would be very gentle and understanding..tell her that she's the perfect woman for you and you will be with her all the way...introduce some informative materials that may boost her sexual confidence and let go of her inhibitions...do it together and talk about it...communication is vital..
2006-10-22 22:44:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk to her and ask her what her fantasies are. Do things that she wants to do. Your just going to have to work with her through this, you can't force the issue. If you try to push things on her then the situation is only going to get worse. Maybe try not having sex and just cuddle with her and talk to her.
2006-10-22 22:36:21 · answer #10 · answered by Captain Comment 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋