basically i cant get my ex out of my head. we were together seven years ago and i have not spoken to her since we split up. i was fine with this until recently, when all of a sudden i started to dream of her regularly. ive been single for 6 months now and if im honest then ill admit that ive never been in love as much as when i was in love with her. is it a wise choice to try to contact her after all this time?
2006-10-22 22:30:41 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we split cos i cheated on her. but hte thing is ive never ever been in love as much as when i was with her and i know she did love me a whole lot! she may b married that is possible... she might have children but i doubt it as i heard she has just finished uni. i know she loved me loads. cheating on her is one of my biggest regrets. thing is im not consciously deciding to dream of her so its not my choice so im owndering what the hell is going on my head ! i woke up totally suprised wondering why she was in my dreams. now that im thinkin about it in the morning i am begining to like the idea more of being with her again. i am at a loss as to what to do next.. this really is coming to a point now because this is not the first time ive dreamt of her recently.
2006-10-22 22:55:20 · update #1
i have written a letter as no one answers the phone because it only rings for like four or five rings before it goes to answer phone. my phone doesnt work properly so if she were to call back i would not hear :( . i have written a letter but have not posted it yet. should i?
2006-10-22 23:40:44 · update #2
First of all I think you should write a letter if that is what you feel you should do, always do what you think is right in that moment, it will do no good to think too much. Second - I think the problem with you is that you may not understand yourself but you love difficulties, that is why you cheated your ex, that is why you want to get your ex back - I think that is psychological problem. I don't mean anything bad by that, unfortunately I'm that way too - everything in my life (every relation) becomes problem sooner or later even if I don't want to. So first of all you must really understand what you really want from life and from yourself, are you sure that if you get your ex back you will not loose your feelings for her again? Anyway I really wish you luck in your life and remember that at least you are the person with feelings which is trying to swim against this river of life and not "dummy" which floats helpless through life routine.
2006-10-23 00:43:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 18:16:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have just ben going through the same thing as you. I decided to get in contact with my ex after 9 years. My marriage ended 10 months ago and I couldnt get my ex (my first love) out of my head. We met, he has two kids, but was single. We got together and it felt so right, but he had baggage and the mother of his kids wanted him back. It left me heartbroken. I am glad I contacted him, and it made me realise how much I loved him, but now I have to move on. All I can say, is that if you do contact her, be very careful and always remember that there was a reason why it didnt work the first time.
Good luck
2006-10-22 22:46:19 · answer #3 · answered by Sirvan G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is married or going with someone, then leave her alone. You had your chance and it didn't work. She hasn't tried to make contact with you either.
However, if you are sure she is single and available, you could call and just ask how she is. You will know by her reaction how she feels. If she is cool to you, then don't pursue it any farther. Just wish her well.
Be sure you really want to do this. You might be setting yourself up for possible heartache again. Sadly, sometimes you just can't go back.
2006-10-22 22:52:34 · answer #4 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wasn't going to answer this but Seven years ago, don't you have a life? Why would you want to upset her if she hasn't been around you in seven years? What makes you think she feels the same? has she tried to contact you? Your speaking about your feelings, how about her, what could this do to her, her relationships. I would suggest forget about it and get on with your life. I wish someone had given this to my significant other years ago and she took the advise. I fell for her over, only to be put back again.
2006-10-22 22:45:43 · answer #5 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get in touch with her, you have to find a way to move forward with your life. Why did you cheat on her in the first place, why ever after 7 years would she want to risk that again ? My guess is that you may be feeling guilty of the way you acted, however that's your problem, you need to deal with it and not put the onus on your ex, she's your ex and certainly needs to stay that way.
2006-10-23 01:23:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, do not open that can of worms. I tried it after a year and it came back to bite me in the butt. I got a reminder of why I left in the first place. Sometimes, people do not need an olive branch.. Move on
2006-10-22 22:44:44 · answer #7 · answered by pussnboots333 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can only give you what I feel right now at this moment, and that is that you can't go backwards. It never seems to work.
This is due to something that happened to me recently. The past is the past.
However, we all must follow our own path and if you need to contact her for your own sanity, then do it. Then you will know if it worked for you or not.
Good luck.
2006-10-23 01:55:17 · answer #8 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the same happened to me and when I phoned my ex he was getting married. So I told my mother after sobbing and she she maybe I dreamed and got this feeling because I were very closed to him and if something good/bad happens I feel it. So today his still somewhere out there, still happens to me, but I think it doesn't mean your meant to be together, and most people believe ones a cheater always a cheater, but you know the truth. So phone her, find out why you keep thinking about her and then you can put you mind to rest. thats that. PHONE HER, IT WILL BE FUN!!!!
2006-10-22 23:37:14 · answer #9 · answered by confussie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's going to help u get peace of mind, then go ahead and contact her and get the closure u seem to be looking for. Just keep in mind that she may not be the same person that u remembered...i.e. she may be married already. It would be wise for u not to expect anything in return.
2006-10-22 22:39:39 · answer #10 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋