Recently, my husband ask his daughters age 13&12 to help him clean up the living room.They refuse and went to their room.My husband then went to their room and told them again to come help clean up or else they can stay in their room and only come out to eat.They did not like this so they called their mom and she came to pick them up.When she came, she was told by my husband that just because they didn't want to help clean the mess they help made that they shouldn't just leave.He told her that if that's how it is at her place then fine but it's not it works here.As the result the kids left with there mom.She then called the next day and yelled at my husband saying that he was mistreating them.They stayed with their mom for about 2month.Their mom called me after a month and said that my husband should have just pick up the kids without waiting for them to call.I told her that the kids were told enough to know what to do.They need to listen to their dad. She hang up the phone.
2006-10-22 22:14:22 · 8 answers · asked by stepmom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
the kids and I get along very well. we offten go places together. just me and them. my husband and their mom were never married and were separted 8yrs before I met my husband. their mom is currently married also, but they hate their stepdad. i think that their mom tried to creat DRAMA because the kids and i get along so well. my husband and i have a 1yr old son that the kids love. and i don't want their bad behavior to their dad to afftect him
2006-10-22 22:56:58 · update #1
All you can do is keep talking to the girls honestly about your rules in your home but in a loving way. They will eventually respect you & their father for giving them rules to go by. They will thank you later on in life. We all need rules or else everything will fall apart in our lives.
Just like the Bible, God gave us commandments to live by. If we keep on going against our Heavenly Father and His commandments, then our life is a big mess and headed for destruction.
You can also pray for those girls and their mom. Prayer is very powerful! You can get "The Power of a Praying Woman" by Stormie Omartian. It really helped me and my life, my marriage and children situation all improved dramatically after some months I had started praying. God is there and He hears.
1Peter4:8
And above all things have fervent love for one another, for "love will cover a multitude of sins."
Have a blessed day!
2006-10-22 22:31:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
@ 12 & 13, its the age of rebellion. when i was @ their age, i don't like to be 'told' what to do, like it's a command. it works best, if someone talk nicely to me.
besides, the kids & their mom may be bitter with you & your husband (the break-up of a family unit).
i would think that their father (& you) should communicate better with the kids, & be sensitive his kids' feelings.
maybe, slow & steady communications may help. but then again, their mother should also involve in the kids' character building.
2006-10-22 22:24:32 · answer #2 · answered by sista! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i clean my room rest of the room, its time for mom to take a break. and one more thing i don't only do rooms i do the whole house to, actual fact it the duty of the daughter to clean the house, my mom really need a break. I hate to see my mother so stressful.
2016-05-22 00:37:41 · answer #3 · answered by Ethel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not YOUR job to boss the kids around. It's the kids' FATHER.
If your situation is real (I doubt it), what does the divorce agreement say about child custody? Quite frankly, I'd be glad to be rid of the kids.
2006-10-22 22:26:51 · answer #4 · answered by SPLATT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you treated the situation correctly, your husband and the ex wife have to lay down rules or the kids will run over you
2006-10-22 22:22:29 · answer #5 · answered by Mike H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELCOME TO THE WORLD OF "BABY MAMA DRAMA" THE KIDS ARE USING THE FACT THAT THIER PARENTS DONT GET ALONG TO GET THIER WAY AND THE MOTHER IS USING THE KIDS TO GET THE HUSBAND UPSET.....MISERY LOVES COMPANY YA KNOW. YOU WILL HAVE TO DEAL WITH THIS UNTIL SHE AND THE CHILDREN GROW UP...YOU HAVE TO BE THE ADULT IN THAT SITUATION
2006-10-22 22:23:02 · answer #6 · answered by goldie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my ex wife is not in control at my house!!!!
I believe that both of you handled that well.
They are his children and he is raising them and for you(well, if i were in your situation, I'd...) let their dad handle it.
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If someone doesn't follow the rules at my house and can afford to leave,
well,
they have some sort of support to run to
or
they can afford to avoid my rules on their own...
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therefore, I guess my rules are enough to avoid me...
that sounds like my problem,
doesn't it?
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2006-10-22 22:30:28 · answer #7 · answered by DM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
beat them with force
2006-10-22 22:16:14 · answer #8 · answered by sicivic05 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋