My husband and I don't get along and as time goes by were growing farther apart. I can hardly find anything I like about him. He has no class, don't communicate well, doesn't like to go out or dress nice and most of the time I ask him to shave. He's cheap and doesn't care to have nice things. I've acquired alot on my own and will continue to do so, now I'm at the point where I'm asking myself "what the h@#$ do I need him for? Especially when it seems there is no love anymore.
2006-10-22 22:13:05 · 10 answers · asked by Got Curves? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It does sound like he needs to pull his socks up a bit and make some effort, have you tried talking to him about how you feel? Some men genuinely do not see what is right in front of them, and he may not even be aware at how unhappy you have become. Surely he was not that bad before you married him? Surely if he was like that already then you would not have married him to start with? If so then you chose poorly, but if it is him that has changed and no longer bothers to try and make the effort then you need to make sure he is aware of what he is doing wrong, give him the chance to fix it and if he is unwilling to change at least you can leave knowing you tried your best.
2006-10-22 23:02:31 · answer #1 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetie, if it's gone that far, it's likely dumpsville from here. You didn't' even mention a desire to have him in your life, for whatever reason.. I'm glad you don't think that you need a man to acquire things, or justify you, or make you complete, that's KUDOS..if you're miserable and can do for yourself, then make yourself happy, by whatever means, even if that is ending a marriage.
If you're having a bad day, (and I've been there), then take a breather, and see if you continually feel the same way. Has he lost the same passion in you? If you've both maxed your need for each other, then move on... it's difficult, but not the end of the world, just the end of a nonsustaining relationship!
Trust what you want in life, what goals you have, how you want to spend your remaining years, how much you want you life to be lead in an enriching manner, and act on it. If someone doesn't' share that same passion, then it's time to move on.. sometimes thing do grow tiresome, and we can't grow unless we close one door and open another. I wish you well!
2006-10-23 05:23:13 · answer #2 · answered by Manatee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK sorry to hear this honey and in no way am I taking sides here but...was your husband like this before you got married? Its easy to get blinded about someone and how they really are if the relationship feels good. Actually now tat I think about it...lets scratch that. Who cares if he was like that then. He's isn't making you happy now. So I suggest you talk to him and get his feedback. Tell him straight out...I'm not happy. Ofcourse break it all down. And if things don't come around baby girl then leave! I can't understand living miserably just because. In all reality you don't need him and he needs you more than you will ever need him so if he doesn't straighten up he'll loose a good thing. And don't let your conscience make you a softie (like me) and feel sorry for leaving him. Your happiness is worth more than ten of him. Good luck.
2006-10-23 05:22:21 · answer #3 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like such a shallow person, why ever did you marry this poor man, I can't believe that he suddenly has no class, it sounds as if it's you have changed and has the problem not your husband. Perhaps he no longer loves you - who could blame him with the horrible attitude you have ?
2006-10-23 08:28:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's depressed. If he is not willing to make more of an effort to make you happy in the relationship, it's not going anywhere and you need to move on. It happens, sorry, and I hope the best for you!
2006-10-23 05:20:26 · answer #5 · answered by bezsenný 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you so caught up with clothes and things? It should be the person you love. I mean if they are in an accident your supposed to be there. Saying that, if there is no love, you cant bring it back, you can buy him new clothes but you can't just love someone.
2006-10-23 05:20:17 · answer #6 · answered by purple_butterflyuk 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Divorce is the ultimate. But just before it think whether you have worked on all possible alternatives. God Bless You.
2006-10-23 05:21:16 · answer #7 · answered by Abhijit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have started from the last sentance - thee is no love anymore! so just leave him and give him a chance to have a happy life too.
2006-10-23 07:49:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you told him this? maybe he needs a wake up call. he could be just taking you for granted. if you have told him and it didnt work, maybe you should set up an appointment with a marriage counselor. if that doesnt work, then maybe you should consider separation. maybe that will shock him into thinking: "wow, maybe i should get my act together.". if even that doesnt work, then its time to move on, i think. good luck to you.
2006-10-23 05:19:56 · answer #9 · answered by lostcause8436 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce.
2006-10-23 05:16:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋