do women still like the old fashioned men?

Question

who open doors, lay their coat over a puddle, dont shag on the first night etc etc or is it deemed as pathetic or too british/old fashioned?

seeings as i got such a good response, i thought id let you know i act very much like that, so if anyones interested ;)

Answer 1

I think that's great because it shows a whole lot of respect for a woman ...
Who doesn't like being treated like a princess? Plus, there is much less pressure involved - you can move at a pace which is much less intimidating because he doesn't expect a one night stand or anything ...
However, he should let the woman treat him like that sometimes, like if she wants to buy him dinner, it should be allowed because equality is still important.

Answer 2

If you mean do we like an old fashioned gentleman who protects, respects and loves us wholeheartedly and with passion and professes he would die without us then most definately yes. We are ALL suckers for a real life Heathcliff or Mr Darcy. However, all too often those with such old fashioned values also subscribe to the chauvanisitic Alpha male approach - meaning - you must acknowledge that men are above women in the pecking order, you must worship and OBEY them, they think they own you and believe a woman's place is in the home, tied to the sink, barefoot and pregnant or in his bed attending to his every need.

A true gent doesnt have to open a door for me (but that is nice) but would definitely have to spend time with me, listen to my opinions with respect and an open mind and always be sure to afford me his consideration. He must also be able to keep my confidences and convey to me how much he cares ( I hate cold men) by way of words spoken or written, or actions and gestures. He need not tell the world he loves me but he must not keep this a secret either.

Unfortunately I have had more than my fair share of the controlling, pig headed, ego maniac type males who on initial contact were charming. So if you think women are tired of the chivalrous approach that is not so, we are tired of being fooled. I tell you frankly what qualities I prefer in a man, but when a man attempts to become a friend rather than acquaintance I am always cautious because the wolves in sheeps clothing are very prevalent and a woman cannot afford to be naiive.
If you are truly a good man - be yourself and give us women hope that men like you do still exist.

Answer 3

I must admit I do like a bit of old fashioned chivalry! I've been married to my wonderful husband for 4 years. Although we are a bit unconventional in that I earn more than double than him, he still will carry things if he thinks that they are too heavy (even though I honestly don't need help most of the time and he knows it!!) and just be really kind and considerate.

I think there is a fine line though between not taking someone for granted and being patronising. I know there are plenty of women out there that would hate they way my husband is but I think it has come from him being bought up just by his mum (my teenage son and brother are very similar as they were both bought up in a single parent family).

If you are describing yourself in the question don't go changing. There are plenty of women that will appreciate you. If I wasn't married I would!

Answer 4

Yes, but don't over do it. By all means open a door for me, but the coat over the puddle thing? No, thats stupid. Your coat will get wet, and I am quite capable for walking around it. Oh, and being a gentleman isn't old fashioned, its just about showing a bit of respect (not fondling my breasts in the queue at the supermarket etc)

Answer 5

Opening doors and not demanding sex on a first date is admirable but that coat thing is taking it too far (unless you're dating the Queen of England). Just give the woman a piggyback over the puddle if she's too lasy to walk that extra bit..

Answer 6

Yes they do, because such manner suggest that male is well tailored to serve his only purpose to be servant for a 'lady'.
This indoctrination instill mother with the help of society (slaves are broadly welcome) for her Small Plans.
Unfortunately mother almost never enjoy the results of her effort. Young bride will (an society).That's why mother and bride never co-operate (except in case when son has offended females).For more info refer to Manipulated Man by Esther Vilar or Predatory Female by Shannon Lawrence (and personal experience).For young and brave otherwise stay away.Best regards

Answer 7

Apart from the coat over a puddle, Sir Walter, I would expect nothing less!

Answer 8

Sure. As long as you've got lots of money, great sexual skills and endurance, are extremely good looking and willing to give them whatever they want whenever they want it.

But laying your coat over a puddle might turn them off.

Answer 9

Absolutely

Answer 10

don't like this
who open doors, lay their coat over a puddle

do like guys who
dont shag on the first night