pls help me...need ur suggessions?

Question

hi, i am a 27 yr old married man from past few months.My wife is 24 yrs old.I am very lucky to get her as my wife.She is a nice girl and we respect eachother a lot.i love her a lot and i know that she too loves me.But my problem is she is too shy in bed and does not co-operate me to fulfill my sexual desires.She tries to hide herself too much when i kiss her and i find her shivering when i hug her and try to make love to her . She does not complain or tells anything about her problem . I have a feeling that she is too shy and scared to discuss about that.but somehow i want her to make her feel happy and comfortable with me in bed.I am really worried about how can i make her ready so that i can enter her.( i am very much big made compared to her...is it because of that)I am sure that she do not have any bad sexual experiance before our marriage . Pls reply me with decent answers and help me to overcome her problem

Answer 1

This is really a genuine concern!First she seems not to be shy, but fears having sex with you. You having a big manhood can be one of the reasons she is shying away from you. You have to be patient with her, GO SLOW! Show her some movies (porn), watch them with her, this will help her to see that penetration is possible, and that the pain eventually becomes pleasure!

The solution to this problem will depend on your patience. If you really have love for her, coupled with the patience, take it from a man like you she will love it and love you more for that.

One last advice, let her enjoy sex through foreplay. The stimulation of her body will override the pain she gets. She will feel pain after sex, not during sex.

Hope this helps you, enjoy sex!

Answer 2

1) You need to talk about this & get it out in the open.
2) Instead of getting sexual, try simply getting intimate for a while. Give her long, full body massages. Go buy some massage lotion. Light a few scented candles & put some instrumental music on to help set the mood. Just rub her back; her arms & legs; her shoulders; her hands & feet; her face. Go slow, but firm. Ask her to let you know what feels good to her, & when she tells you...stay longer on those areas.
This will develop intimacy without being sexual, & may help her relax. It is a great 'ice breaker', & is also a good stress reliever. 3) After the massage, simply go to sleep in the nude.
All the body contact is very satisfying.
4) Another suggestion is, buy a book called "Love Languages". It has helped many relationships develop further.

Answer 3

Take thing easy with her I know it is going to get frustrating for you but only go as far as she is comfortable with and work your way up from there (no pun inteneded) she seems to lack confidence in the bed room and mayby doing this may help her, make sure you let her know how attractive you find her outside the bedroom, not in a sexual way but by touch and comments like how her hair falls a certain way or something you find cute about her,

touch her on the shoulders gently give her a little massage if you want to make love to her, that night start early even a kiss on the neck and work your up through the afternoon to the night but make sure you do it all the time without expecting sex all the time. Otherwise she may hate the thought of you touching her if she knows you want sex.

Good luck to you on this one.

Answer 4

A lot of women are a little nervous and shy when it comes to sex, and if you are well endowed then that just makes it even worse. I think that you should be very gentle with her and move very slowly. Women respond to touch. If she is too shy to tell you what she wants, encourage her to show you. If she feels like everything is ok, she will loosen up, and a little lube never hurts either. I feel certain that everything will work out, hope this helps

Answer 5

She sounds partially FRIGID> - She is inhibited & shy, too. You need to speak to her candidly and ask her if she loves you - then to submit to your manhood. Tell her how much you want to be inside her. Use plenty of lubricant. Go slow - but tell her you are suffering & need release & need it badly. let her know that she is causing you to suffer & if worse comes to worse, you might stray.

Also - very beneficial is to have her MOTHER or SISTER talk to her and try to reassure her about sex. She is a virgin, had no men before marriage, and now is having trouble making the transition from single virgin to MARRIED WIFE. She need to be spoken to - & counselled by mother or sisters or family, somehow.

Ask her constantly if she loves you & desires you as you desire her. don't ignore this matter. Her job as wife is to please &satisfy husband - tell her you feel hurt & sad that she does not give you what you need - a wife's affection. depending what her religion is , let her get visit from an imam, a rabbi, a Hindu priest, whatever. but the best would be her MOTHER - even if it can only be a phone call from India or Pakistan or wherever.

Try what I suggested & see what happens. let me know how results are. I wish you the best.

Answer 6

I can only suggest that maybe she has a self esteem problem or that maybe she has been sexually assulted before. Try to sit and talk to her and show her that you are very compassionate and you are not going to hurt her and that you love her and want to help her grow within the marriage whether it be emotionally, physically or sexually. I hope everything works out and good luck.

Answer 7

each physique thinks i glance older than i quite am! some years returned, while i became 10, the lady at Sears provided me a discount for a loose espresso which became for 15+ and he or she became like "Are you 15??" XD when I went to a toddler bathe each physique concept i became a minimum of in my young people while i became 11... unusual. i'm hoping people do no longer think of i glance older while i'm 40 or some thing! X_X

Answer 8

Use reverse psychology for awhile. Pretend you are completely and utterly uninterested in her physically. If she becomes angry then you will at least know if she wants you to come on to her. I don't know, this might cause more problems than it would solve. Use your own judgement on this. You wouldn't want her to think you were upset, this could isolate her more emotionally.