hi, i am a 27 yr old married man from past few months.My wife is 24 yrs old.I am very lucky to get her as my wife.She is a nice girl and we respect eachother a lot.i love her a lot and i know that she too loves me.But my problem is she is too shy in bed and does not co-operate me to fulfill my sexual desires.She tries to hide herself too much when i kiss her and i find her shivering when i hug her and try to make love to her . She does not complain or tells anything about her problem . I have a feeling that she is too shy and scared to discuss about that.but somehow i want her to make her feel happy and comfortable with me in bed.I am really worried about how can i make her ready so that i can enter her.I am sure that she do not have any bad sexual experiance before our marriage . Pls reply me with decent answers and help me to overcome her problem
2006-10-22 22:08:41 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell her how you feel. Also it may help to give her compliments bc she may not feel like she is sexy enough for you. Tell her she is beautiful and tell her what you like about her. If it still doesn't work maybe you can suggest that both of you see sex therapist or something.
2006-10-22 22:17:55 · answer #1 · answered by BJTD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said that you know she did not have any bad sexual things happen to her before you got married. but the thing is, this is exactly what it sounds like is going on. although we would like to believe that we know everything about our partner. the truth is know one knows everything. although she may love you very much, something like that is very hard to tell anyone, even more so when it comes to the person that you love. because they are afraid that once their partner finds out they will reject them. I'm sorry but this has been proven over and over again. why not ask her, if there is something you are doing that bothers her, or if there is anyway you can make her feel more comfortable. don't ask her if she had some kind of bad happen to her. because if she has she is just not ready to talk about it. assure her that you love her and that she can tell you anything. most of all be patient with her, take things slow.as i said with the way she is acting i really believe that this is whats going on.
2006-10-22 22:26:32 · answer #2 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Friend, this is a psychiatric problem. She might have developed some fear against it and the same is deep imprinted in her subconscious. Believe me this a cureable. There are medication available for the treatment. Please visit your Doctor urgently. I pray for a normal healthy life for both of you.
2006-10-22 22:16:34 · answer #3 · answered by Abhijit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use alternatives, your a man and you have to know what things to spice up your partner, try to caress her but dont go for sex.... time will come that she will give you the very best of her. All you have to do is to wake her sexual desire and it takes time. I dont have to explain it literally, you know what i mean...
2006-10-22 22:39:21 · answer #4 · answered by Balbonix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know your nationality, it is not common in UK, US etc., but it is common in Indian christians, because they have been told that sex is violations of chritian norms, I have divorced my lady for the same reason.
2006-10-22 22:16:28 · answer #5 · answered by Devaraj A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried to talk to her about this?
sounds to me like a bad past relationship, the only thing i can say is talk to her, get her to open up her feelings to you, then you will truly know.
2006-10-22 22:15:30 · answer #6 · answered by amethyst2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a glass of wine before evening meal
2006-10-22 23:41:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋