ok, well i was in a great relationship for two years with the girl of my dreams i'm 23 she is 22, about a month ago we got into a really bad fight and she decided that she wanted a break from the whole thing and needed some space I messed up and didnt give it to her and didnt respect what she asked, and about two to three weeks ago we met up and stuff happened, and she said she was still confused and all. last week we talked and she said she was considering getting back together untill one of my friends talked to her and was talking to him about everything and she was really mad and upset that i shared with him that we had sex and now she wants absolutely nothing to do with me and she is saying that it's over because i shouldnt have told him we had sex and i didnt. i know nothing is going on withher or anybody else and she says she still really loves me and that if we were meant to be it will happen just not now!!?? please help me i love her so much and we were so perfect together
2006-10-22 22:06:17 · 11 answers · asked by digdoggy299 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She never told me not to mention anyting that we had sex together either, she told me that she expected me not to mention that to anybody. and she's saying that if that never happened she would have probably come back to me, but now she saying it definately over and she wants nothing to do with me. Is there any chance she'd come back she says she still loves me and if it was meant to be it will happen please help i love her so much and feel like my whole world is crumbling apart.
2006-10-22 22:08:04 · update #1
noo i had sex with my ex but i told my best friend about it for some advice he's a guy and he saw her a couple days ago and was telling her to make up her mind and stop playing with my head and she's all upset at me for telling him what happened between me and her
2006-10-22 22:13:04 · update #2
Yeah I apologized to her for everything wrong that I did, she doesnt even want to talk on phone at all or even see me now after all this......But im hoping now that I will be out of her life possibly she will come around i'm just hoping it's not to late is all and that I still have a chance
2006-10-22 22:25:51 · update #3
Hey mate....1stly i'm the same age so i can relate... 2ndly just broke up with my lady... not my choice but she had issues she needed to sort out. It broke me... and it hurts like all hell.
the only advise i can offer is write a nletter explaining how you feel, what went wrong. be honest. then give her, her space. walk away graceful!... if you carry on pushing the situation you gonna push her away even more.
TRUST ME!
Let her find out what she wants. it might hurt but you have to do it! in the mean time find a hobby to keep your mind off of her, drinking and going out will only cause more problems. besides don't give her anymore ammo.
oh yeah your friend... shouldn't have done what he did... if they are seeing alot of each other... i would start to worry!
after 2 years it hard for people to let go so she'll come back...
just try to always be understanding...
2006-10-22 22:21:16 · answer #1 · answered by mikhail_luh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, i hate to bust your bubble but it sounds like she's looking for an easy way out. I know it sucks to hear that, but look at it this way. If she really loved you that much and the relationship was perfect, why would she give it up because you told someone about the two of you having sex? I'm not trying to break you down or anything just tryin to give you a different perspective. She's also probably freaked out that she's hitting the age range for marriage, girls get jittery then. They jump in and out of relationships all the time. And if she's 22 you were still dating her when she started hitting the bar scene probably, and she's also probably never done that while being single. Everybody wants to do that once before they get tied down. Maybe I'm just rambling
But if you want something to try, just talk to her. Apologize even though it isn't really necessary. Everyone is human, nobody is perfect, we all make mistakes. If she truly loves you, she'll be willing to work with you to make the relationship work. Just don't put too much pressure on yourself or the relationship status, you'll only freak yourself out and being stressed won't really help the situation. Hope it helps...best of luck
2006-10-22 22:24:56 · answer #2 · answered by micktobi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babe.. this is a tough call, but let me tell you what I know and see if it helps. First of all, it seems like she has some honesty issues. If she didn't believe you to begin with, when you told her that you didn't tell the friend, well, that's your first problem. Secondly, you should have given her space, but you realize that now, and that's good that you take recognition for that fact. I know how it feels to have met your match, and I like you don't want it to be gone, but mine is. You need to ask her out, make it romantic, yet not overly romantic. You don't want her to feel pressure. Talk to her, be open, don't rush though, don't make her feel as if she has to jump in. Explain that you wanted to take her out to explain that things got out of hand and you do love her, and that you'd never disrespect her in anyway. Tell her you're sorry she feels that you have, and that you'd never do that, you love her. Just take it slow, and ask her to give you a chance. If you love her as much as you say, then you won't let her down.
2006-10-22 22:19:03 · answer #3 · answered by lacymichelle38901 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should do every thing in the world to make your girl knows that you genuinely love her. whatever it is that you may, or may not, have done is secondary to the fact that she loves you and you love her. if you both truly love each other then your love would be the unconditional type where it is very easy to forgive and move on for the betterment of the relationship. you should also understand that a good relationship depends heavily on trust so you should try not to betray that trust. put your heart on paper and send it to her: poetry, letters etc. send her flowers - BEG HER TO RECONSIDER THE SEPARATION - I mean really beg. whatever you come up with to do will indicate to her how much you need her. based on what you are saying you are like useless without her; well pour out your heart through your mouth, through your gifts, through your care. put aside any pride or self conscious way you might have and take yourself to your most human and vulnerable level and then let your love for her dictate your actions. Good luck.
2006-10-22 22:25:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is using the whole sex thing as an excuse not to get back with you. Im sure your friend figured out you guys were haveing sex after two years, even without you mentioning it. Its a lame excuse. I think she just got bored with you and is out doing her own thing. If she really wanted you back she wouldnt be so upset about the sex thing. Think about it. I think you should just move on. Good Luck
2006-10-22 22:19:43 · answer #5 · answered by Baby boy blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's pissed off because you told your friend, give her some time, send her a card saying sorry and leave her alone for a little while. You probably embarrassed her. If she loves you, she'll forgive, but in the future, keep private stuff to yourself.
2006-10-22 22:14:30 · answer #6 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for her and check out and get her to speak to her mothers and fathers... By her speaking to them offers her extra choices on wether or now not she desires to hold it and even adoption she has extra choices now than she is going to later. Her mothers and fathers will uncover out finally simply make certain it isn't to overdue. And be a well pal and check out and support/advisor her to make the offerings she desires and now not what any one "desires" her to do since she am has to manage it afterward in lifestyles it doesn't matter what she comes to a decision... And like the woman earlier than stated her mothers and fathers will develop to the inspiration and sure there is a hazard they are going to free it however the will not hurt her or the little one. So inspire her to make her selections if you want to advantage her eventually.
2016-09-01 01:17:33 · answer #7 · answered by liebermann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs some time to cool off. She's embarrassed and disappointed in you, but I think she will come around. People make mistakes, and you telling your friend about your relations is really no big deal. Apologize, maybe show her this question?
2006-10-22 22:15:30 · answer #8 · answered by bezsenný 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if she really truly loved you, she would forgive you even though she was embarrassed. Did you try telling her you were truly sorry? Even though she never told you not to tell your friend, you might as well apologize and tell her it was wrong to do that. It could help alot. It almost always does with me.
2006-10-22 22:22:20 · answer #9 · answered by Raven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hold on, did u actually have sex with her? cos if u told your mate u did wen you hadn't thats a bit out of order but if you did then i doubt she wouldn't have told her mates!
2006-10-22 22:11:27 · answer #10 · answered by just_a_metaphor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋