We are both 20 years old...we have been married for a year and are having a baby in 2 weeks... All he cares about nowadays are playing Death metal on his guitar with his friends that I dont like, and drinking. We used to be so close.. before his high school friends came back into his life. Our coupled friends dont even like hanging around him anymore because he is so wrapped up in his music. I love him so much and all I want to do is have a happy family but Im starting to get sick of him... I find myself wishing that I could move away from all his young friends and start over in a new place... what do I do?
2006-10-22 21:27:39 · 13 answers · asked by Sarah C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hang in there and hope he will get over this....when wife is expecting men sometimes feel like they are not getting enough attention...this should pass soon, and hopefully for the better....give him some time to grow up some, at age 20 the woman is more mature than the man....if it does not try to move but not so far away from your friends and family, you need them around close, in case hubby acts stupid , family and friends can be more supportive for you and your precious baby....
congrats. to you mommy and God bless....
2006-10-22 21:52:35 · answer #1 · answered by walterknowsall 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
...and you never will. Hate to break it to you like that. You two are still young. Now having this baby will change ALOT! He'll either grow up and take resposibility in helping you raise your child or he won't. My guess is...he won't. I only say that because I have friends in the same situation. And the guy never changes, always the female. And its easy for us to change...were bringing new life into the world and our maternal instincts kick in quick! Just because he is young doesn't give him an excuse to hang out 24/7 but I don't see that changing anytime soon. Frankly you will put up with it until your sick of it. Advice: Don't get caught up in how you want things to be. Focus on what needs to happen for you to acheive your goals. Having a happy family might mean leaving him and raising the child yourself. Never know, you might be happy. But whatever you decide to do just keep in mind you have a child on the way. Whatever direction he takes should make no impact on what you must do as a mother. And I'm not going to sugar coat this: It will be hard! But your going to be alright! Take care sweetie and congrats on your baby. May he/she be healthy for years to come!
2006-10-22 22:03:30 · answer #2 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people will say something about his age and being so young, blah, blah, blah, BUT, so are YOU ! If you can be responsible. so can he. Move on if you have to. DO NOT let this man hold you back. He's not too young to support his family. In fact he is the perfect age to "jump on the bandwagon". I know what this is like. I wasted a lot of time waiting on someone to change. Listen to the old ladies :) (been there, done that) You can go through hell by yourself, you don't need someone making it worse!
2006-10-22 22:16:41 · answer #3 · answered by Scorpius59 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has good taste in music, So he cant be all bad. The only way to stay married is to talk and compromise. Marriage ant for wimps. I don't know how the older people did it 20 ,30 even 70 years. I'm on my third marriage for that very reason, lack of communication. The world is falling apart because the dads aren't at home kids being raised by one parent is very hard on the kid too. Good luck.
2006-10-22 21:47:56 · answer #4 · answered by Dann R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 23:49:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You still have a chance to save your marriage. Moving is the best choice so that you two can start all over. If you stay, it sounds like he wants to have fun now and not worry about his wife & kid. Same thing happened to my friend and now they are seperated. Make sure he knows what is important.
2006-10-22 21:36:10 · answer #6 · answered by Veronica 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what your heart says to do, what do you think you should do? Let him know that you don't like what he's become and want the man you married. You can't change anyone, only they can change themselves.
2006-10-22 22:02:56 · answer #7 · answered by delawaregirl83 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The relationship is over. You (and likely he) are just hanging on now out of habit, or fear of hurting or being hurt. Sorry - but life still has oodles to offer.
2006-10-22 21:34:02 · answer #8 · answered by ericscribener 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You could put up with it.
For his age he seems normal to me.
You just have to wait until he grows out of it.
Perhaps you can gently remind him that the baby is also his responsibility.
2006-10-22 21:50:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know where you are coming from. As we all know you can't change people, all you can do is talk to him about the problems you're having with him.
2006-10-22 21:34:44 · answer #10 · answered by Got Curves? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋