I have asked before to just call so I dont worry, but i think as the hours get later and later he is afraid to call because he knows i will be upset/mad. plus i think he privately likes seeing me upset when he has been out, like it verifies i really do love him or something. he also says that staying home all the time is boring and he needs to socialize to be ok in his life, but why doesn't he at least call? I know he is not a cheater. what other reasons can there be for this selfish behavior, is it even selfish or am the one being selfish for overreacting? he is otherwise a good husband.
2006-10-22 21:24:04 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well, he just came home with his friends in tow, they were playing poker, he really is not a cheater. The excuse for not calling? I did try to call but it didn't go through, when i checked my phone i saw it was on mute. sorry to waste everyone's time with my stupid problem!
2006-10-22 21:43:49 · update #1
Well, MY opinion is this: if you are married *male or female*, you have NO business needs to be going out without your Spouse.
2006-10-22 21:27:48 · answer #1 · answered by BITE ME 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He stays out ALL night. He doesn't call even when you ask him to. He likes it when you're jealous. But, he isn't a cheater. Well, sister he doesn't value his relationship. He doesn't respect you. You are sooo naive. The only reason for selfish behavior is not wanting to consider anybody else. Not a good thing in a marriage. You have my sympathies.
2006-10-23 04:35:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure some men think differently however there really is no excuse to not tell ones spouse where they are going and when they will be home. Sit him down and have a talk with him. Explain how it hurts you to be worrying about him. Hopefully this will cause him to call when hes out.
2006-10-23 05:07:21 · answer #3 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
staying out all night when you're married, is not an option. If he's playing poker with the guys then it's one thing. If he's staying out all night and does it without your prior knowledge, he's into something he shouldn't be.
Tell him that you're not happy with that one area but everything else is good. Ask him to adjust his behavior.
Go from there. It's all any relationship can do. renegotiate the relationship.
2006-10-23 08:08:21 · answer #4 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know that he isn't cheating? My dad was a very wise man and gave the best advice to my sister and I---even when we didn't always listen. I'm older now and I know now that he knew what he was talking about. He always told us that a man doesn't stay out all night unless he's screwing around.
My sister's husband would occasionally stay out all night. He pretty much made the same statements that your husband makes. He always insisted that he was not messing around with any other women. Of course, it was difficult for him to continue this line of bull, when a woman turned up pregnant with his child. DNA testing proved that it was indeed his child.
Years ago, I had a boyfriend, who would stay out all night every month or so. No surprise...he was cheating on me. He's cheating on you. Take it on faith.
2006-10-23 04:39:59 · answer #5 · answered by maggiebridget09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not being selfish, he could at least call to let you know he's alright or see if you need anything. Do you have children? If so you need to be able to contact him. Where is he going all night long and is it really necessary?
2006-10-23 04:29:12 · answer #6 · answered by Got Curves? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear aren't they all from Mars.My hubby is quite the same sort if not worst coz he can be overseas and not call me untill up to 5 days...or so.Well...I know his job is very demanding...but can't help being upset at times. But when he does call or comes back from his trips...he makes up for all the frustrations he caused me.Then it repeats again. I guess his love for me and my love for him makes it bearable.I am still trying to keep myself occupied with other things instead of feeling miserable. For example...answering you. He is now in overseas...left on Friday...I'm still waiting for his call.....
2006-10-23 04:52:41 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs JP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello . let me think about this one . my man.will occasionally go out -all night long . and you know hes not a cheater . you better wake up. they don't stay out all night . for no reason . that's a bunch of bull.
2006-10-23 04:37:11 · answer #8 · answered by tia c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A married man should not be out all night.You keep putting up with it and you will be a divorced woman.
2006-10-23 08:36:13 · answer #9 · answered by nanny2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it's your turn for an 'all nighter' whats good for the goose is good for the gander!
2006-10-23 04:27:03 · answer #10 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋