Please help im desperate here and really hurt!!!!?

Question

ok, well i was in a great relationship for two years with the girl of my dreams i'm 23 she is 22, about a month ago we got into a really bad fight and she decided that she wanted a break from the whole thing and needed some space I messed up and didnt give it to her and didnt respect what she asked, and about two to three weeks ago we met up and stuff happened, and she said she was still confused and all. last week we talked and she said she was considering getting back together untill one of my friends talked to her and was talking to him about everything and she was really mad and upset that i shared with him that we had sex and now she wants absolutely nothing to do with me and she is saying that it's over because i shouldnt have told him we had sex and i didnt. i know nothing is going on withher or anybody else and she says she still really loves me and that if we were meant to be it will happen just not now!!?? please help me i love her so much and we were so perfect together

She is saying everything is so hard for her and that breaking up is so hard for her to but when I saw her its like she had no emotions towards me at all, but she says she still loves me and always will....maybe if i just give her that space now maybe she'll realize what she is losing and possibly come back? or is it too late

well here's the thing she never told me not to tell anyone we had sex..she just assumed i wouldnt, she was mostly upset that i didnt respect the whole space issue and me not leaving her alone

Answer 1

hi there .....what a mess but this could sort its self out if you are prepared to let things cool down a lot you went and told youre mate all about youre relationship ,up to the point that you said about sex .....NO woman likes that talked about to any man we like to think that ,that is just between you and her ....in this case ,the space thing why did you not listen to her ?all she wanted was a bit of space to sort out her feelings and you refuse to listen being really straight id have told you to ***koff and that would have been that ........but this lady has a lot of feeling for you which i dont think you took into consideration and you really seem to be the kind of guy that thinks its youre way or no way .......(if im wrong on this then sorry !!)but you wouldnt listen if you are really in love with this lady then you have a hell of a lot of ground to cover and a lot of listening to do,and give her space but why dont you ask her when she's ready to meet up for a drink and a talk and see how the land lies if this is meant to work then nothing in this world will stop it ......but you and this lady have to want this to work and it has to be 50 -50 and nothing less and in future do youre self a favour dont talk about youre relationship to a mate that is more than likely to repeat it back to the g/f it gets right up our nose and you end up in the dog house ........good luck with this i hope it works out for both of you .....take care xx

Answer 2

I think if there is true love its never too late. Even if you did tell your friend you guys had sex she shouldn't be so ashamed by it she breaks up with you. I understand being mad at you because she asked you to do something and you didn't in a relationship there has to be trust and if you did tell your friend then you broke that trust. If you really think you can be trust worthy to her then talk to your friend, if he is your friend he will tell your ex the truth. Explain to your ex why you said the things you did to him. Sexual things happen in every relationship It isn't something that can be kept from people. We all know it happens so we will assume no matter what. Tell her everything if she doesn't come around then it might not have been met to be. She sounds a little ashamed. good luck.

Answer 3

It's never easy to leave a relationship of such long standing. Your girlfriend is clearly suffering because of this. She is likely confused about her feelings for you, hence her request for "space" last month. Although she doesn't know what she wants right now, you should not despair. Give her all the time she needs to come to a decision. If you try to force her to choose, she will push you away automatically, making rebuilding your relationship all the harder. She knows how you feel about her and the constancy of your feelings are of great comfort to her. Be steadfast in this matter and in time she will come to realize that your love for her is unshakable and she will be drawn back to it like a moth to the flame.