To my shock, i was told by the doctor that i am pregnant. i told Bogart, my husband's best friend, about the findings & he was, to my surprise, delighted. He told me that from now on, he has "mating rights" on me even though i am married to his friend since I am now carrying his child in my womb. He forced me to make love to him after this news, even though i was practically crying the whole time he was taking me. i told him i love my husband, who is a good person, & that what happened between us was just a one-night mistake that we don't have to repeat like what we just did. He said no, he said that i am now his completely & that my hubby will be a loser or a joke for life as he will make him a total cuckold. I was shocked by his words. What should i do? How can i escape from this problem? How can i tell my husband about all this? Shall i go on with my pregnancy? I want to put order into my life but i just don't know where to start. Please advice me, i really need it. Thanks a lot...
2006-10-22 20:57:19 · 21 answers · asked by Kate R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hello....Jerry Springer?
2006-10-22 21:20:20 · answer #1 · answered by Moi. 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
you know what girl, I am not even going to judge you because 1. I'm not God and 2. sh_it happens. We obviously have a problem. A big one. Ok though your husband will be hurt, angry, and possibly go crazy I think honesty is the best way to go. There will be reprocussions for your actions ofcourse but thats life honey. You gotta take the good with the bad. We all do not so smart things but we have to face the consequences. Now, I'm sure bad things will result from this. For instance your hubby may not be friends with his pal anymore. You and him will be going through it but if your love and respect for eachother is still there then time will heal the pain. It will take him a long long time for him to get over this but if your marriage vows meant anything to either of you, you should both work this out. Just tell him straight out. "Honey, this is hard for me to say but I slept with Sammy and now I'm pregnant." You also have to consider your feelings for "sammy". Was this just a fling? Has it happened more than once? In my opinion the other guy doesn't seem to be a good "friend" if this is his attitude. How many "friends" are friends after they find out there both bangin the wife? Personally this other guy has got issues also. And it sounds like he wants to control you. Not good. Tell your husband everything. Just get it out now. Living in secrecy is hard trust me! Tell him just what you said here about the guy thinking he has mating rights. This all does depend on how many times you and him have had a fling. Obviously if it only happened once your hubby might be a little more forgiving then if you banged him 10 times. So my advice on the situation: Tell your husband. Yes it is hard and it won't be a pleasant conversation but c'mon, let's face it...its kind of a hard thing to swallow. About the baby. I think that really depends on you sweetie. Now there are options. Abortion. Adoption. Or keep it but I see that option as conflict of intrest between your husband and you. Talk it out and good luck. Stop crying and deal with this. There are worst situations to be in and better ones but you just have to deal. Good luck!
2006-10-22 21:38:35 · answer #2 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We shall not touch on why in the first place did you get pregnant by your husband's best friend.. This is really bad..
1. Go on with the pregnancy have the child.
2. You can tell you're husband but I don't think it's advisable.
He would go wild and could hurt you.
3. Tell Bogart that you don't want to see him anymore, avoid him
at all cost. Maybe you could move away from that place.
4. Love the baby
5. Pray and pray hard
God bless you..
2006-10-22 21:07:25 · answer #3 · answered by Ai 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should not have cheated. that was wrong and you should have known better. but whats done is done. the right thing to do is tell your husband the entire truth and beg for forgiveness. then tell Bogart to get lost and never come back. to continue the pregnancy is a choice both you and you husband have to make and no one can tell you otherwise( especially that toss). if you keep it both of you will always be reminded of your mistake. if you terminate it you are killing a young life. you have many choices to make and as long as you dont try to cover it by lying you should be ok. just be more responseable next time.
2006-10-22 21:12:40 · answer #4 · answered by evil Hesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the earliest possible time , goto the hospital and ask to be sterilized. You need to remove any chance that you will have offsprings that are as brain damaged as you are. If it is possible provide proof of your unfaithful actions to your husband and request that you need a divorce and that he can have everything. Then make sure that you list the real fathers name on the birth certificate and check yourself into a mental institution because you are obviously unfit to care for a child or yourself. Next have your soon to be Ex-Husband file charges against the man who obviously "Raped a Mentally retarded Adult" and have him thrown in jail.
2006-10-22 21:22:13 · answer #5 · answered by Raj T 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How do you KNOW its his pals for sure? And no, it is NOT right for him to claim mating rights, under ANY circumstances. Come clean totally to your husband. If he leaves you or won't help, get a restraining order on your hubbys (so called) pal.
2006-10-22 21:32:44 · answer #6 · answered by Stephanie B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this even a serious question? If so, then all I can say is u have bigger problems than anyone here can give u advice for. U need professional help.
2006-10-22 21:10:23 · answer #7 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 07:12:10 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so wrong in so many ways. How long did it take you to come up with this question? Or rather questions. Get a life, just not that one..lol.
2006-10-22 23:07:14 · answer #9 · answered by Jan G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if I were you I would tell my husband and beg for his forgiveness and then he kick his "friends" a**! and what that loser is trying to do is blackmail, which is a crime, don't be a victim
2006-10-23 00:05:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋