The reason I ask this here is because I just saw some online pictures of my sister that I dislike very much because she is showing too much skin. Even though she is not a minor I feel I should do something or at least say something because it makes her appear easy and she is very smart and beautiful. I just do not want to hurt her feelings but want to reassure her that she is attracting the wrong type of attention.
2006-10-22 20:41:21 · 16 answers · asked by Lin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
How is my sister not my business? I am not trying to be mean or disrespectful....I just want her to cover herself a bit more or at least online.
2006-10-22 20:46:58 · update #1
***I meant to reassure her AND tell her that she is attracting the wrong type of attention.
2006-10-22 20:48:58 · update #2
you can compliment her and accept her for who she is and keep your criticism to yourself cause the issue is not her dress it is her self esteem or your values versus hers, either way there is no nice way to do this, be honest and straight forward and let her deal with it if you really must say something but dont be a patronizing beat around the bush type ,this approach is offensive and comes off like you are holier than thou or you think you are better just because you really are not being honest as you are trying to protect her feelings, I am not sugesting you say look I dont like you dressing like a ho, but being direct is the best approach and there is less room for someone else to attach their own emotional or defensive response to a simple direct staement and there is nothing to read into ,just honesty
2006-10-22 20:47:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be too conserned with her low self-esteem issues to actually consider changing the way she dresses. It is most likely that she is doing it to be noticed by members of the opposite sex. Unfortunately you can't direct who notices you unless you only dress that way in a secured enviroment. For example, dress in a short skirt at WALMART and you will attract a different crowd than if you wore it at a Bar in the white collar business district of a major city. Although if you wear it on the street corner on the warehouse district of the same city you may get the wrong type of attention as well. It has been my experience that women fear being alone without the prospect of finding a mate much more than men do. The nurture instinct is breed into you and wanting to attract the right mate to have kids with is a pretty strong drive, you cant help it , just like the desire for the male is to mate with as many females as possible to continue his gene lines has to be taken out of a mans mind through societies teachings.
2006-10-22 21:09:04 · answer #2 · answered by Raj T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're no longer. Everyone feels uncomfortable if someone imitates you to that volume. It seems like your sister sees you as a so much excellent picture that she needs to be. She customarily feels jealous and no more optimistic with you and began copying you. Maybe what she demands is trust. You can praise on what she does and what she has. You may also reproduction what she rather likes. It would possibly influence in an additional quandary. However, it's going to aid either one of you to speak via. Try giving her somewhat bit of recommendation on what is well for "her".
2016-09-01 01:16:55 · answer #3 · answered by liebermann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your sister is smart, she knows what she is doing, and obviously likes the attention she is getting. I understand how you feel, but I don't think there is anything that you can say that will change what she does, because she doesn't have the same beliefs as you. It would be like having her try to convince you to do the same thing, you wouldn't because you don't think it's right. Obviously, she does.
2006-10-22 21:06:51 · answer #4 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly? Not much. It's her body and I'm assuming you don't buy her clothes. Just try to accept her tastes. Apparently, she feels comfortable in her outfits.
However, I must say that it used to embarrass me tremendously, when my sister would show up at a wedding, funeral, or family reunion in a costume that looked like she bought it at a Vegas showgirl rummage sale.
I, personally, thinks that she looks ridiculous, especially since she is now 42-years-old and doesn't have the body she had at 23. But, it's her life.
2006-10-22 21:16:10 · answer #5 · answered by maggiebridget09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is your sister you can go and tell her that its not good. Her feelings wont get hurt if u try to explain her that she is attracting wrong type of attention.
Still if u dont wanna tell her by urself then send her an anonymous note.
2006-10-22 20:49:55 · answer #6 · answered by diab0lic_blasph3my 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This trend baby! Let her enjoying the age. Once she is grown up,she will learn the reality.
Although, you should say her that exposure on Internet may spoil her future.
2006-10-22 20:46:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anthocyanin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her personally the reason why you don't like the way she dress up...anyway she's your sister and you're telling her the best thing that you think is right for her (NO HURT FEELINGS)
2006-10-22 20:46:52 · answer #8 · answered by warmhearted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her know that you have seen her photos on the internnet and she will understand the message
2006-10-22 21:24:54 · answer #9 · answered by Hisham 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her shopping so you have more of a say into the cloths that she buys
2006-10-22 20:48:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋