My friend has never said no to me when I asked for help and that is the way A friendship should be ......But my friend is 23 weeks pregnant And she wants to get an abortion because she broke up with her Fiance and Asked me for the money ........I feel I am helping her Murder Don't get me Wrong I am Pro Choice But 22 weeks is very far along ....I would only agree that is was not murder if the mothers life was in jeopardy ....But my friend is healthy
If I say no than that would mean I am not loyal to her as she to me because she has always been there for me
So I can't say No But does that mean I am part of the murder or Its not my problem where the money is going
Please note that you can get an Abortion up to 24 weeks at some clinics
2006-10-22 20:37:34 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hi. boy, you got a lot of answers to this one didn't you. It's obvious you care very much about your friend and want to help her. If you don't give her the money, could she find it somewhere else? Probably. Right now your friend is really hurting, the guy she loves doesn't love her any more. bummer. their love produced a kid. Tough on a single girl. tougher on the kid.
the kid may grow up with a hard life. it's got a rough beginning and it aint even born yet. she might lose it in childbirth. that's rough too. but then again, if given the right chance, that kid might be her mom's salvation. you gotta change when you're a parent. you can't sleep around, you gotta get up and change their diapers, and love em when their sick and stay up and pray for them when their out on dates. it's a lot of work. being single is a lot easier. sorta. if youre single you got no attachments.
but then again, we were sorta made for attachments like friends, and kids and being there for people.
that kid might be just what your friend needs to help her though this tough time. If she kills it it will haunt her till she dies.
sometimes kids haunt you too, but for the most part, it's a good haunt. My mom had me when she was young and not married.
she put me up for adoption. some really nice people addopted me and gave me a home, and love. Now I got a home and 4 of my own.
You gotta do what you think is right and the hell with everything else. you gotta be your friend's friend but you cannot go against what you know is right. sometimes saying no is better than saying yes. Peace out dudette.
2006-10-23 08:27:04 · answer #1 · answered by frankiechocolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know you shouldn't and you don't want to so don't do it. If you allow this you will regret this for the rest of your life.There are alternatives to abortion. She is being selfish and trying to manipulate you into feeling guilty. It doesn't matter whether she has or hasn't ever said no to you. You two are not bartering favors here. There is too much at stake! She has a lot of nerve putting you in the middle of this. Of all the stupid hair brained reasons. Breaking up with her fiance. What a load of bull****! And where is the father in all this? This guy needs to step up to his responsibilities-pronto. He can't just walk off now. He needs to be in on this so go find him.
Loyalty is not an issue here. You can still be there for her. And you will too. But there is no way you should even consider spending this kind of money on such a frivolous irresponsible action. This smacks in the face of anything sane and rational. Now is a time when you can, and must, say no to her. So here it is. She needs to accept the fact that having this child is going to happen. There are no other options.
2006-10-23 04:33:45 · answer #2 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT LOAN YOUR FRIEND MONEY FOR THIS, DON'T DO IT! I am pro-choice too, but I would never, ever help someone get an abortion that was this far along. By asking this question, you are obviously at a cross-road, I'm not gonna get all biblical, cause I'm not religious, however, I do believe that the guilt will torment you if you help her do this. Do you have any idea what they actually do in late term abortions? I won't say, but it's horrible. I think before your friend makes this decision, she needs to really know what she's doing. Anyway, that's beside the point, you obviously don't feel right about this, don't lend her the money!
2006-10-23 03:45:40 · answer #3 · answered by Kerry 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Listen to what your conscious is telling you. Obviously you would not do this yourself so why provide the money for her to do it. You would be the one to feel guilt or remorse. I can't imagine carrying a living thing inside of me that long and then killing it. To each his own and all. I personally would have no part in it. I would also reevaluate my friendship with this person. Just because things didn't work out with her and some loser doesn't mean an innocent child should have to pay the consequences. Hey don't get me wrong people want abortions, its their bodies, do what they want as far as I care. This woman has carried this child 23wks tho. Come on for Christ sake, she should go ahead and deliver it and give it to a loving couple who will give it a good home. When does the selfishness end. Sorry, that's just a long way into a pregnancy to be changing ones mind. Glad it bothers you, the fact that it doesn't bother your friend should worry you. Peace2U.
2006-10-23 03:54:15 · answer #4 · answered by psykobarbi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just say NO!!!
And you might struggle with this and feel quilt for years. I haven't met one person yet who is glad they had the abortion. I was a nurse.
So what if her bf is gone, there are tons of families that can't have children who would adopt a child. I adopted my daughter as a newborn and she is the love of my life.
When a spern and egg join they are the blueprints for a person....to me that is the moment that a baby is a person and that is murder. I do understand that there are some reasons for abortions.........but not becuase the bf is gone.
Anyone who has SEX needs to be prepared to be a parent.......no matter what birth control they use.
Just say NO
2006-10-23 04:38:43 · answer #5 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that saddens me so badly.....it isn't just a size of a pea, it has hands and eyes, and feet, and a heart, and a nose and a mouth, and finger nails, it isn't just an organism that sperm and egg are separating to form a fetus, it is virtually a baby now...oh god please don't do it!...and I am pro choice as well, but can't for the life of me understand how a doctor could proform that procedure on what is so close to being a baby...and why it is legal except if the baby is deformed in such a way that life would be horrible, there are extreme cases I have seen on tv, or if the mother was going to die. Please don't lend her the money......
2006-10-23 04:11:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
THIS TERMINATION CAN ONLY CAUSE SADNESS. You and your friend will share some guilt over oborting the baby.
Your friend could make someones day by offering the baby for adoption.
Her hormones are crazy at the moment and she may make a big mistake about abortion..
What if the baby could be an Einstein and developes a cure for AIDS or some other world changing thing.
2006-10-28 19:51:41 · answer #7 · answered by dragon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am pro choice but that is an advanced stage abortion. Why is she leaving this so late? Is it something that she just decided and might regret next month?
She is putting you in a difficult position that speaks against your inner voice. It does not matter what others think. Its what decision you are comfortable with and I don't think you have to give her money to be loyal.
2006-10-23 03:48:30 · answer #8 · answered by Cdn_Superdave 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
Do not do It, Karma is terrible in this case. Let her figure it out herself, being a firend does not require borrowing money. Simply giving your 2 cents is more than enough. Tell her to look into other options like counseling, she needs to let go of her ex. A baby is a gift from God and she may realize it after baby is born, this may change her life for the better. Tell her to gain her compusure.
CGRZ
2006-10-23 03:46:23 · answer #9 · answered by Gaston73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! It's murder men. you'll be part of the murder. You'll be an accessory to the crime. Even though abortion is legal in your country, it is still against the law. The law of God. The child has the right to live. It is not the child's fault to be inside her womb now.
2006-10-23 03:47:52 · answer #10 · answered by Ronnie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋