I dont have problems meeting women. Infact Ive had a couple girlfriends, and yes a lot of opportunity to have sex. The problem is I havent taken them. Ive been brought up catholic, and think premartial sex is dirty, and subconsciously define the act of "sex" as with exclusive between a man and a woman. I bring this up because I dont have problems getting oral sex from men. For me, Im just having fun and not participating in it.. (SAD, and Illogical, but thats how I think of it) Ive had oral sex from women as well. Both I find good but its very easy to find a gay dude whos willing to do the deed. Also, with the STDs these days, its almost a life and death situation who youd sleep with. Believe me I tried hard to fix my way of thinking but its hard to go against your grain. So im wondering if all this mental inhibitions in my mind would turn me gay soon. What do you think? I dont mean any offense to any gay person. Im just asking for advice. thanks!
2006-10-22 19:50:27 · 10 answers · asked by dustin m 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I understand exactly where you are coming from.
I remember analyzing my feelings on this topic and wondering the same things.
I think my generation was the first
I thought of women as the romantic relationships and men as the place to go for sexual release
There are a few points I would like to make. Oral sex is sex. STDs can and are transmitted from people performing oral to those receiving.
There is such a thing as bisexual people who can and will have sexual/romantic relationships with either gender. They will most often choose one or the other to have a long term committed relationship.
There is no way and no mental inhibitions that can "turn you gay." The fact is, you are not straight. A straight man does not actively seek out other men for oral sex. No matter what you tell yourself to make yourself feel better about the choices you make,
You will not "turn gay." You may find that more of you than you suspected is homosexual. You may also find out that separating sex from love... just for fun... twists your mind and makes it very difficult to engage in a long term, loving relationship with either gender.
Having sex isn't only intercourse. Most sexual activity doesn't require anal or vaginal penetration by a p e n i s. It is all still sex. Sex is best enjoyed within a committed, loving relationship as an expression of trust and admiration.
When you start to divide it all up, you begin a process that can lead to horrible sexual/emotional dysfunction. By telling yourself that it's something you aren't actually doing, because it is the other dude that is being gay, you are already heading down that slippery slope. The line between right and wrong starts to fade and you find yourself doing things that you would have never dreamed you could.
Where do you find these "gay" guys willing to do the deed? Bathrooms, parks, XXX bookstores? Having a stranger suck you off is just as wrong as having intercourse with your girlfriend. If it is happening in public places, you already have a problem.
2006-10-23 02:23:55 · answer #1 · answered by Dustin Lochart 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound more bisexual to me, if anything, or a straight guy doing some experimenting. I don't think all the mental anguish in the world can 'turn' anyone gay (or straight, for that matter). People are probably born with those kinds of predilections.
2006-10-22 19:54:47 · answer #2 · answered by funnyrob01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the act of accepting oral sex from men makes you gay, dear!
2006-10-22 19:52:13 · answer #3 · answered by Trinity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u don't have mental inhibitions. u just have to meet the right mate. that may take some time, but it will definitely take place.
just hope ur wife has the same attitude towards casual oral sex.
2006-10-22 19:54:27 · answer #4 · answered by slmanl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound like you think receiving oral will keep you safe from disease.. it will NOT. You are Catholic and think sex before marriage is wrong but sex with a guy is ok? Dude you need to rethink... Oral sex giving OR receiving is sex... sex with same sex is forbidden by God... He made Adam & Eve NOT Adam & Steve.
Im not judging.. just the facts as your bible says it... so no backlash from anyone Gay or Lesbian please. God loves everyone... he just hates the sin. Sin is sin.., adultry, premarriage sex, same-sex sex, murder, alcholism, drugs, food to the point obesity... all the same to God
In my honest opinion... I think your attitude could force you into just liking men because you dont see anything wrong with receiving oral from a dude.
2006-10-22 19:59:47 · answer #5 · answered by sweetsal 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
you can be anything along the spectrum of human sexuality you want to be.
Enjoy what you enjoy and don't worry about the labels.
BTW, you CAN get STDs from a BJ, so use a (un-lubricated) condom.
2006-10-22 19:54:32 · answer #6 · answered by Mac Momma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have some really issues...that cannot be answered in here....You need to seek professional help...and not from a priest...that is where your problems began...
2006-10-22 21:03:30 · answer #7 · answered by M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion this can turn you to be one of us (gay and proud). remember it's pleasurable. any act that has pleasure with it will make a person be reinforced to do the deed again and again making you more vulnerable to it's flaws or disadvantages. control yourself.
2006-10-22 22:28:26 · answer #8 · answered by ken e 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't really be turned gay. You either are or aren't. It sounds like you might be bi though.
2006-10-22 19:52:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's sad. you should be getting as much sex as possible. it's too much fun to miss out on
2006-10-22 20:17:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋