She has put on a lot of weight in the last year. She used to be thin, but now she has gained about 50lbs. and looks very unhealthy. I know that weight is a very sensitive subject and I don't want to upset her so I don't know what to do.
2006-10-22 19:49:10 · 14 answers · asked by atzi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I agree with you. Weight is a touchy subject with most people. If you are really close to her, you should be able to tell her anything. But ease into the conversation. Don't just tell her she's putting on a lot of weight.
2006-10-22 19:53:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With the large amount of weigt that your friend has put on, I must agree that there's an issue here. I have a feeling that it isn't as simple as her not keeping track of what she's eating. There's really a lot of things to consider.
Take a step back and look at the person that your friend is right now. Does she seem sad or out of place with herself? If so, try to ask her how she's been feeling, if everyone is treating her right... that might be the heart of the issue. Once those questions are out of the way, you can move on to the more trivial elements, like her weight.
Your friend also may be at a changing point in her life-- I don't know how old she is, but when some women I've known have become mothers or are going through a comparable amount of stress with a job, they tend to lose track of things in their minds and in turn lose track of their bodies.
The best thing you can do is to let her know that you think she's a great person, and that you want her to be healthy and feel beautiful... you don't necessarily have to say it with words, either.
2006-10-23 03:04:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should say anything, but ask if she's been feeling alright. Sometimes depression or medication makes a person gain weight. Offer to take walks or go running with her. Join a team through the park district or fitness class. Don't just tell her to go, make sure she knows that she has your support.
2006-10-23 02:54:17 · answer #3 · answered by Daisy Crockett 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many of us battle weight problems, unless your friend brings up the subject of her weight gain, leave the issue alone, unless you want to risk losing a friend. I understand you are concerned because you love her, but if you REALLY love her, you'll wait until she brings up this highly volatile issue. Good luck to you both.
2006-10-23 02:57:19 · answer #4 · answered by Daydream Believer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since she is your friend, just go ahead and tell her. Make her understand the disadvantages and health hazards of being sick. Tell her that as a good friend of hers, you are really concerned about her health. I am sure she would understand.
2006-10-23 02:53:56 · answer #5 · answered by Meena Ganesan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just suggest excersising w. her like running everyday around the school track or something.
2006-10-23 02:50:57 · answer #6 · answered by Heat seeking missile 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk with your friend. If you two are Really friends she will understand your concerns.
2006-10-23 02:54:44 · answer #7 · answered by Kimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gently tell her that you are concerned for her health but that you hesitated to tell her because you didn't want to hurt her.
2006-10-23 03:27:40 · answer #8 · answered by ItalianRose29 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe go to the gym with her. Ask her to come with you not you go with her so then she thinks that you need her. Tell her YOU need the support
2006-10-23 03:52:50 · answer #9 · answered by sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take up an activity with her that you both will enjoy and stick with
2006-10-23 02:52:04 · answer #10 · answered by Cdn_Superdave 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋