is this considered neglect?

Question

my friend had an abortion 6 months ago.
her mom forced her into it,
dragged her into the clinic.

ever since,
all my friend does is cry.
she drinks excessively,
cuts herself,
wants to kill herself,
runs around drunk asking about her aborted son.

her mom just sits there,
tell her to stop crying,
that she has nothing to cry about.
she is pretending nothing has happened.

she knows what my friend is doing to herself,
yet does nothing.

is this considered neglect?
i want to help my friend,
and if that means calling CPS,
i will.

i just want to be sure before i call that it is neglect or at least mental and/or emotional abuse

Answer 1

How sad! I don't think it would hurt to call them anyway, but I don't think they can do anything about it. This happens every day unfortunately. They best thing is for her to get into therapy or family therapy.

Answer 2

Yea that is mental abuse and neglect. Does your mom know what is going on? If she doesn't you should consider talking to her, she would know what the laws are in that state or could at least find out. If she is over a certain age CPS might not be able to do anything. also if you are in school, talk to the principal, or a counselor, your friend needs some professional help very soon.

Answer 3

the mother didn't go through the procedure, your friend did....calling CPS is not necessarily the answer....it is understandable your friend is having a hard time dealing with what happened...how does she know it was a "son", was this a late term procedure?....If so, the mother is heartless. Assuming your friend is a minor, the mother had her reasons for "dragging" her in there, but if she was completely "dragged" in there, and is a minor, there is a councelor that would have talked to your friend to make sure she wasn't being "forced".....I believe that is against the law, and your friend is just having major regrets....If your friend is a minor, and has access to alcohol, that may be a problem right there. Perhaps the place she had the procedure has someone she can talk to?....very touchy situation....

Answer 4

Wow! Where do you live, I wasn't aware that parents are able to force a child to have an abortion anymore. Anyway, I am not sure if it considered to be neglect maybe you should talk to a counselor at school and founf out what he/she has to say about it. Maybe the counselor can get your friend some help. It seems to me that maybe she needs some type of therapy to deal with the affects of an unwanted abortion. I think that everyone deserves a friend like you, one who truely cares

Answer 5

It's a little of both. Your friend needs councelling for the forced abortion. You could call CPS and they would do an investigation...but yes, not getting her child the help she needs is neglect, but I don't know if CPS would do anything about it. If I were you, I would call...she really needs some help to deal with the issue of loss and grief.

Answer 6

The mother is obviously neglecting the fact that her daughter is screaming for help and all the mother is doing is turning her back. If you are her friend and you care about her and the traumatic experience she just went thorugh you be there for her and maybe tslk to your parents let them know of the situation and see from an adults point of veiw on what can be done to help your friend or even go to a school counsler and maybe not mention her name and see what advice they can give you about helping her in any way good luck and god bless

Answer 7

wowee that is brutal. How old are you? If you're still in school I'd recommend sitting down with a guidance consellor and getting his or her opinion. Otherwise, maybe you could talk to your own mom or another adult and get some advice? If you think there's a high risk that your friend might hurt herself, I would talk to SOMEONE as soon as possible.

PS: THere are a lot of places that offer post-abortion counselling. Look into it, and offer to go with her. But still, like I said, if you have serious concerns, tell someone. You'll be glad you did.

Answer 8

The facts are still not clear. Why the mother forced into abortion? Was the pregnancy unwanted? Any way, the mother cannot force the daughter to consent to abortion? How did the clinic that did the operation, do it without her consent? It is illegal to do abortion, without the consent of the prospective mother. Consider all the facts before doing any thing futher.

Answer 9

depends on how old your friend is.
if your friends mum is not doing anything to help her , eg taking her to psych or even calling a psych, it may well be considered neglect. as the mother is not providing adequate care.
however most child protection agencies will not get involved with older teenagers as if the parents cant control their teens child protection organisations definatley cant.
id just be a friend to your friend. and maybe even offer to go to counselling with her. She'll appreciate that more than calling child protection on her family.
Although if you have serious belief being in her home is more detrimental to her you should call.

Good Luck

Answer 10

I don't know if this would justify as neglect, but your friend seriously needs to talk to someone. I'm assuming the drinking and cutting is new or has escalated. If calling the department of children and family services will get your friend the help she needs then do it. That should be your highest priority.

Answer 11

I'm not sure if it's called abuse but she is having horrid problems from being forced to have the abortion. Good for you for wanting to help your friend. Be there as much as possible for her. If her mom won't help her, then I think you would be the best help for her. Talk to someone you trust and get that poor gal into counseling before she does something tragic!