Why do I suddenly feel the need to be mean and hateful to people that have been nothing but nice to me, and have never had one bad thing to say about or to me?
2006-10-22 19:35:07 · 18 answers · asked by You Don't Know My Name 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
There is something you need in your life that you are not getting, and some moments of quiet reflection and writing will bring it out. This appears to be a temporary trait; don't be afraid to immediately apologize to the ones you are biting at - let them know that something is eating away at you right now and you just can't figure out what it is.
Ask yourself if only-----. Write that question over and over again until you get a handle on your dreams and needs. Once you get the core of what is eating away at you figured out, you can set out to resolve it. Ask your people to please be patient with you.
Wouldn't hurt to check out your nutrician and sleep habits, too. You may need to get a few good nights of sleep. It is also possible that you are royally pissed off at something or someone and like a "good girl", keep it all inside. That isn't good for you, for them, or anyone else around you. Speak up. Speak strongly. It doesn't have to become a shouting match, but if it does, so be it. Just make darned sure you are aiming the missle at the right person.
2006-10-22 19:41:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its too difficult to try to guess with just the information you provided (and it is after 4:00 a.m. where I am), but here are a couple of quickie guesses:
There could be something in your life that is just making you irritable and unhappy right now. It doesn't have to be one big thing, it could be a bunch of small things. That, alone, may not necessarily make you want to be mean; although if the other people are not as miserable as you you may wish to bring them down to your level of misery. You could also be a little envious of their lack of misery.
Sometimes people who like who they are and have a certain type of sureness about themselves (even if they don't have the best build or hair or face or income) irk people who don't think they should feel that good. Sometimes, too, people can be envious of those people's sureness/confidence and be mean just based on that envy.
Sometimes, too, if you're in a miserable mood (or even just a rotten-ish one) because of some issue in yourself or your life, you may take advantage of people's niceness by wanting to be mean to them because they're kind of easy targets.
Another thing is if these people are very nice people, and if you have a hint of miserable-ness in your own personality, they may just irk you because you may feel they're being phony in their niceness (which they probably are not). There are people who don't like people who are too nice or too sweet or too cheerful. These people are more cynical people and believe the nice or sweet people are either too stupid to know better or else phony. As a result, there can be a need to be a little mean to them.
Another thing could be that people are nice but underestimating you. That can make anyone mean after a while.
You probably need to sort out whether this is a "need to be mean" or more of an "inability to control your irritability". There is a difference, and you would probably have to be more concerned about the need to be mean than you would a temporary inability to be sunshiny-cheerful and nice all the time. The need to be mean usually comes from some feeling of inadequacy, insecurity, or dissatisfaction a person has about himself or his life or both. It doesn't have to be insecurity about something like one's appearance (although it can be). It can be about one's feelings of being intelligent, one's income, one's educational level, one's political beliefs, anything at all.....
Its nice of you to try to address this issue on here. Obviously, its bothering you. I don't know if anything I've said will hit home at all, but good luck. The fact that you are questionning this thing you've had about being mean shows you'll probably find a way to get past it.
2006-10-23 04:28:54 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about all these chemical imbalance answers.
Most people whether they know it or not have pent up anger waiting to be released. This anger builds over time from anything as petty as your computer not working all the way up to family issues.
This results in you taking your anger out on friends you care about most. One reason for this is you know they will still love you and forgive you. This will usually happen on a subconscious level and you will regret it as soon as it happens.
Just tell them you're sorry.
2006-10-23 02:52:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well there are two forces ... good and evil. Sounds to me like you are influenced by the evil. You cant harbor them both at the same time. Tell it to leave, pray.
We all get cranky, but if you are hurting people than I would definately take a look at what spirit is influencing you and fix it.
Pray, the Lord will help you.
2006-10-23 02:38:50 · answer #4 · answered by SunValleyLife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you are frustrated and you get exausted by people all arround you..what you gotta do is take a deep breath and think that these people have never done anything bad to me..this thing will stop soon.
2006-10-23 04:08:51 · answer #5 · answered by cool k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are probably going through a difficult time in your life. i mean what have happen to you over the past days? maybe it is just stress. i hope u work it out!!! best of luck
2006-10-23 02:39:02 · answer #6 · answered by Nesha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bipolar disorder
2006-10-23 02:56:41 · answer #7 · answered by Freddy F 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nothing's wrong with you... it's just all the chemicals in our body going crazy... especially in our teens!
2006-10-23 02:38:22 · answer #8 · answered by Janji 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your stressed or getting your periods. However it's possible that you are depressed. Have you exhibited any other signs of depression?
2006-10-23 02:37:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. I make it a point to never hold a grudge if I don't absolutly have to (I've never done so with someone I know).
2006-10-23 02:37:08 · answer #10 · answered by Wocka wocka 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋