Married man with a close female friend. Both are attracted to the other, but neither will act on their feelings for fear of hurting the othe people involved. Can this relationship survive?
2006-10-22 19:26:41 · 28 answers · asked by FJ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the man can have the friendship but it will in the end do harm to his marriage. so he would need to figure out which was more important the established relationship with the woman he pledged his love to, or the woman he is attracted to outside of his marriage.
The best way to answer this, is how happy would you be if your wife had a male friend who was very attracted to her, but didn't act on it, and she was very attracted to him but didn't act on it? How comfortable would you be?
2006-10-22 19:29:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
No, of course the relationship will not survive because they lack the trust issue. The female close friend must be stupid to think the married man would treat her any better, and the married man certainly shouldnt have close female friends. The married man needs to be man get a divorce, and the female friend needs to get a reality check.
2006-10-23 02:35:16 · answer #2 · answered by ♪♫♫♪ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Man, are you serious! Your married!!! That means you have made a commitment and you should bide by it! Unless you want to jepordise your marriage and if you dont care about your poor wifes feelings then why not just **** her and get it out of your system. Your attracted to her and she is attracted to you.. do you think the relationship would survive???
I despise men like you! Your lucky your not my husband!
C'mon seriousally.. ur poor wife! She would be so hurt if she only new! If you do feel that strong about your "friend" well i think you atleast need to be true to your wife and leave her befor you do anything!and then she can do the same!
There is a HUGE differance between finding some1 attractive and being attracted to them! Please consider your wifes feelings!
2006-10-23 02:35:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's possible but I would recommend that they stay clear of each other if they don't want to hurt anyone. The more time they spend together the more the attraction will grow and could cause them to act upon it.
I am in a similiar situation right now where my ex-boyfriend still wants us to remain friends (with that I mean him calling me all the time and wanting to come over), while he is already involved in a relationship now and they have children. I wouldn't say I love him but I still care about him. I am trying to not answer his phone calls and he came to my door yesterday and was knocking but I didnot answer. I don't want to hurt nobody and I don't want a bicch step to me either (to leave her man).
2006-10-23 02:31:53 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Mandeville 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Married men like nothing more than to fill some unsuspecting woman with their seed. They live to make love.Like the pollination of the bumble bee. I know, I've been married for 23 years. Cheated for 22 of them.
2006-10-23 02:31:32 · answer #5 · answered by standinghampton11 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!! You already know your relationship with your wife is doomed to failure if you continue in this relationship with your "close female friend." Why do you bother to ask? Get out of the friendship before you mess up you whole life. GROW UP!!
2006-10-23 02:40:22 · answer #6 · answered by valducci53 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it can!! It all depends on how much you can trust yourself to keep it at that level.
The sexual tension between you is not a bad thing. It's just the way it is with people. Anyone who says they aren't attracted to someone outside of a relationship is either a liar, or has lost their testicles in an unfortunate smelting accident.. LOL
2006-10-23 03:14:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Trust me I am in one such relationship. Met my ex b/f after 9 yrs. We still have feelings for each other. He is married now. His family is overseas. He meets me whenever he's in town. But trust me it can be a very painful relationship.especially when he has made it clear his family comes 1st. As for me I guess I love him very much so that makes it kind of bearable.
2006-10-23 05:07:05 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs JP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok... you have feelings for another but you are also married maybe you feel tha the one you are married to is losing intrest in you. well what i would do is sit down talk to the one you are married to let them know how you feel and what is going on in your heas .then sit down with the one you have the attraction with and ask if it is just physcial attraction or mind what is it really. and go from there.
2006-10-23 02:46:38 · answer #9 · answered by jg_aguilera27_2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can tell u is that this type of friendship is very inappropriate as it has the potential to go the wrong way real fast...even though u claim to not want to act on your feelings. Anything can happen.
2006-10-23 02:31:16 · answer #10 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋