I have been married for 5 years now, my husband wont tell other women that we are married , and wheni go on a trip and come back he always found someone , which i find our from his emails or phone calls. tired and sick of it, do not know should i end it or not?he goes to the bar and clubs, he says he loves me but i think he is not commited to our relationship.when i tell hm do you know this girl he gets mad that , no how do you get all this info? and he is a very tight person money wise,,he is asking me to pay half of rent and other expences from this month, well god , i really wanna talk to somone but i can not afford the therapist.when i tell him i will leave you he is like, please let me know do not do it all of a sudden. I am dying to talk to someone and i am pretty new to this city which i just moved 1 week ago.please answer my question and help me decide, i am so scared, if i get divorce what is gonna happen,what is the next day after divorce look like?by the way i am 27.
2006-10-22 18:57:29 · 8 answers · asked by Nikki 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he doesn't tell people that you are married or that he finds someone while you are out on a trip, then he is NOT committed the your relationship and is being unfaithful. As for the monthly expenses, pay your half of the rent, as for the utilities, pro-rate them for when you were out on your trip, and only pay for your phone calls. If you have a good job then leaving wont be such a problem financially. As for the divorce, file for one now, it will be in your best interest, but make a copy of the emails and the phone bills to show that he is being unfaithful. For further proof, hire a private detective.
Good luck
2006-10-22 19:07:08 · answer #1 · answered by Zodiac_Child 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hire a professional detective immediately.
This way you will have the evidence that he is commiting adultery.
When you proceed for a divorce, you should have a lawyer working for you only for the money in your favor.
Go to the university in the law department, and ask for a recommend lawyer. That is what one of my friend did. She had a good lawyer because her husband was cheating. In the end result, her husband had to pay spousal support for her to go through school until she graduated with her bachelors and her master.
2006-10-23 02:03:54 · answer #2 · answered by SweetBrunette 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me when this guy married you he really wasn't honest with his promise. I understand your 27 and have been married for 5 years and would certainly not want this marriage to go to waste. But you have to understand that it takes 2 to make it work...and he's not putting that effort. If he wants to go to bars, clubs, or meet other women, then I would suggest for you to let him go. Why drag yourself through that misery??? You are far more better than that, and it doesn't help that your in a new city. In my opinion I would let him go and move on...in the end, its your choice. Good Luck!
2006-10-23 02:10:18 · answer #3 · answered by ♪♫♫♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why waste your time on this type of a man who degradesyou in front of others you can do bettr that that , in my opion anytime you want to talk or ask something i use my real user name on here it is as follows . the_silverfoxx@yahoo.com
2006-10-23 02:03:47 · answer #4 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would love to talk to u but there is no im or email address i think he is leaving it open by not saying he is married
2006-10-23 02:09:50 · answer #5 · answered by holdnnmyown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No need to be with him, he doesnt respect his marriage to you, he is hiding you, so that he can get with other females, its not right for you, nor the other females that he cheats with.
2006-10-23 03:10:44 · answer #6 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him space and he'll out of your life
2006-10-23 02:01:01 · answer #7 · answered by bobby h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband is cheating girl....
2006-10-23 01:59:50 · answer #8 · answered by jen4802051709 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋