has been chatting to a lady on IM and she is now sending him 'loving' emails (he hasnt replied to any). he said they only chat but it is obviously more than that. my problerm is do i email her & tell her or wot? I have been trying to catch her on line but never seem to be on at the same time as i dont want her being led on by this no hoper.
2006-10-22 18:48:18 · 11 answers · asked by big momma 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
have checked his outgoing emails & he hasnt sent any (he's not that computer literate), and am now deleteing hers b4 he reads them (how childish am i).
2006-10-23 04:44:27 · update #1
i think u should tell ur partner to tell her because he seems to be the one that gets in touch with her
2006-10-22 18:50:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what sweety you really have to be honest to your self. There is no reason why someone would randomely send your partner love emails unless provoked by him. Get it? He is giving her some sort of idea that there is hope and a future and if he really did not reply to her emails why does she keep sending them? Come on you cant be that naive? Anyways you really want to find out whats going on go to his email account (assuming you have his password and if you dont you should get it cuz no secret sin a relationship right) anyways active the thing were it says save out going emails... so whatever emails he sends to her it will be saved under draft or something and then you can read what he is typing to her... or creat another email account and say that you are him and that your wife*bein you ofcourse* found out the other email and that is how we can talk with out her reading what we hav eto say, then you tell her when your pretending to be your husband or whatever that you do not wish to talk to her any more because you love your wife more than anything in the world and she is not worth losing to no internet affair then you wait to see what unveals because she will be emailing the other account realizing that it is not him and if he gets mad at you trust me THERE IS SOMETHING GOIN ON between them or else he wouldnt care!
2006-10-22 18:54:18 · answer #2 · answered by TOokieTook 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I konow of a case where the wholerelationship was soured by one partners inability to leave outchatrooms and dating sites from his life. Always pleaded innocence asin "only talking". Of course is absolute rubbish. Becomes an addiction almose...an ego massage.....a I still have pulling power....and can kid themselves it is ok and tehy are not being unfaithful or disloyal. The relity this is an insult to you and a dishonesty within the relationship. Confront him, leave her outof it for now. He is the one you are close to and he is the one you have to communicate with. make it clear this sort of behaviour is not on.....if he stops and apologises and is prepared to sent this woman amail telling her where to go in your pressence....forgive him and move on. BUt , I would check up and I would't go down the route of second chances. Trust is everything and without that the relationship festers and crumbles.
2006-10-22 20:11:00 · answer #3 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best to discuss with your partner your feelings about the situation. Ask your partner to set her straight within a reasonable time. Then only if your partner fails to do this or this lady doesn't or won't comprehend what she's being told by your partner, then maybe you can try. If it comes to that tell her calmly and intelligently, don't stoop to name calling or back biting. Don't give her that ammo to use in her favor.
2006-10-22 18:54:42 · answer #4 · answered by cookiefactory4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be asking my partner some serious questions like......
Why are you talking to her ?
Why have you gave her your email address ?
Why haven't you told her to F off ?
Does she know that he has a partner ?
I think your partner maybe enjoying this attention he's getting !!!
Tell him either he stops it or you will !!!
I wouldn't be happy with this situation............he must be feeding her with compliments or something for her to keep emailing !!!
Is he telling you the full story ???? I don't think so !!! Theres more to it !!
2006-10-22 19:11:05 · answer #5 · answered by tinkerbell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should definately tell your partner to tell her. if it comes from you she mite think its your intervention thats stopped her and that he does want her really. this sort of thing is always gonna throw up problems and to be honest i'd be questioning my fella a bit more. if he's still talking to her after he knew she wanted more then theres clearly an issue here.
2006-10-22 21:41:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
watch yourself and what you say in IM, chat rooms etc....you can be tracked down....don't let this hoochie get you all aroused ...like you said she is a no hopeful, she doesn't have a chance
2006-10-22 18:56:17 · answer #7 · answered by wndybcktt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup. talk to her online and pretend to be your partner.
2006-10-22 18:51:21 · answer #8 · answered by booyah-baby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's a lying underhanded **** , dump him !
2006-10-22 20:37:37 · answer #9 · answered by nicemanvery 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just ask her
2006-10-22 18:50:53 · answer #10 · answered by Gerards twin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋