Hello. Im 17 weeks pregnant. This is mine and my husbands first child. People think I should have a baby shower... I dont want one. They think that I dont want the baby just cause I dont want a baby shower. Thats not true. I just dont want a baby shower cause I want to pick all the stuff out myself... I have all the stuff chosen already. My question is... am I wrong for not wanting a baby shower? Is this normal? My friends think that im being awful and selfish. Well it is MY baby. I would love opinion on what you think cause I think its fine not to want one. Thanks so much Also we are hoping for a boy Wish us luck THANKS
2006-10-22 18:47:02 · 15 answers · asked by April S 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
What a refreshing comment ! To find someone who is not expecting friends and acquaintances to supply them with all that is needed to start their newborn`s life. You are a rare jewel. I think it is a nice gesture to bring a small gift for baby, after it arrives, if one so chooses, but to solicit gifts via a baby shower is uncalled for. If a couple elect to have a baby, why should friends be expected to furnish all. Same holds true for a bridal shower, if u can`t afford pots and pans,etc, then hold off the wedding until u can buy ur own . I certainly hope u get ur boy. Best wishes to all three of you.
2006-10-22 19:25:11 · answer #1 · answered by flamingo 6 · 1⤊ 5⤋
April it is nothing wrong with you not wanting a baby shower some people don't want to go though this. I am 28 weeks Pregnant and I move to another state and all my family is in Michigan and all my friends feel I should have a baby shower and I told them I am not having one and there mad at me too. But If there your friends and they love you they would just buy something they like and just give to you for your baby. Your not being selfish and its crazy for them to think you don't want your child just because you don't want to sit around a lot of women and play games and open up gifts that is crazy. I hope your friends will come to there senses and be happy for you regardless of you having a baby shower. I hope God answer your pray's for a Boy. Good Luck and God Bless...
2006-10-23 02:08:32 · answer #2 · answered by msleya2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations, If you don't want a baby shower that's up to you but I think its a wonderful thing to enjoy with your friends and family. I never had a baby shower with my first born but with my daughter and this baby I have, I haven't yet had my baby shower for this baby but I can't wait. If you don't want people to buy you clothes or things then that's fine you can still have a shower. You could ask for either a money tree so you can choose the things you want or have a registry, Many people buy a hamper of little things you can never have enough of, like powder, oil, nappy's, little items for you also. There are options for having a shower and not getting the things you don't want. You could ask for the certain things, Its great fun, you have games and food, all bonding. If you still don't want a shower of course that's up to you but think about it, its a great time and like I said, you can always ask for the little things so you can pick everything you want for your baby. Your friend just want to share this experience with you. I wish you all the luck with your pregnancy and hope you change your mind on the baby shower because after the baby is born its to late. Good luck.
2006-10-22 18:59:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi April
I think its fine to not want one. Fortunately my b/f and i are in a position where we can buy the things we want for our baby (i'm 16wks pregnant with our first) and him and i love spending weekends walking around a million different stores picking out a million different things for baby. It is also giving the two of us time together - both of us have demanding jobs and once i'm home in the evening i'm exhausted!
My friends also wanted us to have a baby shower however i've found that suggesting little things they can buy (an outfit or a toy or something like that) makes them feel more included and they seem quite content as long as they can "buy something".
So no - i personally don't think you are awful or selfish - you have to do what is right and comfortable for you!
Good luck on having a boy :)
2006-10-22 18:54:19 · answer #4 · answered by Smiley One 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Here is your solution~ a baby registry!! You just go to Babies R Us or Target and you choose whatever you want and it gets put on a list. The employees can help you but usually you just let them know you want to start a baby registry and they give you a scanner and you scan everything you'd like to have. Then when whoever is throwing your shower sends out the invitations the guests will call to RSVP and they can tell them where you are registered. Then you can get what you want and think you need and it is so helpful because that stuff is so expensive!
2006-10-22 18:58:15 · answer #5 · answered by amandavictoria 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I personally think that the people you are talking about are just excited for you and the only way they know to show it is have a baby shower. People love to share in the joy of a new baby.........and most showers any more you can register at the stores for the things you want ( or exchange gifts you do not like for others). A baby shower (or any type of shower for that matter) is just a way for friends and family to share in your joy and excitement
2006-10-22 18:51:56 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa H 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Try a baby registry like at Target or Babys R Us... you pick out what you want and people will get on the registry and buy them for you. That way you can have what you want and you can have a baby shower also! Trust me.. baby showers help out ALOT when it comes to certain things.
Congrats on your baby!
2006-10-22 20:42:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's fine not to want one. You will probably really appreciate the help though. I got so many cute things for my kids at their showers. Why not do a gift registry somewhere and then people will buy you exactly what you want. Hope this helps.
2006-10-22 19:12:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame you. I can just imagine my family buying bunches of formula stuff and disposable diapers, which hopefully will not be of use in my house. They're sort of clueless. Best idea? Let your friends and family do it, but get a registry. Go to your store of choice and see about their registry - and ask about a return policy. Worst case scenario, donate stuff you don't want to a women's shelter. Baby showers are fun - not because of all the pointless gifts you'll get, but because of the food. I love party food.
2006-10-22 23:37:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have the shower-people just love to buy gifts for baby. you have the option of registering at places like target or babies or us and that way the attendees can choose to go there and check the list to see what you really want. also accept gracefully and later you can donate unwanted items to a center for pregnant teens or other charities that accept those items.
2006-10-22 18:54:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋