how do i go from crazy in love to utter frustration ?

Question

why does that happen to love, to marriage?
i used to be nuts about the hubby
now
i love him sure
but im also totally repulsed by him
why didnt i notice the bad breath and the fact that he never flosses when i first met him and married him ?
or the stinky feet
or the messiness and the inability to get anywhere on time
ever?
was he always this grodie?
or is love blind?
or what?

Answer 1

People present themselves in the best possible light when they are courting. Ask yourself this - are you still the same person he dated?

Men, especially, will become as sloppy as you allow them to become. If you told him how turned off you have become, if you could do that in a helpful and not hurtful manner, he would be surprised. He didn't know he had to continue making you fall in love with him over and over again, but he does. Just like you do with him.

You guys need to get out of the grind and get a change of scenery with each other and no one and no phones around.

I hate to say this, but men are like dogs in that they need positive reinforcement. Wild enthusiasm for every little effing thing they do right, or they fall into dis-repair! Left to their own devises, - well, God only knows. My husband is going to read this and kill me!

Answer 2

This is why I always recommend setting up house together for two years BEFORE you get married. Forget the living in sin crap. This is the reward for misplaced moral values - living in misery.

However, a dentist can help. As for stinky feet, there's foot powder. The slobbishness and tardiness can be remedied by withholding conjugal bliss.

So, long story short, if you actually love him, there are cures for these particular maladies.

Answer 3

The true task of love begins when the romance tapers off.

Part of love is accepting the good with bad. You not only share joy but you share lets say the not so finer things in life. No matter who you choose as a partner this will happen eventually.

Answer 4

Didn't you know that it is the truth when they say Marriage is an Institution. That is what you are living in now. Actually it is your job as his wife to straighten him out. Get him some floss and do it for him if you have to. Sleep with your back to him until he starts to shape up.

Answer 5

Sounds like a serious case of seven-year-itch.
If you are repulsed by him you guys need some time apart for some perspective.
Sadly the sheen often wears off after time, then it's a lot of hard work.

Answer 6

Unfortunately, I think many of us fall in love with an illusion. Could be he presented himself differently; could be you just didn't want to see what was obvious. Eventually, tho, reality comes out, and when we can no longer deny it, we become frustrated because it isn't what we thought we'd signed up for or what we'd hoped for. It kills our illusion. Then comes the grownup hard part of dealing with a real human being.

Answer 7

Because being married is NOT easy. Combining two lives requires a lot of negotiating. There is something bigger bothering you. These are little things. Perhaps the fact you can't control him is the problem.

Answer 8

coz now u r more close to him....u now knw wht is actually living with him!
everything looks good from far, the closer u come the more u can make out the faults it it.

Answer 9

You should read about Oxytocin the love hormone.

Answer 10

I guess love is blind. You said the one clue, you still love him, sure.