ok as some of u know (the ones who have read my other question) i was in a car accident where i was the passenger and my friend who was driving rearended someone and no one was hurt except me (the muscle in my right shoulder seperated from the bone and i have two ripped muscles in the arm and i had whiplash) and when i was wearing the sling he (my friend) would be mean to me and he claimed that it was just because he felt guilty so i stopped wearing the sling early (i know stupid move but i hated how he treated me) and tonight he told me that the real reason was that he was mad at me and he refused to tell me y he was mad .........
why would he be mad at me i didnt do anything i wasnt even the person who distracted him! the friend that was sitting behind him did that!
i need advise because it really hurts to know he was mad at me for an unknown reason.
thanks
2006-10-22 18:21:10 · 8 answers · asked by funny in a tragic way 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He's not really your friend.
2006-10-22 18:22:17 · answer #1 · answered by chrstnwrtr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all i am sorry about what happened to you. second of all the person you thought was your friend and who now is "mad" at you because you were the distraction is not actually your true friend. third, you deserve better than that friend of yours who is inconsiderate and a complete jerk and not to mention does not take consequences for the actions but would rather blame it on you. think about it like this: true friends are the ones who are by your side thru thin and thick, who would drive 3 hours to see you if you got in a car wreck and would take the blame if it was their fault as opposed to blame it on you. he made you feel bad and was mean to you when you would be wearing your sling which most true friends do not do! my best advice is to find someone who is a better friend or you will waste your time with the jerk who all can do is insult you and out you down! you did not distract him by the way he was disctracted by something which tells you:RUN! since he is a horrible driver!and no friend should act like your "friend" did! he could at least been more helpful or less of a jerk or made sure that you are okay before getting all mad at you! that shows you that he is imature, does not take consequences for his actions but rather blames others and is not a true friend! time to move on!
2006-10-23 01:31:37 · answer #2 · answered by icycrissy27blue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are putting a guilt trip on yourself you shouldn't. It was not you who caused the accident and it WAS you who was injured. He is not your friend and do not refer to him as that again. Put that sling back on. What you have as a shoulder injury may heal OK for now but years down the road it will come back and haunt you.
Do not worry what he thinks because he doesn't care enough to worry about you. Think of yourself and what you need to do to get better. Don't waste your time wondering why or how he could be upset. It doesn't matter. That's his self-centered in-mature side shining through and you do not need any part of it.
Best wishes on your recovery.
2006-10-23 12:42:04 · answer #3 · answered by Braveheart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off put the sling back on or you will cause long term damage, do not push that arm or your neck, but let everything heal and do like the doctor said. as for the guy, well I think he is the one at fault, he is just mad at you because you got hurt, but it was his irrisponcibility for not controlling the person in the back. if you were doing as you should wearing your seatbelt and such then you did nothing wrong, let him be a tard and if he keeps it up tell him to shove it up his tail
2006-10-23 01:27:26 · answer #4 · answered by daggermouth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he may be suffering from guilt. Since you were the only one who was hurt he probably feels bad or at least started out that way. His feelings then turned to anger because he couldn't deal with feeling guilty. I sounds unreasonable but he is mad at you for being hurt because it most likely makes him feel bad.
2006-10-23 01:26:34 · answer #5 · answered by ravendark_82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he's just displacing his anger out on somebody, and you seem to be the most vulnerable one (with the sling)... so because of that, you're an easy target.
he's being a jerk about it
2006-10-23 01:24:49 · answer #6 · answered by cuteazndude84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not remember what happened, remind him. Then ask him why he is angry and if he dosnt want to reply then who needs him. That is not a friend at all. He should be helping you not hindering you!
2006-10-23 01:26:46 · answer #7 · answered by fancy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he feels guilty about your injuries and doesn`t know how to deal with and it turned into anger.. he sounds messed up and can`t deal with his emotions... stear clear!
2006-10-23 01:29:56 · answer #8 · answered by Loo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋