in my billfold from my wife. She thinks I am holding out. I did lie to her that I didn't have any money, and she found out I was lying, now what should I do? Am a bad person for lying to her??
2006-10-22 18:13:23 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you are a bad person or not depends on what you do with the money. If you are well off to the point that you are not depriving your family of anything and you do not use the money for ilegal or unethical things, then there is nothing wrong with what you are doing at all. Most couples have a little of this or that put away... I mean you shouldn't need permision to spend 50 bucks!
2006-10-22 18:18:13 · answer #1 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real question is WHY are you hiding money from her? Because that will determine whether it's wrong or not to hide it.
If you're hiding it for no reason, and just want to keep it to spend on yourself, then yeah..... you should feel bad. Why? Because you've broken the trust between you and your wife. You have nothing in a relationship without trust.
If you're hiding it because she has a spending problem and would just blow it if it were in the joint checking account, then no.. you're trying to help. If she has a problem with spending, I would open a separate account that she doesn't have access to and keep most of your money in there to pay bills and for savings. I would give her a small allowance and help her learn to budget the money. If that doesn't work, get professional help for her.
Good luck
2006-10-23 01:19:19 · answer #2 · answered by rtlsimpson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a reason why you lie to her? Woman are very sensitive about lying especially when it comes to their husband. If your wife is a controlling freak and you feel that you have to lie to her to get some spending money than maybe you shall sit down and talk to her why you do what you do. Marriage should be about being true the one we love. If you continue to lie to her it will make your marriage worst. Little white lies is still a lie to woman and believe me she may forgive you for the lies but she will not forget that you lied. Just put yourself in her shoes would you like it if she lies to you?
2006-10-23 02:23:17 · answer #3 · answered by uniqaznmeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my husband were to ever hide money from me I would think he is up and ready to split and he is making sure he got money to fall back on.... why the heck are you even hiding money from her? That is so childish and stupid really cause you got caught... sorry for being so harsh but its true. You are husband and wife you share eveyrthing, she is good enough for you to puck your u know what in her every night that you want, or for her to wake up every morning and make you breakfast or whatever type of relationship you guys have.. but you want to hide money from her because you are scared that she might steal it? See that is what she is thinking. Its like the second worst thing you can do in a relationship..well actually you did the first worst thing too. You LIED and you are HIDING MONEY from YOUR WIFE. You should of thought about that when yall got married...YOU SHARE EVERYTHING!
2006-10-23 01:17:06 · answer #4 · answered by TOokieTook 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did something wrong. That doesn't mean you are a "bad" person.
You will have a tough time getting your wife to trust you in other areas if you lie to her about money. Money issues are probably one of the biggest problem areas for married couples. You'd better get to the bottom of why you hid it from her, in addition to lying to her.
2006-10-23 01:17:36 · answer #5 · answered by asperens 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm - YES! You are married to her. Makes me wonder (and probably her) why you felt the need to lie and what else you are lying about. You hide money from her and lie aout it. Totally dishonest - and then you have to ask if that was bad??
2006-10-23 01:17:03 · answer #6 · answered by pinkee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on what she wanted the money for. if she wanted some to go out with her freinds and have a few drinks or you needed it more for spending money during the week for food and gas. then no i wouldnt say its bad. but the better thing to do that i've learned is to tell them that i have 20 bucks left to my name and i need that for the rest of the week. then fight your battle from there. atleast you only have to hear it about being cheap not cheap and lieing.... just my two cents
2006-10-23 01:22:40 · answer #7 · answered by handblownglass420 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you were wrong for lying, but not for holding out. If you pay the bills then you need to stash some aside. If she ask and IT'S IN YOUR WALLET and not in the bank, then she is entitled to that. My husband does that to me all the time. I keep money from him in case I want to shop. If he ask me for $20 and that's all I have, in my stash, then I give it up. If it's not on me, then......you wouldn't be lying when you say I don't have any (smile) be smart.
2006-10-23 01:17:07 · answer #8 · answered by sassy lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on why you didn't want her to know you had the money. If you were saving to buy her a gift you are in the right. If you wanted some extra cash to go out drinking then maybe you should apologize.
2006-10-23 01:30:17 · answer #9 · answered by Cain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it out of your wallet, stash is somewhere else..obviously shes the spender in your house. so. either get on her about her spending, or just keep hiding money. it would probably make her happy one day if you all were in a bind for money and you whip out enough money to solve the problem
2006-10-23 01:37:43 · answer #10 · answered by rhonda3826 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋