I've asked my wife a few times to let me see her myspace. But she won't (It's set to private). What would you do in my situation. I try to give her whatever she wants and she still seems to hate me. It's like the TV and her computer games come before me. We have 1 child and another on the way. I can't stand being treated like this anymore, I feel like crap. She can be really mean for no reason. But I've tried so hard. I don't force her to do anything she dosen't want to do, like work or clean, I don't give her all kind of crap or yell (to much). But she just wont let me see it. Now she's threating to leave me cause she hates me and the house we live in.
2006-10-22 17:59:13 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't get me wrong, If I tell her to clean she will but she'll complain, and it's hard to find a hobby when she's always nagging about something. She was pissed the other day when I came home from work a few hours late cause I was helping my cousin with something. I always let her know where I'm at but......
2006-10-22 18:09:57 · update #1
Oh and it's been like this since before the kids. I mean we're cool and everything, it's some days we have our huge fights and others it's small stupid crap we fight about. And whoever said something about respect hit the nail right on the head, I don't get any.
2006-10-22 18:13:05 · update #2
Ok now she's gone, hopefully she's at her dads and I can get some rest. All the door's are locked and if she want's to come in she has to do is ask me. (NICELY)
2006-10-22 18:18:34 · update #3
It sounds like a really unbalanced situation. Do you really WANT to stay in it? You don't seem to be getting any respect.
I would be firm with her. It sounds like she's not used to this and gets her way a lot. I would say that she needs to think about:
1 - What kind of place she would realistically be living in on her own.
2 - What shared custody of the children would really mean.
And then I would say "unless you go in for marriage counselling, I am filing for divorce from YOU. I deserve respect and happiness in life."
How to find a good marriage counsellor? If you are comfortable, ask your family doc, they have great connections. Or close friends at work.
Best of luck to you.
2006-10-22 18:03:55 · answer #1 · answered by Black Parade Billie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time for a kick in the azz back to reality land for both of u.. although its great that ur being such a great husband and all, its also being to nice.. and causing her to walk all over u like a door mat.. time to start laying down the law, and if she doesnt like it, tell her not to let the door hit her on the azz on the way out.. she's using the "i'll leave" as a threat, to get her way.. stop enabling her to control u like that.. its extremely doubtful she's going to want to leave her "FREE RIDE".. which is what she has with u.. and even if she does.. then she was going to no matter how u treat her.. start sticking up for yourself.. go grab your ballz back from her.. put them on, and start letting her know that enough's enough and ur not going to be treated like a piece of sh(t any longer.. and if she doesnt like it she knows where the door is.. let her know u love her, u love being nice and sweet to her, but if she cant return it, then she doesnt deserve it.. let her know when she starts actting like a loving wife again , u'll start actting like a loving husband again but from now on she's on her own till she wants it.. id change the password to the computer to where she cant get on it.. or id go get a spy program that will log everything she does on the computer ..and then see what she's really up to...and if she's up to no good.. then id get rid of the internet all together.. stop being her kicking boy.. and start being a man.. She obviously thinks she has all the control all the power in this relationship and she's using it against u thats not a healthy marriage.. time to show her that ur more then just her kicking boy.. start ignoring her needs, start treating her as if she's none existant.. if she wants out.. let her go.. she'll be back cause no other man is going to give her all the things u do..
More then likely if u give her a dose of her own medicine she'll come back around.. but right now she feels shes queen bee and ur not going to do anything and she can do anything she wants..
Good luck
2006-10-22 18:13:33 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmnn I'm a married woman, but I am not pregnant. I can tell you this much. It could be a mixture of many things combined. Hormones (trust me), spiritual energy in the house, and resentment towards some of the old stuff that happen between the two of you in the past that never quite healed her completely, thus the distance she is creating. Sit with her and look into her eyes, and not with your mouth but with your heart, tell her you love her and want to work it out.
Family utopia is important this day in age, and women need to look up to their husbands in order to have a balanced and harmonious home, and in order to feel safe and secure in the relationship. And men in return must sacrifice traits that were 'okay' when they were single as women can be sensitive to vibes.
2006-10-22 18:29:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you just need to get out of the situation. don't go crawling back to her. le her come to you. I went through the same thing with my husband about passwords and he finally gave it to me. hopefully she will let ou have it but if not then you can't trust her any way. You shouldn't be fighting like that in front of the kids either. To me it sounds like you two might love each other still but you are not in love any more and that kind of relationship isn't good for you two or the kids. good luck and do the right thing. If you still love her then you need to be calm and talk to her. trust me if you can remain calm when she is yelling then she will evenually see that you love her and she will give in. good luck
2006-10-22 18:30:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she feels like she has no privacy left. She has a child, one on the way and a husband that seems to be over her shoulder all the time. Does she stay at home all the time? Probably. Give her some room. If she were cheating it would more than likely be over the net, do you really think she hates you and the house or is really dissatisfied with her life as it is. She probably feels that she gives and does things and isnt appreciated and doesnt get any special treatment for anything. Do you understand how much it takes out of a woman to have a child growing inside them. To take care of another 24/7 and deal with another grown person who acts like another child they have to care for? Start acting like a MAN and things will turn around. I have noticed that most men act more like what they say a woman acts like than the women actually do. So, be a Man!
2006-10-22 18:16:56 · answer #5 · answered by Kellie W 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
This sounds like she is writing how she feels towards you. All I can say b/c I don't know both sides of the story is...give her space. It's called "space in togetherness" very simple. Get your own life outside of her and see how she likes that. Women need affection. You are a very good man. Just do your part and find a hobby
2006-10-22 18:04:29 · answer #6 · answered by sassy lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold on....She is a bully because you LET her be one.
You are the man of the house and she has you by the Ballz . She says jump and you say how
high. This is NOT a marriage.
It is time for counseling. If she won't go, you go on your own. Read up on passive agressive behavior.
You give her everything and she wants more and more. I would leave her in a heart beat.
2006-10-22 18:10:51 · answer #7 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't respect you. You need to ball up and tell her that your the one that pays the bills around there and your going to have the internet cut off and the cable turned off because she is off in la la land and needs to be brought back to the real world. She is acting like a spoiled child and what do you do with a child that is misbehaving?...Take away the things they love. I would turn the internet off in a heartbeat if my spouse told me I couldn't see something on there they were doing, and if I didn't have the authority to call the service provider and turn it off, I would get rid of the computer...with a baseball bat or whatever else would do the job.
2006-10-22 18:15:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she feels this strongly what more can you do? Let her go. With 1 child and 1 on the way she may find out just how much she really needs and cares for you..
2006-10-22 18:07:04 · answer #9 · answered by beebee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 06:02:29 · answer #10 · answered by latassa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋