me and my fieance just split up and i love her still so much. i have made a few posts on me taking my life and from all that ive seen it is my onlt choice. i love her so much still and she said she might give me another chance in 3-4 weeks but thats after she thinks about it. how do i go on....the pain is so intense it hurts just to say her name. everything i do, see, and hear reminds me of everything we had and now that i dont have her to love on and protect (you know what i mean) i feel empty and lost, hopeless, unloved, sad, and on the verge to take my own life i already made and set my affairs in order theirs only 1 thing left....please ladies help me idk what to do to go on and if she says no after waiting those 3-4+ gruling weeks i will take my own life cause i love her so much and it just hurts so bad.
2006-10-22 17:57:57 · 8 answers · asked by lxahlers 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
i put his here cause i thought maby a womans advice might help me
2006-10-22 18:09:23 · update #1
mlgable i do need the help problem is finding someone that wont make you feel worse when trying to help you...besides idk any1 that will chat to me over this
2006-10-22 18:29:29 · update #2
Suicide is not the answer to your problems and if you are serious about your suicide thoughts you need to call your doc in the AM and get some help. It is common to be lost and depressed when you lose someone you love. Since you are feeling very depressed and hopeless right now call a friend or relative to talk for a while. Also since she left you remember that it was not your choice that she left and only she can decide if a life with you is the right choice. You need to be strong and remember that you have lots of good qualities. Just because she doesn't want to be with you right now doesn't mean she won't change her mind. In the meantime give her the space that she has asked for and let her think things through. Fill your free time by volunteering or doing something creative such as painting or singing to help fill the void you feel. Taking your own life is not going to make things better for you or for her. In then end it will only leave lots of people wishing they could have helped you. You post here is a cry for help so please call someone now and then call your doctor or health care person in the morning to get some help. There are tons of people here on the net willing to chat at all hours of the day or night. Post again if you feel the need.
2006-10-22 18:19:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need time to grieve. It's like losing a partner in death. But give this time. She may change her mind and if not, the next 3 or 4 weeks will make you see things a little clearer. Life does go on and it is worth living. People all change and you have to look ahead to the future. Right now you are hurting and time will heal. Don't take your own life. There is much to live for. Think of all the people that would be hurt. Do you have parents, or other family? They will all be very hurt and so will your friends. Suicide doesn't hurt just one person. It hurts all those around you. Know that you are loved and let your friends and family help you get through this.
2006-10-22 18:09:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time to give yourself some TLC I think since it appears that you're loving her more than yourself at the moment. You need to love yourself before anyone else can love you.
She's thinking that she might give you another chance in 3-4 weeks .. huh, time to turn things around ...
Girls generally like guys to treat them mean and keep them keen, so you getting all emotional and depressed over her is not the answer. This is what you do: don't contact her .. no phone calls, no emails, no IMs, nothing. Every time you think about her, try to block it out and switch to something else quickly, something you really enjoy .. read a good book, watch the comedy channel, go out with friends, etc. If she tries to contact you, you'll be busy.
She'll be wondering why you're not running after her. She'll be wondering if you're out enjoying yourself, where you are and if you've maybe met someone else. As long as she thinks you're just sitting at home pining for her, she knows exactly where you are and has you under her little finger.
One of two things will happen here .. either she will come running back or you will meet someone else. They say that as one door closes, another opens and this may well be the case here.
I know it doesn't feel good at all at the moment, but you need to remember that everything in this life happens for a reason. Maybe the reason is that there is something better just around the corner for you or maybe this just happened so that you could examine your own feelings. You are too emotionally attached to her and you need to start looking after number one.
Honestly, when I think about the guys who've dumped me over the years and I've felt exactly like you do now, but now when I look back I'm like 'thank God that happened' because something much better was indeed just around the corner.
You are a wonderful, unique human being and no-one is worth taking your life for. This is your life, you need to make the most of it and YOU are the most important person here. Never forget that.
It may sound silly, but start now by looking in the mirror and saying 'I love you. You are a wonderful person'. Keep saying it until you believe and as of tomorrow ... get busy!
http://www.freewebs.com/spiritualhealing
2006-10-22 19:17:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
listen if she wants a break or decides to not be with you, It would be pretty stupid of you to take your own life. Seriously, what did you do before her? You lived just fine, and if she is gone you will be fine. Heartbreak of any kind is so shattering sometimes but it does get better. How do you know that the next girl might be the one who really changes your life and a new chapter begins. Its gonna hurt for awhile but it will get better. Don''t let one downfall end your entire life. You can't make someone love you. Also it sounds like you might be having some emotional issues which honestly needs help first. if you can't love yourself, it is just impossible to love another person. You need to get yourself in a state that realizes you are worthy and then you can concentrate on loving another. Good luck, suck it up, and move on. God Bless You.
2006-10-22 18:08:29 · answer #4 · answered by l'il mama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure why you put this in women's health, but I will still provide you with an answer.
First you have to figure out why you both broke up?
You have to see if these problems can be worked out and if you are both willing to put the effort to help the relationship. You should start by telling her how you feel. Let her know how much you miss her and how bad it hurts. If she says she still needs time, you should be patient and give it to her. Just make sure she it not walking all over you. Make sure she isn't selfish in the reasons for leaving you or leading you on. Ask her how long it will take, and if she is still unsure, it is probably best to move on. It will be hard, but take it one day at a time. Try to keep yourself busy...read a new book, volunteer, do anything to keep your mind busy. It will get easier and your heart will heal, I promise.
2006-10-22 18:06:43 · answer #5 · answered by Kbailey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are quite young.Take it from me, things change. There are so many women out there. I know you think your life is over, it is not. I guarantee you will feel better. Do not do any thing stupid, you are not thinking straight, give it some time. Time heal all wounds. If she says no, there is a women out there who is also hurting that needs you. Look around, she is not to far away. hugs, I care about you.
2006-10-22 18:13:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your suicidal go find professional help, and,
as all things shitty in life, this too shall pass
whether you break up for good or not, remember that
2006-10-22 18:11:04 · answer #7 · answered by crowscraver 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you need someone to chat with i will be more than willing to help
2006-10-23 04:23:54 · answer #8 · answered by christycote@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋