but we havent been doing real well lately and I don't feel like we should be together anymore but I don't wanna leave her high and dry with our daughter... I have also met somebody new and we are juss friends and we haven't done anything but people think we have... including my girlfriends parents who think me and my girlfriend are seperated and we aren't what should I do?
2006-10-22 17:57:47 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
You need to make your decision based off of your child, not
your d!ck. If you leave your daughter and her mother because of the fact that you don't have feelings for the mother anymore, your daughter's life will be impacted by it in a huge way.
Even if you do visit your daughter from time to time, and give her money and toys, when your daughter sees you with someone other than her mother, it will be confusing for her to understand why you don't love her mother any more. And her family morals will change and affect the way she grows up and acts toward men.
In the best interest of your daughter, you need to be more mature and try to make things right with her mother. If you were not ready to grow up and make a lifetime commitment to her, ya'll should not have had sex.
2006-10-22 23:32:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The way things usually go when two kids have a baby together is that the girl ends up with the baby and the young man loses interest, finds a new girlfriend, and may visit the child for a while in the beginning. Later, the young man who was involved with having one child often becomes involved with the new girlfriend, who then has a child. The mother of the girl who has your daughter may hope you would either have a good relationship with your daughter or else break up cleanly - no half and half type of thing.
If you've lost interest in the mother of your little girl already that doesn't say much for any hope that the two of you will ever be right in a long-term relationship. You're only 17, and you already want to move on. I think you should talk with your girlfriend, have a clean-break up, and arrange to visit your daughter. Your girlfriend and the baby may actually be better off if left alone and without the complications of the drama of a doomed relationship.
Most people have no illusions that the kind of relationship you and the mother of your daughter had could ever have been a permanent thing. That's why people hope teenagers won't bring a child into the world.
For now you should do what is right for you, be honest with everyone else involved, and do what you can to make sure you baby is well cared for. I don't mean to seem judgmental on this question, it is just that your situation is the classic thing that goes on once a girl has a baby, and its hard to figure out why young people haven't noticed how this is the way it works.
Hopefully, if you break up with the mother of your daughter you will not do the other "classic thing" that teenage boys do, which is to have another baby with another girl.
Just don't be pressured right now to feel that you have to stay with the mother of your little daughter. That wouldn't necessarily be healthy for anyone involved. It would be better to part friends and agree to work together to make sure the baby is well cared for.
2006-10-22 18:26:39 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, about the no longer liking boys section, she's you're daughter. Did you tell your moms and dads about each and every of the crushes that you had? If she does have acquaintances, it is solid. yet perhaps she's no longer spending time with others because she feels that they don't truly like her. Have any of them called to ask her to do something? that would want to be the project, is that she's waiting for them to call. prepare her that to make a buddy, she ought to be a buddy. which ability she needs to %. up the phone and dial their style. If all else fails, flow to a counselor. attempt to make it a set element, and flow in there consisting of her so she will be ready to no longer be on my own. yet enable her comprehend that if she needs to communicate over with the counselor on my own, without you round to hearken to what she has to say, then that determination might want to be open.
2016-12-05 03:16:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a kid in high school. Now I'm married to my daughters dad. We have been together for 6 years. If he did not love me I would not have wanted him to stay. If you found someone better than so can she. Let her go, your holding each other back. She might be sad for like a week or 2 maybe a month but she will get over it.
2006-10-22 18:12:17 · answer #4 · answered by unique562h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most relationship where there is a baby involved at such a young age. never last.... why prolong what is only going to happen.,
be honest with your daughters mom. tell her it will not work. let her know you will always be there for the child. and will pay child support.
in time her heart will heal and she will find someone who truely cares and loves her... do not stay with her because of the child.
you need to be happy and staying and living a lie is wrong. your gf or soon to be ex deserves the truth.
a child is not a reason to stay together... leave now while the child is young. but remain in the childs life forever.
2006-10-22 18:02:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Honestly take care of oyur responsibilites first.If you are not married remember children with married parents who make a valid effort to get along do better in all areas of life.Just keep that in mind,if you have married this girl stick with her,it is biblical unless she cheats on you dies ,or walks away from the marriage.You are in a tough spot and your feelings arent the only ones that count remember that please.God bless you.
2006-10-22 18:08:41 · answer #6 · answered by Erica B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How sad. Another baby in the world growing up without a bio dad. And you have a new honey... my my, and what if you make another baby? Boy, you really need to get your head on straight. Keep your pants on and stop ruining lives.
2006-10-22 18:14:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you aren't with her doesn't mean you cant continure supporting the child.
2006-10-22 19:10:27 · answer #8 · answered by bippidibopiddi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i bet you were so dumb you just busted inside of her. better start making some money now
2006-10-22 18:05:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
hhh
2006-10-23 04:11:45 · answer #10 · answered by Evil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋