my hubby and i haven't had sex for 8 months and only been married 6 we are never togther and we use to be just booty calls and now we can't stand eachother so is he out playin or am i just to mean?
2006-10-22 17:47:45 · 28 answers · asked by locababiegirlangelad 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we already have a baby she is 1 and he is not even around for her he told me he loved me and asked me to marry him not the other way around but i guess your all right i need to get out
2006-10-22 18:08:23 · update #1
I can't count the numbers of rafters that have fallen in, but I think it is all of them.
He's probably cheating or has a boyfriend he's been hiding from you.
"Get conseling" because I think you'll get back more accurate information and achieve a more amicable divorce. In some places, the fact that your marriage was never consummated (there was no coitus after the ceremony) is grounds for ANNULMENT, which is actually better than a divorce unless he's very wealthy.
What a dud of a marriage.
2006-10-22 17:53:39 · answer #1 · answered by urbancoyote 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this has much to do with sex at all. Rather, the two of you appear to have not really been meant for each other --- earlier on you may just have confused lust with love --- and you quite likely should never have gotten married. If this is the case, cut your losses before a child comes along to mess up the situation even more. Separate without fighting or arguing about it if it's indeed for the best, which I'm guessing it might just be, and then get a NO-FAULT DIVORCE. If this marriage was a big mistake, the sooner you correct it by ending it the better!
2006-10-22 17:54:58 · answer #2 · answered by backinbowl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok im confused, why did u marry a man that u have never lived with? and where is he? and why havent u had sex in 8 months.. ur leaving alot to be desired to ur story.. it doesnt make sense why a woman would marry a man yet not live with him, or not have sex with her husband since 2 months prior to the wedding????
I think ur being dumb for not knowing what a real marriage is.. and dumb for letting it to continue this way..
Is he cheating? Maybe, Maybe not, more then likely since the only thing declaring u his wife is a legal paper, yet your seperated ur not living as husband as wife and legally he could very well be cheating on u and it wouldnt be considered cheating, its what happens to "seperated" couples all the time.. ones that actually lived as husband and wife, then decided to seperate.. do their own thing, till the divorce.. then do their own thing anyways..
I think u both need to grow up and realize what marriage is, and i think u both need counseling, and i think u need to either live a married life, or get divorced, but this constant state of limbo is ridiculous..
And perhaps when u get some self respect for yourself.. u'll realize that ur worth more then just someones bootycall..
2006-10-22 18:03:22 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither one of you have feelings for each other anymore. You both are together just because both of you are in denial. You need to sit down and talk to him. 8 months w/o sex with your partner is a long time and that tells me that both of you have no attraction among one another. Stop being in denial and deal with it. Maybe you shall just separate and see if it's better that way. Really no point of being with someone you don't love. Even in the future you are not an item he is the father of your baby and shall help you take care of the baby. you want to have a nice clean break for the shake of your baby.
2006-10-22 19:31:39 · answer #4 · answered by uniqaznmeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that something was up if a married couple hasn't had sex in 8 months if there is nothing wrong with your all's bodies.
If you 2 can't stand one another and it is really not like a real marriage then move on with your life.
I couldn't handle this what you are talking about. Follow him and see what he does.
Good luck
2006-10-22 17:56:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he is definately cheating! Ask him why you haven't had sex in 8 months. You'll be able to tell a lot from his answer! You don't have any real clear pictures of yourself on your 360 page but from what I see you are definately doable! Good Luck!
2006-10-22 17:51:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a littlet bit of both. He is cheating if you have not had sex in 8 mos. You are dumb if you knew getting into the marriage that you were only a booty call. Good luck
2006-10-22 17:50:27 · answer #7 · answered by sassy lady 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmm...kinda odd to get married to some one you use to use just for booty calls....didnt you think it wouldnt work? Isnt it awkward? And no sex for 8 months? Hmm..id say hes cheating or hes gay which would also mean hes cheating..and if you havnt had sex in 8 months where are you gettinit from? are you cheating too?
2006-10-22 17:51:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you feel that by being here friend it is saying that it is morally right for her to behave this way? You are not responsible for her actions; if it is affecting you neg then I would let the friendship go or let her know that you do not want to associate with her until this phase or relationship is over because you do not feel she is right. You could ask her how she would feel if her husband was having an affair?
2016-05-22 00:06:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No sex, no marriage. You haven't done without sex for 8 months, there's no love here. Go get a life. Bullsh*t.
2006-10-22 19:06:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋