For whatever reasons, is it really inconsiderate to elope and not tell your family?
What kinda database does your marriage certificate go to anyway?
2006-10-22 17:37:42 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My wife and I eloped. We told our families later on, and even though they were upset, we don't regret it at all. We were saving for a wedding, but then realized we wanted to start our lives together. It was either spend thousands of dollars, be in debt to put on a show for one day and live in her parents basement for god knows how long or get our own place, furnish it and begin the rest of our life together.
2006-10-22 23:24:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you saying you are trying to find a way to get married without your parents ever finding out? If that's the case I would want to know why? Your marriage certificate will be signed by whoever officiates the ceremony be it pastor or judge. It then gets recorded in the local courthouse of the county in which you were married.
As far as being inconsiderate it depends on your intentions. Are you trying to hurt your family or are you trying to save them some money? Are you trying to be sneaky or do you just favor a simple, private ceremony? You know your family way better than anyone in this forum could pretend to. Some families will be hurt to the point it will be hard to forgive you for the rest of their lives. Some probably would wish they had the option of attending and some probably won't care.
What are your reasons for eloping?
2006-10-22 17:44:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Such a wedding can be very nice-It will be what you make of it! The marriage certificates are very nice-and should go where any other marriage certificates go! You can get married in any town near you! You may have to wait 24 hours before hand-and get a room! I don't think any less of such a wedding or the people who do this! The family should understand and deal with their decision! You can wear a wedding dress if you want to! He can wear a suit. You can dress casual if you want to. Be sure to buy film and take a good camera for some pictures!
2006-10-22 17:48:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
F*ck the rest of the world.. marriage is not about the wedding, it's about being married. I'm thinking seriously about marriage and should we choose to do it, that's exactly how we will. No guests, no reception.. just us two a legal witness etc and 'just married' on the back of the car. It's far more romantic than an organized event for everyone else. Far too many people are more concerned with the one day instead of the rest of their lives. No wonder it's a let down when normality hits them. I think it's selfish and inconsiderate to question the plans of two people who are in love. It's not about anyone else.
2006-10-22 17:43:00 · answer #4 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Generally, it's probably selfish. However, if there's good reasons behind it, then it's not necessarily a bad thing. Weigh out the situations, and the reasons.
Your marriage license is public record. Anyone can go into the clerk of the court office in the county in which you were married and ask to see the file in your name, and it will be handed to them. Any marriages and/or divorces will be in that file. They'll even give them copies for a small fee.
Not much is private anymore!
2006-10-22 17:41:57 · answer #5 · answered by Amy N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage license differs by state.
Marriage is a union of 2 families. If you elope, I wonder if there's a problem? Not a way to start married life.
2006-10-22 17:40:37 · answer #6 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Romeo & Juliet........Sometimes families make couples feel they MUST elope. Love is a powerful force. Perhaps, at least somwtimes, if the family was considerate....some couples would not do this. Many marriage certificates can be found in local, parish, and/or county records.
2006-10-22 17:53:44 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. US of A, Baby! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some times to elope is the best thing to do. But it is inconsiderate to not tell. If they tell after the fact, then they told- it just wasn't in advance.
2006-10-22 17:39:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It goes to public records..
Inconsiderate.. yes.. but people do it all the time... to me it only shows a lack of immaturity not to tell ur family about a wedding.. if my child eloped id be heartbroken about it.. i would feel that ive earned the right to atleast know that its going to take place.. and i think any child that elopes with out atleast letting your parents know about it.. is selfish and unappriciative.. and even if the family doesnt agree with ur chocies.. who cares, the grown up thing would be to acknowledge them as ur family and if they dont like it tuff on them u handled it the proper way.. if u dont want the full blown wedding thats fine, just let them know that, let them know ur just going to have an intimate wedding just the two of u, but atleast let ur parents know..
2006-10-22 17:46:06 · answer #9 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ha, we did that! We sent an email when we got back from our wedding/honeymoon. We had just relocated, living super budgeted and my parents are divorced and wanted totally different things and couldn't stand to be in the same room together and my inlaws had their own opinion - so we did our own thing. If we make it to our 5 yr anniversary I would like to renew vows but out of the country and still without our families =)
2006-10-22 18:43:39 · answer #10 · answered by Moi. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋