hello all...i am a 19 y.o guy..and well i want to start a family...like have kids and get married...im am currently dating a 13 y.o..i know she is too young for me..and NO i am NOT using her for sex..i truely lover her with all my heart...so back to the problem..i want to start a family..but am i too young?what do u think moms and dads out there?everyone else?what should i do besides find someone my own age?thank you for all your help and this is a very serious question..so serious answers only!!or im gonna report u!
2006-10-22 17:31:34 · 6 answers · asked by dew li low moe 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
opps..i just noticed something..its:im desperate in need of advice
2006-10-22 17:34:54 · update #1
have u discussed it with ur g/f? its great that u want to be a dad..maybe u should wait until she is a little bit older just so u can plan ahead in the ways of money and pregnancy information. good luck and best wishes
2006-10-22 17:35:34 · answer #1 · answered by sgt_phalanx58 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude! You're too young to start a family. Start by a getting a pen and paper and write down all the reasons why you want to start a family. Keep asking yourself why. Then again why. And find the true reason why. Then you might discover something about yourself.
My personal opinion is that you are too young because you have not experienced anything yet to base a good decision. Most extremely young people that get married eventually divorced after a few years.
I say wait several years and truely experience life and then decide if you want to start a family. And then you're girl friend will be older and if it is meant to be then it's fate.
However, just so we're on the same page, you could go to jail for what you are doing. Her parents would just report you and then you'll have a sex offender status for the rest of your life. Hence ensuring that you'll never get a good job and your dreams of starting a family will be gone because no wife wants a husband that can't support them.
Think about that carefully.
2006-10-23 00:47:13 · answer #2 · answered by Bryan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are 6 yrs older than her and that in its self shouldn't be a problem. You wanting to start a family,I see no problem with that. Some people know what they want and all people want different things in life. The only problem I see is, all your concerns are about "you" have you any idea what giving birth at 13 yrs old would do to that girl if she even survived it! her body is not ready to birth children, why do you think so many died during childbirth in the days when it was acceptable for girls to marry at age 12 and 13? She is still a child. If you truly love her and feel she is the one for you. wait a few years to start the family at least till she is 17 or so let her body complete developing so that she will have a healthy baby and remain healthy herself. And if you chose to find someone else to start a family with, then that says you don't really love her, you just want a vessel to birth a child for you! What ever you chose I wish you good luck!
2006-10-23 03:29:03 · answer #3 · answered by Jo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude! You'll go to jail fooling with a 13-year old. She's way too young for you and you'll be tried as an adult, which will put you away for a long time. Don't be foolish and stop dating and raping a child NOW. . . . Move on to some one much older, marry, then start your family.
2006-10-23 01:08:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First you should talk to her about it, and consider what will happen to her if she is the one you want to do this with. Then if you decide to be with someone else you have to think if you are going to be happy with that person. Personally I think you should wait a little longer and see whats awaits you. (I'm in the exact same situation, but i'm 19 and my guy is 20.)
2006-10-23 00:37:38 · answer #5 · answered by Marie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had my first child when I was 19, and while I love her very much sometime I wish I had waited and experienced a few things you can't after you have kids
2006-10-23 01:38:04 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa H 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋