Is having a open love life good for a relationship? what if you suggest having a 3some ?
2006-10-22 17:29:59 · 25 answers · asked by Cathrin Sinclair 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hmm, that's a good question. First of all, both in the relationship would need to have an open mind and be willing to try new avenues. Second, they would have to be comfortable. It's something that you need to discuss with your partner and get their feelings about an open relationship/threesome.
2006-10-22 17:35:39 · answer #1 · answered by Iron What? 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
An open relationship...I believe you would mean sleeping with other people one-on-one. In that case, if you are simply starting a relationship and are not "officially" together it's fine. If you have been together a long time and are simply looking to just sleep with other people--then its time you move on. You cant have your cake and eat it too. If you are open to having a threesome, I honestly dont believe they are a bad idea. You need to make sure you set rules beforehand and most of all you just have to be confident in the relationship. A threesome is about you and your husband/boyfriend allowing someone else into the privacy of your bedroom to experience the amazing sex between you two. If either of you look at it in terms of focusing solely on the third party---trouble will arise. Talk about it, make sure you are both comfortable. It can be extremely exciting and arousing and do miracles for a couples sex life, but it can also be damaging if one or all three dont know the boundaries.
2006-10-22 17:36:21 · answer #2 · answered by jenmimo7 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OOH i am soo familiar with this topic. Quick story.... met a guy this past May, we totally hit it off. He was newly separated from his wife of 16 years and things started going way to fast.
He asked me to move in with him after only 7 weeks of dating, I explained that it was not a good idea to move so quickly and that I felt I was the rebound girl also told him that he needed to be single for a while. WELL THAT BIT ME IN THE BUTT!! Next thing I know we are having the "open relationship" conversation. At first I was cool with it, and I am not a jealous person AT ALL. But after a couple of months of sharing, I noticed I felt as if I was competing and found that I was actually jealous of this other woman. They have since ended things and he and I are still seeing each other, but in all honesty...things are never going to be the same between us again.
I guess what all this blabbing is supposed to be saying is that, no matter how secure you feel your relationship is....bringing in another man or woman will really hurt it in the long run.
Good Luck to ya!
2006-10-22 17:36:08 · answer #3 · answered by amy 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This actually works for SOME people, but for MANY OTHERS it is the DEATH KNELL of their relationship, because jealousy and loss of trust will forever after intrude on your being together. I would way the pros and cons VERY, VERY CAREFULLY before you do something which can then NEVER BE UNDONE. Believe me, I had to learn this the HARD WAY, and it was absolutely the beginning of the end of that relationship!
2006-10-22 17:48:13 · answer #4 · answered by backinbowl 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have been married twice the first time a real marriage, where vow were taken seriously.
I am married again and it is an open relationship, I find it demeaning. For me I want someone who cares enough about me, to expect me to be faithful and return it. It is called commitment.
2006-10-22 17:40:09 · answer #5 · answered by dancinintherain 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Usually an "open" marriage does not work...
Usually 3somes with a bi wife & her girlfriends is OK.....
2006-10-22 17:49:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
no, it will do nothing but ruin your relationship. It may seem fun at first, but it will always end up in disaster. If you are wanting to spice things up just role play or try new things together. Not with others involved.
2006-10-22 17:41:56 · answer #7 · answered by mom of 3 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm not married yet but I think people are a bit cautious about open relationships because of SDT. It's like you don't really know how many other people are involved and if any one of them has a trace of HIV..well..............
2006-10-22 17:38:47 · answer #8 · answered by Lori1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this means that u r still exploring yourself .. find a person with similar interests and then see if your fantasies will come true .. but do all this before u settle down with someone that is not like u or u will always be looking for that person ...
2006-10-22 17:36:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you wanna sleep around than do so. But dont call it a relationship.
2006-10-22 17:45:16 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋