is this normal behaviour?

Question

My husband has not been feeling like sex lately, which is perfectly ok, we all get like that now and then, but, he still looks at porn and masturbates, does this mean he has lost interest in doing it with me, he says he just doesnt feel like it but wouldn't you not feel like masturbating also?....im confused

Answer 1

Being a woman, I am sure you understand having different hormone levels. Men in society's eye are supposed to be overly sexual and are expected to always want it. It is nearly not the case, especially as they get older men's sexuality simply declines. This has nothing to do with you. Never ever compare yourself to porn or masterbation because these are two completely different things. You will only get caught up in being jealous of something that really shouldnt be coming between you two at all. Masterbation is just someones way of "being with themselves," its a release which men need more so than women. Dont be upset, just be patient---dont not get what you want, but make sure you arent being nasty about it.

Answer 2

Maybe you are stuck in a rut of the same old routine. This can and usually does affect relationships of longevity. Try mixing things up a little. First thing to do is throw away that Wal-mart gown type t-shirt that says I'm not a morning person on the front and step into something sexy. There are lots of different types of sleepwear that can be conservative or extremely welcoming. Try sitting down and watching a porno movie with him. Some women say that it is disgusting until they actually sit down and watch one with a spouse or partner. Let him catch you masturbating. There is nothing wrong with self pleasure and it can be very alluring to a spouse. Try different positions. Tell him what you want in bed tell him if he's doing it right when he is. let him hear how much he stimulates you. Tell him how good he is or how good he makes you feel. The main thing is, if nothing is said or done then nothing is going to change. Make the first move toward refreshing your relationship. You will be rewarded.

Answer 3

I don't buy it that men have more need sexually than women....thats a bunch of bull. And is maybe true about a few women.

Some say if you can't beat it join it. You could join in. ....although I don't think that is that exciting.

The big concern is that he has become addicted both to the porn and the masterbation.
He may need some counseling.

Answer 4

Sounds like you and your husband are in a rut. When sex slows down there is an underlying problem. Yet your husband is starting to replace intimacy with his porno watch and maybe now he has unrealistic expectations of you, his wife. I suggest you get a professional marriage counselor and talk this out before you wind up divorced.

Answer 5

Yes sorry , he's substituting something that is suppose to be for you and only u , for his hand and porn..

If he can get aroused by himself with born then the sex drive and want is there..

So unfortunately he is substituting u for something else.. Porn.. and that is extremely dangerous, and extremely harmful to a marriage..

Answer 6

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Answer 7

reverse the flow on him..you buy a porn magazine, put it somewhere where he can find it..then when he wants you, tell him you just dont feel like it.

or

ask him what your asking us..maybe he will tell you instead of us just guessing

Answer 8

He is addicted to porn and masturbating...

Answer 9

Sounds a bit odd.

Answer 10

Maybe he's uncomfortable about presenting his body to you? Hm.