Doesnt this just create more problems for us? If you're polite the other person may think that you like them--then they try to takl and socialize more with you, then you spend a lot of your time trying to get away from them.
2006-10-22 17:11:16 · 14 answers · asked by Frank 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
We don't, and i think its about time we stop beating our selves up about it. Your right, if we're nice to these people we don't even like we will have to spend more time with them than we want to.
So stop being nice, just be as cordial as you need to be. I work with someone i can't stand and a lot of the work she does directly affects my work. We have to comunicate several times a day there's no way around it. I just do it as briefly as possible and adjust my body language and tone of voice to let her know i don't enjoy having anything to do with her. Because the second i say hello or goodbye or anything that doesn't have to do with the issue she starts clinging. Talking about this or that, anything that doesn't have to do with work, at that point i'll say 'well i'm going'. I don't say i have to go or that i need to go, just that i'm going. Usually that works and she trods off. So i say stop bringing stress on yourself for these people, if you don't like them its probably for a good reason and they don't deserve your time.
2006-10-22 17:23:39 · answer #1 · answered by kharmageddon74 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Being 'polite' and being "polite" are two different things.
When tolerating people you don't like, grit your teeth visibly, paste a wan smile on your face, and always answer in monosyllables. This gives the definite impression that you feel as if someone is driving toothpicks up your fingernails and that you are miserable to the point of nausea. .
The person will get out of your way and bother you no more, although they will describe you as unfailingly polite
2006-10-23 00:16:28 · answer #2 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being polite is different from being sociable. You can be civil toward someone, but make it clear that you don't want to spend time with them in a social manner. Being rude just makes things worse.
2006-10-23 00:14:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What goes around, comes around. You can politely tell someone to leave you alone. If they stalk you then you need to be more assertive. But being aggressive isn't nice trait to have for oneself. Ignoring them without rolling your eyes, sighing infront of them, etc. is also polite.
2006-10-23 00:16:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are polite to people that we might not be attracted to. We might even think they are obnoxious but if we respect ourselves be will behave appropriately in spite of how the other person makes us feel. Its all about be civilized.
2006-10-23 00:14:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should not let others decide how you feel inside. If you feel like you have to be mean to them, they are controlling you without you or tehm knowing it. If you don't like someone becuase of the way they are or what they do, they are actually helping you by showing you an example of how you should not be.
2006-10-23 00:17:09 · answer #6 · answered by mikegarcialazavalamcallen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a pain indeed.. and it does send the wrong message. But it's better to try and escape from an annoying 'friend' then have a nasty enemy.
2006-10-23 00:14:14 · answer #7 · answered by Jilljill:) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Delta Charlie.
2006-10-23 00:16:41 · answer #8 · answered by hopeless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont..me and hannah are very nice people..
but when we dont like somebody they know it.
we arent mean or rude to them.
we just make it a point to show that we have no interest in engaging with them
2006-10-23 00:14:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can let people know in a tactful manner that you don't really like them.
2006-10-23 00:13:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋