I am in a relationship with a guy and I have always been bi-curious and wanted to experience a another girl, but in my fantasy it was me and the girl with him watching or me with the girl and him behind me. And he was fine with that. But he now talks about wanting to have me and another girl but he wants to give it to her but doesn't want me to have another man but him. Then he says "Well, I don't think I would have a problem with you with another guy. Which I think is crap that he is saying to bring me to submit and let him have intercourse with another girl. I honestly do not want him giving another girl the same pleasure as he gives to me and he truly does not want me to recieve the same pleasure from a man other than him. I think it is not the same for a girl to be with a girl (no penetration), just like I could not do to him what a man could, if he was bi. Why can't he just sit back and enjoy what pleasure I can give to her while he gets his pleasure from me and watching?
2006-10-22 17:08:20 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I had a friend that had a threeway with her husband and another man. The other man was differently endowned than her husband. When we last spoke, she was divorcing her husband because of the feelings that had developed for the other guy. I doubt that her new relationship will last simply because the attraction sounded like it was more of a "novelty" than true emotions. So, just be careful. Unless you're one that can COMPLETELY separate the differences between sex and love, then you may be in for some feelings that will cloud your original relationship to the point that your relationship becomes "tainted" because of jealousy, curiosity and other emotions all tangled up.
2006-10-22 18:33:54 · answer #1 · answered by pocket68rocket 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's always been my take on the matter that threesomes can cause a great deal of trouble for a committed couple. It is rather selfish of you to not allow him to "play" with the girl if you're going to. Might I suggest a foursome if you really must spice up your relationship in this way. If he has no problem with it and you don't either then go for it...but don't bring something in that you want and expect him not to touch. Good luck.
2006-10-23 01:52:00 · answer #2 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, fantasies are OK, but I think threesomes are better for single people so that things don't get complicated. Relationships are meant to be with 2 people not 3. Also, if your in relationship- don't you think its odd to have to bring some into the relationship, in order to be closer to your boyfriend? I would evaluate your relationship.
2006-10-23 10:23:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U gotta do whatever u feel like. I dont think ur being too selfish. u gotta compromise a bit, but ur bf is being a total jerk. were i in his position i would be the happiest guy on the earth. in short, i think u need to compromise, but not at the level ur bf is demanding. there r other guys who would be a lot less demanding. but it is all up to u. good luck!
2006-10-23 00:37:58 · answer #4 · answered by The Evil Drummer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All is fair in love and war.!!!
P.S. He is one lucky guy and I would not complain however I would eventually have to do you both cause the temptation would be too great.
I say you should be okay with what he wants and you should not be selfish.
2006-10-23 00:14:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plenty of fish in the sea. If he don't make you happy, there are loads of people out there who have the same desires you do.
2006-10-23 00:13:45 · answer #6 · answered by Mac Momma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you're being selfish. You want to have sex with another female, and just have him watch and not participate. Not exactly fair.
2006-10-23 00:56:28 · answer #7 · answered by ByTheSea 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This reminds me of why I'm committed to the idea of monogamy, even tho I'm bi......
2006-10-23 04:53:22 · answer #8 · answered by ladyfraser04 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should find a different male partner
2006-10-23 00:15:05 · answer #9 · answered by Just Jess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him he can have sex with another guy, while your having sex with another girl...... fair is fair.
2006-10-23 01:10:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋