i came from a poor and broken family. i got married when i was 18 but it only last after a year. since i was 14 up to now in my late 30's most of my serious admirers are married. and they were serious. i am a lounge singer at the five star hotel in asia. i travel every 6months from one country to another. i have a boyfriend now who wants to marry me. he is waiting for me to accept his proposal before he divorce his wife. in 3 years he follows me everywhere i go. he is financially stable but i am not sure if i do love him enough to give up my work and just be a plain housewife as what he wants me to. eversince i always wish to marry someone who can really take care of me financially, but i dont understand why im having this second thought. is this the reason why i am more attracted with a married man
2006-10-22 16:51:47 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Maybe you don't really want to be committed.That's the sub conscious attraction.
If you feel in your heart he is what you want and what you have is real and worth the fight then set your foot down and tell him make it right.Get a Divorce then pursue you.If he doesn't do it then he probably wont ever be with you.Just remember if you get with him , he will probably do you the way he did his wife.
Good luck..I think you will need it
2006-10-22 17:08:16 · answer #1 · answered by Meemi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately your job probably places you where married men lurk looking for a new unsuspecting soul. If so make it a policy that you won't talk to guys at work. Go to places where single people congregate. Meet single men. About this guy you are dating now tell him to hit the road. First of all - he is married! How could you ever pretend to trust a man who is proposing to you while still married?! Second, you said yourself you don't love him enough to give up your work and be a housewife for him. Sweetie, you have answered your own question! Kick this poor excuse for a man to the curb! Stop dating married men! If they cheat on their current wife they will cheat on YOU!
2006-10-22 17:02:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only U can decide this one.Married Men are easier to be with cause they get what they want they buy you gifts then go home to wifie who by the way also gets a gift cause he feels guilty.If U wanna give up being a lounge singer then that's your call don't quit cause he tells you to cause who's to say that he'll stay faithful 2 U after all he's cheating on his current wife now once a cheater always a cheater.Good Luck
2006-10-22 16:56:53 · answer #3 · answered by sugarbdp1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, do u think it's becos' of ur working envoirnment? After spending 3 years with ur BF, u still don't know what u want. So i guess u have to make a final decision either to continue or leave him. So u won't hurt him, his family members & lastly urself maybe after ur rejection with him, he thinking of unite with his family & at least u also do a gd deed. Trust me, I guess ur fate have not arrived yet... Some people tends to marry early while some are late.
2006-10-22 16:59:17 · answer #4 · answered by kudos Qi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, a friend of mine had the same problem, i think getting involved with married men is ur way of escaping the fact that u really don't want to get married or hence commit,married men are unavailable so being involved with one means u don't have to really "be" in the relationship and convincing urself that it is his fault,if u don't love this guy don't marry him ,unless ur main goal is to have a financially secured stable life regardless of being in love or not.
2006-10-22 17:00:45 · answer #5 · answered by senoradelafelicidad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a deeper issue. you want to find the father that you never have. that's why you are looking in those married men. however, the boyfriend of yours is too much like a puppy dog than a father that's why you are having second thought.
2006-10-22 16:57:02 · answer #6 · answered by j y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get over your attraction to married men. Next time, just ask whoever you're attracted to if he's married....and if he says yes then walk away. I like chocolate cake and all kindsa drugs. But I know how to not eat chocolate cake and not do all kindsa drugs....and it works out just fine once you realize it's ok to like something and not eat/smoke/hump it.
2006-10-22 16:56:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think Twice..That might not be another day in Paradise
2006-10-22 16:56:13 · answer #8 · answered by ashishmulye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't hand us your excuses, you homewrecker. How dare you violate the sanctity of marriage.
2006-10-22 16:53:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why? Because you're a skanky ho-bag who lacks morals, integrity and honor. Or maybe a prostitute?
2006-10-22 17:01:36 · answer #10 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋