Is there anyone going through similar sitation, if so how did you handle the pain?
2006-10-22 16:43:40 · 8 answers · asked by Lisha 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have gone through the very same thing a little over a year ago. What I did to get over it was to get myself involved in things that didn't remind me of him. Like at work I would work extra hours. I joined a church. Started going out dancing and socializing with other women who were single. Even joined a gym and got fit. After a few months or so (aleast 6 months) I realized that I am doing just fine. I even allowed myself to forgive him, so that I can truly move on. He cheated on me and even brought the woman to my house. That hurt like hell. We still haven't finalized the divorce yet but I am currently in a semi relationship with a very caring and respectful man now. I am in the best shape of my life and girl I shop like no bodies business. There is always a silver lining around every dark cloud, you just have to work at finding it. Good Luck...you will be just fine.
2006-10-22 16:49:37 · answer #1 · answered by Goodie66 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my husband left, I hurt badly too. It's 2 1/2 yrs. later and it still hurts but it's managable. A good support net is imperative - family, friends, church, a divorce support group, whatever it takes! Go to counseling. Sometimes it seems difficult to be strong but you'll be a better woman for it later.
Depending on the circumstances, sometimes distance can be good. Not always though - if he cheated, or thinks this is a good opportunity to 'get a few things out of his system' (aka CHEATING!) - run, don't walk, to a good lawyer to examine your options. Get copies of all financial records, assets, etc. Close or freeze bank accounts (he will clean them out if he hasn't already), and make sure he can't use any credit card that your name is on, too - you will be responsible for part of the debt.
2006-10-22 17:07:39 · answer #2 · answered by greyrider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went through that a 2 years ago. i had 2 kids and was pregnant with our third. i worked my self to death taking care of my babies and did my best to keep in touch with him.i did all i could to work on my end of our problems and tried to get him back. we lost contact for about a month and then one day i got a call from him. he missed me and our children and wanted to come home.i sent him 400 dollars and told him to fix his truck and come home. he was gone for a year and i missed him so much but he is home now and i am so thankful. now we tell each other when we are upset and we work hard to keep each other happy. its worth it i am happier than i Way before. don't believe that bull, if you love him let him go. if you love him fight for him do what it takes to get him home then keep him happy and he will not leave you again.
2006-10-22 17:01:17 · answer #3 · answered by Thumbs down me now 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He told you that he needs his space? And, you're buying that crap?
1. establish boundaries with him;
2. keep yourself busy with productive things that help you;
3. if you meet him, do it in a public place;
4. change the locks on the house; and,
5. if he wants to get back together, make him get tested for STDs.
2006-10-22 16:56:34 · answer #4 · answered by asperens 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG, you poor thing. It sucks!!! You have to hold onto yourself with both hands. Just try to get through two minutes. Anybody can do anything for two minutes. (That's what I did.) Take care of yourself, and spoil your self a little. Distraction is the key.
2006-10-22 16:50:31 · answer #5 · answered by sparklepup 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the problem is you don't know where this is going to go, and that is upsetting you. we can't control others or make them do anything, but we can control how we handle it, when it happened to me i prayed, they claim when we are hurt to go to god for what we need.yes it is painful, and theres no getting out of the pain of a loved one leaving us, for what unknown reason. it's worse not knowing why they left us.if we knew why we could make a decision on what we needed to do to regain our sanity. my heart goes out to you, as i have been there and gone through it, and there is no answar to how you handle the pain,just pray about it.
2006-10-22 16:52:20 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I like what "Goodie66" said, but for me I prayed. Lots of it too, just have to take some time for yourself. If all he is asking for is some space then give it to him, use that time to better yourself and get your head right. God won't give us anything he himself couldn't handle. Good Luck & God Bless!!
2006-10-22 16:50:53 · answer #7 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My pain was horrible. I turned to God. I got through it. Sometimes life is bumpy.
2006-10-22 17:05:35 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋