Parents Divorce?

Question

My best friend say that she seen a text message in her mother phone basically indicationg that she had sex with another man and is intenting to do it again. Her parents have been married for more than 10 years. her mother has 4 kids and 2 of her kids have kids. It is like 10 people staying in a 3 bedroom house. They already struggle paying their bills Her daddy is the only person who has a good stable job. They are on food stamps and wic. She dont want to tell her dad because it would break up her family and she know that her mother could not keep all of her bills on her own. She dont want to tell her dad because she love her mother and dont want to rat out her mom but she dont know how to ell her mom that she knows and she wants her to stop. What am I am suppoose to tell her

Answer 1

Tell her to mind her own business and stop snooping into her mother's things.

Answer 2

If it's eating her up inside, then she needs to talk to her Mom about it first. If it's not bothering her to much, then let well enough alone--it all comes out in the end, anyway. Back to if it's really bothering her now. If it is, tell her to pull her Mom aside, and simply ask about the message she saw. It could have easily been misinterprated (well, depends on what exactly the message was, though), or someone could have very well sent the message to the wrong number, or something like that. So, if she feels she needs to talk to someone about it, have her talk to her Mom first, and then to her Dad if need be.

And, also make sure your friend knows that she wouldn't be the one breaking up her family. IF her Mom is really cheating on her Dad, then her Mom would be the one breaking up the family, not her. She did nothing wrong. (Althought she may not like it if someone else looked at her messages, which might end up being addressed when confronting someone, so she should be prepared for that as well.)

Best of luck!!

Answer 3

You tell her to just stay out of it.. all things have a way of working out, good or bad, they work themselves out one way or another.. obviously the financial stress has probably put a wedge in their marriage, the best thing she can do is either stay out of it, or ask her mom what its about, and maybe if her mom knows that she knows, maybe it will shame her enough to stop..

Answer 4

think of it like this. take a couple minutes to think how you would feel if you were the dad. then think about if you were the mom. then you can talk about this with your friend. but no one can tell her what to do, she has to think about it and make up her own mind.