I recently (2 months ago) got a new job and it should be a dream come true: 10 minutes from home, good hours (9-5:30 and I get an hour for lunch), I can wear whatever I want (jeans,etc) and I don't have to deal with the public, great money, it's not corporate and very laid back. Then why am I not happy? I am missing my old job-which was the total opposite plus I had the boss from hell. I dread going to work every day now. I keep thinking that it's because I am still learning and it's still new but I'm not sure. I just don't feel comfortable there and I think that part of it is the way our desks are set up: we are all in one section all next to each other and I like to have my privacy. It's like everyone can hear what everyone is saying on the phones-which is why it's like that-but it's makes me feel uncomfortable. I don't even like eating at my desk...like if I want an apple or something and I donno what my problem is! I should be happy, right?
2006-10-22 16:34:03 · 12 answers · asked by chocolatemartinigal 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
I agree with a previous answer in that you might not have gotten to the bottom of what is really bothering you. Maybe in this new job you are settleing because you think its what you should be happy with? I was watching an old Oprah show and a career counselor asked the question, "What would you do if you knew you could NOT fail at anything"?
2006-10-22 16:48:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am going through the same thing right now myself.
However previously in my old job I faced the same dillema and it was because my desk was on its own (ie I had noone to communicate with - and I am a very communicative person), I arranged with my boss to swap desks and everything improved from there.
In terms of eating at your desk and everyone being able to hear you, I understand where you are coming from there too. Perhaps if you know that you will be hungry duriing the day at your desk, take a cup of soup or something into work - it will help with your appetite and as far as anyone has to know, it can be a coffee!
2006-10-22 16:42:26 · answer #2 · answered by Shlee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 01:12:22 · answer #3 · answered by bachinski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you are unhappy with your job and your overall life at this point.i have been there a couple of months ago and i got into the university of my choice as well as everything going my way but i just took everything for granted! i guess that you are in a point in your life of transition and growing up which confuses you but the sooner you are happy with yourself as well as the life that you have and all the small things that deal with it the better! learn to appreciate things even though they might be small things like walking in the park or doing something that makes you happy. also, if you do not live by your own expectations or try to please everyone you have made the wrong decision! it took me a while at my univerity to get aquainted with people and once you do that and you start a conversation you find out that you can go out with your co-workers for a dinner or something. my advice is to take it one day at a time and not dwell on the past because if you do that then you will miss out a lot on life!
2006-10-22 16:47:34 · answer #4 · answered by icycrissy27blue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't like it! At least give me cubicle walls! I don't feel very valued as an employee when everyone is watching me work. In my office I can tune out to music through my headphones. If you can do that it may help you. Otherwise consider a couple of tall plants or vases to help block other's view from you. Better yet, purchase a folding wall partition! Maybe the boss wouldn't mind you modifying your work area if you told him/her you are uncomfortable with the total lack of privacy!
Two months is a very short time though .... maybe you should give it more time. Comfort comes from settling in and learning the people and the job well.
2006-10-22 16:45:04 · answer #5 · answered by kkirby45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With every new job comes a lot of anxiety. It's normal to be uncomfortable at this point. It sounds like a great job. Hang in there for awhile and as you get to know the "system" and your coworkers better, you'll feel much more at ease and enjoy the job much more.
And if you decide to quit, can you put in a good word for me?
2006-10-22 16:44:07 · answer #6 · answered by firemedicgm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you have gotten to the bottom of your discontent. Are you bored? Are you really insecure and worried continually whether or not you're living up to other people's expectations? Are you the kind of person that always thinks the grass is greener on the other side of the fence? Are your talents and gifts being used, or are you just marking time? Are you working at a job or pursuing a career?
2006-10-22 16:43:11 · answer #7 · answered by whiteparrot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anything is wrong with you. I think that you just need to get used to your new job. Maybe after you meet your new co workers and interact with them more you'll feel better about your change. Everyone reacts to change differently. This will pass. Just be patient and enjoy the perks. Focus on the positive things you like and everything else will fall in place.
Good Luck!!
2006-10-22 16:45:49 · answer #8 · answered by pretty girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i remember when i first got a job at this gas station, i hated it. almost got myself fired, too. just didn't show up. but i got some advice to stick with it. i stuck with it and i ended up learning a lot about myself, ended up <3ing the job, too.
''well what did you learn?'' oh like...contentment cannot be chased after. if you chase it, that's just your actions telling your subconscious mind that you still don't have it. contentment can't be obtained through chasing. you have to create it.
everything in life can be seen as either receiving (good things coming to you), losing (bad things coming/good things leaving you), or giving. each time you ''lose'' something, you can either choose to ''lose'' it or to give it away. ''each time you give, though, you get. ten times over'' whether it's strength of character, wisdom, patience, or any sort of virtue.
2006-10-22 16:45:28 · answer #9 · answered by phtokhos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't be happy... if you're not happy in the situation then obviously something is making you uncomfortable, don't go on doing something you aren't enjoying - move on and enjoy your life, years go by too quick to not be the happiest you can be!
Go on, find something that really makes you smile! What would it be?
2006-10-22 16:43:48 · answer #10 · answered by daisy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋