And ever since then I can't stop thinking that I feel the presence of what could've been my baby sister. Not long before my mom had the abortion, my aunt died of cancer. So I keep having weird dreams of family members that have passed on...Am I losing it or what?
2006-10-22 16:22:18 · 11 answers · asked by misscaseyld05 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Well mostly everyone agrees with me it was your mom's decision put yourself in her place. That may have been eating away at her for years. Believe me I have friends that have had abortions and they have felt guilt and truly have punished themselves mentally. Be glad that your mother feels that close to you to have confided in you....it is something she really had to get out into the open and she probably thought you might help her with her emotions that doesn't mean it is the right decision for you but she probably feels much better talking with you. I figure it was your mother that told you....if not maybe you can sit down one day and tell her you know about it and listen to her and not make her feel any worse than she already does. Do you really think anyone wants to have an abortion....sometimes it is the only way out.
2006-10-22 17:27:27 · answer #1 · answered by bowl_me_over_with_love 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You are feeling sad because you didn't get to know the baby that your mom had aborted. You are probably disappointed with your mom too.
You must have a talk with mom and tell her how you feel. What she did was sad and wrong. Don't be angry and you must forgive her and tell her so.
The death of your aunt had nothing to do with your mom's abortion. Because you have experienced these loses, you are having these dreams. You are not losing it. You are depressed.
You must concentrate on happy and fun things now. Help your mom to get over the loss of the baby and your aunt because she probably needs you at this time.
God bless you. I am praying for you.
2006-10-22 17:02:12 · answer #2 · answered by 4HIM- Christians love 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry that you're having such a difficult time. However, I think your mom must have pretty darn good reasons why she decided to take this step. Perhaps she felt overwhelmed to raise another child, not sure what your family dynamics are. Perhaps your'e without a dad , and raising two children on one paycheck is a lot she barkened for. Or perhaps it is medical reasons, that she did what she did. Whatever her decision might have been , try to put yourself into her shoes. Try to understand and be there for her , when she needs a shoulder to cry on. She can lean on you, I hope as you can lean on her .When you perhaps one day might have to decide on such matter.
As for your dreams, its normal and no youre not losing it. It's darn hard that life brings you stuff your way. So be patient, perhaps one day when your mom has dealt with this situation, perhaps than she will tell you what her reason was. In the meantime, try to be very understanding and patient with her. Good luck.
2006-10-22 16:33:27 · answer #3 · answered by angelikabertrand64 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you have a lot of grief and loss issues over the abortion and your aunt's dying of cancer. Talk to a school psychologist or other counselor at school and talk this out. You'll feel much better. Also- have you discussed your feelings with your mother?
2006-10-23 04:59:18 · answer #4 · answered by cheyennetomahawk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do no longer think of her mom has that perfect to try this, I recommend its terrible that your pal have been given pregnant at 14 or perhaps tho she did have intercourse, she used risk-free practices, it basically takes one time of unprotected intercourse! continually use risk-free practices, no remember what! Her mom can not rigidity her, it quite is her physique and her decision and that's the way it may be for any lady, youthful or previous. If she became delusional or if she had severe medical themes that could be combating her from a secure being pregnant then i think of it quite is achievable to advise a medical abortion yet her mom can not rigidity her! notwithstanding if she is barely 14... Its sturdy that she needs to undertake the toddler, it is going to offer him/her so lots greater possibilities in existence as nicely as supply your pal greater possibilities. As for the time into her being pregnant, i do no longer comprehend if she could desire to get an abortion or no longer yet i do no longer think of her mom could make her...
2016-10-16 07:05:21 · answer #5 · answered by rybicki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop all this drama OK? How old are you? If you are very young I can not imagine a mother telling you this. And for crying out loud it is not all about you? Have some compassion for your mom it must have been a difficult decision to make don't make her feel any worse than she already does. If you are really having these nightmares I think your mom should never have confided in you because you are too young to deal with this.
2006-10-22 16:31:50 · answer #6 · answered by sosueme534 3 · 3⤊ 4⤋
You need to let this one go. Your mother made the best decision she could at the time for herself and probably your family. It really is none of your business and you should quit focusing on it. Nothing good can come of your fixation on it. Maybe you could talk to a trusted teacher or counselor at school to help you move past all this. Good luck and best wishes...
2006-10-22 16:28:17 · answer #7 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Your subconscience wants to ruminate on these people due to loss issues. One is real loss the other is imagined....after you decide how these people and their passing fit into your life this too shall pass...don`t be too concerned.
2006-10-23 14:05:27 · answer #8 · answered by Therapist King 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you didn't feel a presence untill AFTER you found out about the abortion.
You need psychological help.
2006-10-22 16:30:25 · answer #9 · answered by Mac Momma 5 · 0⤊ 5⤋
Well, it's your mothers body and she rules in this.
2006-10-22 16:26:38 · answer #10 · answered by Chantal D. 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋