my cousin is gay and he asked me to be a groomsmen in his wedding. im not for gay weddings, im cool with my cousin but i think hes taking too far. i told him i was in a hurry and i will talk to him later when he called. i know what he was going to ask because he asked my other cousin who told him yes. then my other cousin called me and gave me the heads up about the wedding. how do i tell him i dont want to be in his wedding? the second crazy thing is he was in my wedding as a groomsmen and now i fill bad about not wanting to be in his wedding. what do you guys think
2006-10-22 16:17:50 · 16 answers · asked by Priesd D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Here is the deal....you love your cousin right....or you would not have asked him to be in your wedding....maybe he did not like your wife, but he was still in your wedding to support you. It is not about agreeing or disagreeing with gay marriage....or even your cousin getting married even if he was straight. It is about supporting your cousin, because you care about him. Nobody likes being in wedding, even straight weddings. It is a pain in the butt, but we do it to support the people in life who are important to us, so suck it up, support your cousin and you will have a great story to tell when it is all said and done.
2006-10-22 16:23:49 · answer #1 · answered by freggs 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...I have a best friend who decided to come out not too long ago and I would be in her wedding if that's what she decided to do. Like you said, you're cool with your cousin and he cared enough about you to ask you to do it so I say go for it. If you don't it may affect your relationship with him forever. You can look at it this way, be happy for him that he found someone that he wants to spend the rest of his life with.
2006-10-22 16:27:15 · answer #2 · answered by coquetakris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a grea thing to be in,
1) u are about to enbark in something extremly cultral
2) It's 2006 by you being there for him is showing how mature of a person you are
3) I assume you're str8 (think of all the woman that are going to be there)
4) I would want my cousin in my wedding party when I get married
I wouldn't think of it as him taking it to far, there is nothing to take to far. He has the same right to be happy just like you. You're allowed to wed why can't he?? It would be a wonderful thing ... go for it, grab life by the balls :-) and besides us homos can really party, expect to go to the best party of your life :-)
just be open minded.......
2006-10-22 16:24:31 · answer #3 · answered by John E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest, don't ridicule him. If you are close just do it, but if it makes you that uncomfortable be polite and let him know that he should have someone else stand up with him. But make sure you are doing what you feel is fair for all involved.
If everyone in the world lived by the golden rule(treat people the way you would like to be treated)(do unto others as you would like done to yourself) what a great world this would be.
2006-10-22 16:23:37 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you'll hurt his feelings and damage your relationship if you tell him the true reason you don't want to do it. Maybe find a tactful way to tell him that you miss out on some things when you're in the bridal party & you want to be able to enjoy the day. Then offer to do something else like maybe walk his mother to her seat or be an usher. That way you can still be a part.
2006-10-22 16:22:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love your cousin? if someone was beating him down for being gay would help him? If he cares about you enough to want you in his wedding respect him for being himself. If you don't you might never have a relationship with him again.
2006-10-22 16:21:44 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm gay, and would not, I personally don't think gays need to copy str8's. We need legal contracts if we want to protect ourselves. the Holy Unions I've been to didn't impress me.
You will hurt his feelings, I'm sure; but do what YOU think is right. You'll forever be remembered in photographs of that wedding, if that is something you would like to have.....or not.
2006-10-22 16:23:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL thats funny, ive only been to hetero weddings. Maybe you could be a bridesmaid. I bet they will all be guys too. think about which one you will be paired up and have to dance with. Maybe you could have the bacelor party like that first answer suggested. Think about all those drunk gay men you will have to entertain. Just grit your teeth, put on your pink tuxedo and do it
2016-03-28 04:35:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well tell your cousin how you feel and then tell him you are behind him 100% but you don't think you can be in him wedding. but you say you feel bad because he was in your wedding. well be in his wedding and after it's over leave.
2006-10-22 16:29:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be a man and support your cousin. just because you don't agree with his style of marriage doesn't mean you can't respect the man.
he came to your wedding and participated in something that was against his morals....why can't you repay him the same way?
family is blood.....back up your blood.
2006-10-22 16:20:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋