i have bee married to my husband for almost 7 yrs,we got 2 kids also.i like this other guy alot.my husband is 17 yrs older than me and his very old fashioned.he buys me jewelry,and all that material things,and financialy he takes care of me,i cook,clean and do everything as a house wife surpose to do.i don't even get turned on by him no more.on the other hand,this other guy is the opposite.he wants me to marry him,he asked me in front of all his friends.he love my kids,but he don't have money like my husband do.he shows me love,makes me feel special and and all the stuff i really wish man husband can give me.i was married very young and never had a chance to live my life,can someone help me plz.i don't know what to do.
2006-10-22 16:17:23 · 17 answers · asked by lovegirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thats a really hard decision. If I were you I would defnately follow your heart. You only live once. You will live a miserable life if your not happy. It sounds like the only reason you are even with your husband is because you are comfortable there and you feel safe. You can't take material things with you when you die. And money does not bring you happiness, love does.
2006-10-22 16:27:39 · answer #1 · answered by lexi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a commitment to your husband in front of God and your family, so what are you thinking??????? You have a guy that loves and provides for you. You may think that you are in love with this other guy, but you're just in love with the thought of being in love!!! This guy doesn't really care about you or he wouldn't be doing what he's doing. What do you think he's doing when you're home taking care of your family?? Probably being with someone else!! I was married young (19) and have now been married for 28 years! I'm not saying that it's been all a bed of roses, but when the tough times come, we support each other! Just remember that the grass is never greener on the other side!!! Stay with your husband and give your children the stability that they need and deserve!!!
2006-10-22 16:43:48 · answer #2 · answered by c's grandma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't let the other guy around your children. Kids are smart...they figure things out. Tell the other guy that you need some time and space to think. Then take time to see how you feel without him around. Are you missing him or are you missing the excitement? Does your relationship with your husband seeem okay when the other guy is not around? If you are not happy with your marriage it is okay. You desrve to be happy and to feel fulfilled and your husband deserves to be with someone who will appreciate him. just be responsible with the kids.
2006-10-22 16:34:58 · answer #3 · answered by Patrice B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Count your blessings and stay with your husband. Your writing indicates you are fairly uneducated, at least in writing the English language. Go back to school, give your children the attention and love they deserve, and honor the vows you took when you married your husband. He sounds like a wonderful man.
Chow!!
2006-10-22 16:22:04 · answer #4 · answered by No one 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
By reading your former questions, you have made your decision. Suck it up and cut the knot. I warn you, your ex won't take it lightly and you are probably totally screwed if he ever gets his hands on you YA Q & A's. Actually you are screwed anyway. But yup, go ahead and live for love. You have to do what you have to do. Don't expect life to be perfect tho, this relationship has a very odd beggining.
2006-10-22 16:33:22 · answer #5 · answered by sparklepup 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to tell you that you made a mistake getting married the first time. I know you want to live your life but you made that decision. Now you have children to think about, you have to do what is best for them and it sounds like your husband can provide best for the. Dont be selfish.
2006-10-22 16:21:08 · answer #6 · answered by rc 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you are a lucky woman to have such a good hubby, if you are basing this new love on lust and sex, than you will be disapointed. and anyone who would break up a home is no good, and if he would cheat with you on your hubby than he will cheat against you too, he has no character or intregrety.if you don't want to be married anymore to him than get a divorce,but don't make this other guy the reason you don't want your hubby anymore.if your looking for a knight in shining armour he doesn't exist.if you leave and marry this man you won't be satisfied with him after awhile.
2006-10-22 16:40:14 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you love the other guy go for it.money can't buy you love why should you stay in a relationship it you don't love your husband. it's only going to make thing worse. and on the other hand grass isn't always greener on the other side of the road.
2006-10-22 16:38:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love, honor and respect the man you married and get this other guy out of your life completely. Leaving your husband would be one of the biggest mistakes you could ever make.
2006-10-22 16:22:02 · answer #9 · answered by Bethany 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't be a w hore. You have kids, you made decisions, live with them. You're only making it alright for your kids to do the same when they grow older and marry. You wouldn't want them going through all that now would you?
2006-10-22 16:24:07 · answer #10 · answered by TheAnwserer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋