I just found out my ex is gay and he wants to get back with me. We dont live together but he wants to make it work AGAIN!!! I am totally convinced that it wont work. AND FINALLY accept that i can not change that about him. So i dont want nothing to do with him. I dont ever even want to hear his voice or see his face. He probably is confused about why i am avoiding him. But i am sooo freaken embarrassed, angry, disappointed, and very hurt and disgusted with him. I really wish he would just forget about me for ever. Should i just be straight up with him and tell him that I know.about him or should i continue to avoid him and give him the cold shoulder. How selfish he has been to hide that from us and create a family to cover his in the closet secret.. how disgusting.......
2006-10-22 16:11:19 · 11 answers · asked by jane do 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
take him aside..or set a special day for u two just to talk...tell him....its ok that he is like this..and tell him u know he's gay though.....ya its embarrassin but someday u have to do it.........and it might as well be sooner.....than later......
2006-10-22 16:15:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Silence is your best defense, say nothing at all. Leave it alone, all he is going to do is try to convince you. Reread what you've read, you're convinced he's gay and you'll always wonder what he'll do when he's not around you.
Do you remember when the Gov of NJ came out and admitted he was gay after one of his lovers threatened to tell? He was on Ophrah and his story is what you mentioned and that the reason he lied was to make himself look good. He said that he would have sex in alleys and in underground, seedy motels. It's sick and gross. I read that because men are so sexual that when it comes to couples that have the most sex, first it's gay men, then heterosexuals and then gay women. This isn't hard to figure out honey...run for the hills before he give you an STD or worse.
If you feel the need to speak to him, be clear and simple and then hang up the phone honey.
2006-10-22 16:23:57 · answer #2 · answered by indepwman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey dear, I am a totally normal person not gay or even liberal, but my brother fought his own self for 40 years then killed himself so don't judge him too harshly. My brother told me shortly before he took his life that he thought if he married it would just make him normal, he did to the day he died love his wife, and she never knew. Now I don't know your circumstances but could it be he was still battling with himself and is pretty scared too. Maybe if you are so hurt you should sit down ant talk to him. I bet if you can be a true friend now he will always respect you and be a good father to your son. You know it couldn't hurt. Try being a true friend now , I bet the rewards are worth it for your son.
2006-10-22 16:21:46 · answer #3 · answered by sosueme534 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the situation I had not too long ago, and to this day he denies it. No one had to tell me; I found out though "clues" around the house. So, how did you find out? How do you know it/s true? If you confront hime with it, he'll probably deny it anyway; mine did. : ) It could be a cover, or they don't want to admit it; don't know, but after 23 years, that was it for me.
2006-10-22 16:18:03 · answer #4 · answered by Nancy D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that you can do is talk to him. Talking is better then holding it all in. It is selfish but in a way it might be just something new that he is trying. good luck.
2006-10-22 16:17:08 · answer #5 · answered by tia p lump on dogs back 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did you find out that he's gay? If he didn't tell you how do you know it's true?Remember believe none of what you hear and half of what you see.
2006-10-22 16:18:07 · answer #6 · answered by chinadoll31645 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YEA!!! What are you waiting 4?????!!!!!
He is so Selfish, trying to have BOTH WORLDS!!!!!
I would set the record Straight before he tries to bring you home something!!!!
2006-10-22 16:16:19 · answer #7 · answered by Breann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-05 03:11:56 · answer #8 · answered by samrov 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell yeah. throw his *** the peace sign and keep on moving. yall wouldnt be able to even be intimate. eewww
2006-10-22 16:15:13 · answer #9 · answered by mikki n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you know.
2006-10-22 16:14:33 · answer #10 · answered by simplyjaxxs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋