If you caught your spouse cheating what is the first thing that you would do?

Question

and the last thing and why

Answer 1

Yikes...first...go into shock and cry...last...kick his butt out

Answer 2

I would be in shock, cry, yell at him, ask if he's in love with this other woman. I believe in making your marriage work and that divorce is the very last option. After much counseling with our pastor if that doesn't help then as long as I know in my heart I have done everything in my power to make it work, then it would be time to let him go. I'm not saying it would be easy, but a lot of people now a days go into marriage with the notion, well if it doesn't work, we'll just divorce. You can't do that, you have made a commitment to each other in the sight of God and loved ones and you can't just let it go without a fight!!! Divorce would be the last option!! If you are going through this, I am so very sorry and I will be praying for you!!!

Answer 3

At first I thought... what kind of cheating? Phone calls, text messages, emails, sex. And then I thought it doesn't matter, if you think it is cheating that's all that matters, it's your relationship and it's based on your rules. So...

Alexis... you have to think, what did I do that drove him to find something he couldn't find in me, in another women? IMaybe you can find the answer in yourself, maybe you have to confront your husband to find out. But I think you need to find that answer before you take the second step.

Which is deciding on what your going to do with your relationship. Do you want to salvage it? Then your going to need lots of counseling and lots and lots of communication. I would inform his lover that you are going to try and make it work. Look at how Kathy Lee Gifford worked through her husbands infidelity. They appear to still be happily married. Or, you may want to end the relationship. The courts will still recommend counseling. He may refuse. So... get a lawyer and prepare for the worst because divorce is never a good thing even if there isn't children. I would still confront his lover.

Third, your going to need a strong support system of friends. The divorce could get ugly.

Right now you have all the power because according to the courts, you are in the right.

Good luck... this kind of thing is never good.

Answer 4

I would want to know if it was with a woman or a man, so I knew what I was up against. Next, I would want to know how he found the time. Honestly, my husband works so much and is a real homebody. I'm sure he can attract another woman, but I'm not sure how he would schedule it.

It wouldn't mean an automatic divorce in my house. Obviously, there is a huge problem, but my first instinct would be to try salvaging my marriage out of it. I'm not fool though, there is a limit to that line of thinking.

Answer 5

mayb u have read alot of different answer, n mine wont b 2 different, but no one can really tell unless it happen to them. love is not something that can b ignore easily, though u really want to kick butt or shoot anyone that is just something that u wont allow. just culturally, no one can get a divorce so quick, it is hard for both. in different culture some have to stay with the one they r maaried to becuz life is all about being with them and love them till the end. u can forgive once and then, but not all the time, but to solve it is not to kill or divorce. it might end there, but talk first and then let the rest to the both of ur choice. someone may end up leaving and that is just how it will end, but things might change when everything is talked through.

Answer 6

First)Cry,
Last) Plead Not Guilty by Reason of Temporary Insanity

Answer 7

I would just stand there and like not do anything. I would wait for her to see me there watching her what she just did. I would then just be there and see what type of explanation she will try to come upon. Just play it cool no matter how much it hurts. Like if you were expecting it. And like if she is crying I would be " Its OK... dont cry. I didnt do this"(in a type of voice where she would think u are trying to comfort her) I would tell her that I love her. Then I would say bye. Cause the truth is thatit hurts... but she borught it to her self.

The last thing I would do is loose my temper and get mad. I would not let her see how much she hurt me.

Answer 8

does anyone really know how they will react? i met a guy several years ago and fell madly in love -- later down the road i have found out he is married -- i always said i would not have a relationship with a married man.

but my heart now says different -- so do we really know -- NO we don't his wife keeps telling him if she finds out he is leaving she will leave, if i really believed she would do that i would call her in 5 minutes, we can say what we would do but we really dont know

my gut says first thing would be to kick his/her a$$ then take them to the bank

experience says cry and justify every action because you love them :(

Answer 9

Really the best way to handle it is to not say anything andget away from the situation. Talk to them a few days later when you know exactly how you want to handle things. Rash decisions never work out.

Answer 10

The first thing I would do is to dump him as fast as I can. The last thing I would do is to wave good bye as I leave court with a divorce and all of his assets.

Answer 11

I would beat myself up for being with the idiot. That last thing I would do is let him think everything is okay and use him for all he is worth then just leave after I got what I wanted. He would have had it coming. Right?