How scary is having a baby? REALLY ??

Question

I am 18 years old - been with my boyfriend for less than 3 months and am about 9 weeks pregnant ! This is what my boyfriend and i want since it wasn't planned but we're over the moon about it .. B UT .. i'm freaking out ! You hear so many disturbing stories about the labour - i just want to know - am i going to be ok??

Answer 1

oh honey, you're going to be fine. your body was designed for this.... that being said, epidurals are amazing things and you should have a big one. lol

think over all the idiot women you know that have had babies... anna nicole, bitney spears, pamela anderson had hers natural! then think to yourself... if they can do it... ;)

Answer 2

I think the scary part is not knowing what to expect. I would highly recommend taking a class with your bf so you will be prepared. Next, you can go in with the idea that you will do it natural, without pain meds, but don't let anyone, including your bf, decide for you if you get an epidural.

I have had three babies and I will be honest and say it hurts like hell! The pain is absolutely horrible, and if I ever got pregnant again, I would definitely have an epidural. Having an epidural, or at least knowing it is an option, makes it much more comfortable going into labor. If you decide you want it, then you should do it so that you can truly enjoy the birth of your baby.

Good Luck! Having a baby at 18 is very difficult; make sure you take some time for yourself.

Answer 3

If labor was that horrid no one would ever have a second child. But, it is called labor for a reason......It is the hardest job you will ever do. It will also be the greatest thing you will ever do.
It truely is an amazing miricle.

Be sure and get some classes or do some reading about how to deal with each stage of labor.

The biggest key is to release yourself to the power of the delivery. Women who fight the pain make the labor longer and more unconfrontable. While you are in a contration visualize what your body is doing. Your mind is am amazing tool.

The transitional phase is the worse, but the good thing about it means delievery is soon.
Once you make it through that, the actually delivery isn't all that bad. Infact it is amazing to feel that baby delivered.

Don't fear delivery...it is the most amazing experience in life. Enjoy each moment as your baby growns inside of you and once he or she is born you will be blown away by the love you will have for this little life.

You are going to be more than fine..you will be incredable.

Answer 4

You will be just fine.

I too was scared when I found out I was pregnant, and I seriously did not think I would be able to make it through labor and delivery.

But, after I had my daughter, I realized that what I had imagined was nothing like how it really is.

If you are worried about the pain, don't be. There are many options on how to manage the pain. If you choose an epidural, then you basically will feel no pain at all.

If you are worried about the experience itself, don't. The whole process of delivering a baby becomes natural once you are in the delivery room.

I would suggest going to a child birth class, they will explain things to you, show you videos, answer questions, and some hospitals will even allow you to tour a labor and delivery room so you will know what to expect.

There are many books out there that can help you along the way too.

You will be fine. You will be fine. You will be fine.

Good luck, and enjoy your pregnancy.

Answer 5

Congratulations!! I had my first baby in 2004, also 18 when I got pregnant...and also unplanned. It is an exciting time in your life. I know that it is a little scary since you have never been through it, but you can get books that will follow you through your pregnancy and let you know what is happening with your body and your baby. Labor is painful, but only something that will make you stronger as a woman and as a new mother. If labor is too much for you though, you can get pain meds or an epidural to numb the lower half of your body so you don't feel anything. Just relax and enjoy EVERYTHING. It is an amazing experience!

Answer 6

The answers you are getting are nuts! Listen, it is scary having a baby at any age. I was 30 before I had my first and I was scared because every pregnancy and delivery is different. Each person is different. The best thing you can do for yourself and your baby is to stay positive and realistic. Accept that you will encounter some fear and even pain but also remind yourself that women of all kinds live through this experience every day. You can do this and you will be ok. Hang in there and surround yourself with positive people who will keep you going strong and thinking of your future and your child's future. Having a child at a young age does not have to mean a life of welfare and sadness. You can have a great successful life with your baby. There are a lot of resources out there for young mothers now. Look for them. Join a good church. Change churches until you find one you are comfortable in. Be patient with your family, they will come around and be good to yourself. Do nothing to harm your body. Stay strong and positive. Never listen to the words of people like the first response on here. You can not change what has happened now so make the very best of what you have. Being pregnant is a wonderful thing. Enjoy it. Do not spend it being afraid of what is going to happen. It is going to happen no matter what you do. In the end you will get through it. Good luck. To you.

Answer 7

You are eighteen and having a baby, that is a scary thing. My advice to you is to take pain medication. The epidural is a safe drug for you and the baby, and will help you to be able to relax enough to be able to deliver the baby. I had my first natural and I would not recommend it. It is so much easier with the epidural. The epidural will dull the pain but you will still feel the contraction which are necessary to push out the baby. I have three children three of which are very young. Raising them is the hard part. But, if you raise them with love and understanding and patience you will have done a good job. No parent is perfect though and children don't come with instructions, so my advice to you is to do the best you can and the rest will come natural. I will keep you in my prayers. If you could use any advice e-mail me at [e-mail]. Good luck.

Answer 8

relax, women have been having babies forever and ever. BUT you should read a book or two along the way. My fave was What to expect when you're expecting. It was an easy read and covered all the seemingly silly questions that pop up along the way. It has diagrams of what the baby looks like at every stage and explains all the symptoms you may be experiencing at that stage. it also has some practical advice on what is really all you need to stock the nursery. Remeber tyhat breast feeding iis best, and the cheapest as well. don't smoke or drink, and eat well for you and baby. Get some good prenatal care and be there for each other.
Good luck!!!!

Answer 9

I understand your fear, but in this early time of your pregnancy, put it on the back burner. You never know what is going to happen when you deliver. I am 55, love babies, had 2 of my own, and actually labor is not very predictable. So please don't be fearful. I had a sister in law that whined as an adult every time she got the slightest cut. I thought in her labor she would be just awful and she was better than any of my other friends, so who knows ??? Each is so different. The best way I can say it is that look around you at home many women have given birth and they are still walking and talking ? Was it scarey for you to leave your mother when you went off to school ? DId you survive, looking back it may seem silly to be scared to go to school. Try to remember if it wasn't something women couldn't tolerate there wouldn't be many babies born. Most of all avoid, run away from or ignore all the labor horror stories you hear. It is kind of a woman thing in conversation to say >>>>> mine was so horrible and then the next one wants to top that. Ignore that, don't take it in. Yours will be the way God designed it to be for you ! OK ? No more fear ! Were you afraid to get your shots before you went to Kindergarten ? I was, but I surely survived, and i was really scared of shots because we lived in the polio scare time when we had to get lots of shots. We all lived to talk about it :)

Answer 10

Listen!! I got pregnant when I was 19 yrs old and I thought I was going to rip into or my head was going to POP while I was pushing but I will tell what I couldn't have had it any easy.. I was induced, and she broke my water, and from the time she broke my water which was at 3:32pm and I had a beautiful little girl. It really wasn't that painful, just go in thinking tough and being tough and you can get through it, I didn't take any meds for pain I did it all natural. I am now 23 yrs old and had a baby boy 7 months ago and I was only in labor with him for 2 hrs and 45 mins with no pain meds. You can do it just keep telling yourself that and you will be fine!!! Best wishes!!!

Answer 11

I was the same way I watched all the labor, baby, etc. (especially TLC) the whole time I was pregnant and it helped me. You r going to be be fine. Everyone's labor is different so really can't tell you exactally how it's going to be, but it's really not as scary as it seems. Just try to relax, it's the best thing for you and your baby. Stressing over something is not good for either of you. Try to watch some of the shows I metioned above, it will help with some of your worries. CONGRATS. Good Luck. I'm trying to get pregnant and possibly am now so I would love to be 9 weeks by now.