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ok so i have a really nice friend, named "spencer"
we were getting along GREAT, and i thought he had some boyfriend-potential.

until...

i found out he was mormon recently, and all the mormon values totally clash with my own. is it ok to feel that we're not such good friends anymore? but i don't want to have religion affect our friendship!

but i was wierded out by his mormon religion...

2006-10-22 15:54:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Friends

14 answers

We are uncomfortable with that which we are unfamiliar with, so its natural. Let this be an opportunity to learn about another religion. Then the next time you encounter someone different than yourself, it won't make you so uncomfortable...but curious. Do not cast judgement. We do not know who, if anyone, has a corner on the truth. You like this guy. He is your friend. Learn about his beliefs. Take an interest in them. You don't have to agree or adopt his point of view...and he may not prove to be bf material. But he's already earned a designation of "friend." He likes you, doesn't he? Even though you are a (insert your belief system here.) If he doesn't judge you, don't judge him. His religion sounds more tolerant than yours, anyway. Maybe its worth looking into. Anyway, you are right. This shouldn't affect your friendship. We are all one, Buttercup. Peace to you both and a glorious openminded budding friendship.

2006-10-22 16:10:46 · answer #1 · answered by bluelotus 3 · 1 0

When you talk about being more than friends, there are some things you will feel you need to take into consideration. If that's what you're meaning here, then it's okay to choose your faith over the guy. Faith makes a difference on how you'll view things, and I can see how it causes conflicts. I feel strongly about my faith (LDS, by the way, same as your friend in question), and that has been reflected by my choice of wife (also LDS) - shared faith is no small part of it. It's to do with being sealed in the temple. (ask Spencer or look up www.mormon.org).
As a regular friendship - he's still the same person. I don't understand why you should be so wierded out. We do NOT practice polygamy, and other than that our values are very much the same as many other Christian faiths. Letting differences in faith come between you comes down to intolerance, prejudice and fear.
Don't take counsel from fear.

2006-10-23 07:36:16 · answer #2 · answered by warped_factor_ten 2 · 0 1

You should learn more about the faith. You'll find that you won't be so.... "weirded out." I wasn't always LDS. When I met my now husband, who has been his whole life, my girlfriend grabbed me by the arm and said, "He's Mormon." I sighed and replied, "Oh, that sucks." hahaha I knew nothing about the religion! Only what the the world thought it knew. Visit www.lds.org and click on basic beliefs. Mormons are Christians. We believe in God and Jesus Christ like most people. Yes, we do differ in some ways, but Mormons are great people. If you can't be friends with him just because you found out what his religion is, than you aren't a very good friend. Accept him and his faith. Did it matter or make a difference before? I didn't think so. :)

2006-10-24 12:23:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

Hon, all organized religion is a cult look it up in the dictionary. I realized a very long time ago it does not matter that some guy took the bible and wasn't even creative enough to change any other words around and he changed the places to here. These people are some of them wealthy and I don't know I just think they are so scared of what is happening they need to believe in something. I believe in good and bad , right and wrong, We know who we are you know if you are good and we surely know bad. I know I help any one that needs my help that I can and I don't steal or lie or hurt anyone ever on purpose, so I figure I am a good person. If there is only one religion heaven must be a pretty small place. So I am betting on good ,bad and so on. Because I have seen some pretty evil things done in gods name. By so called religious folk. So many dead so many hurt daily in his name . I do not use that name for my higher power. He or she would not appreciate being in the group of so many evil people. So just look at your friend as a person is he good? was he always a good friend? Don't judge him for what his family believes maybe he is not totally sucked in yet and you can save him. Or maybe he will be the best friend you don't know, so don't just back off be a true friend.

2006-10-22 16:13:11 · answer #4 · answered by sosueme534 3 · 0 1

Don't let it get in the way of your friendship. I don't share Mormon values either but, I must say I've never met a Mormon I didn't like. They must be doing something right. However, the bf thing - don't get too serious because the religion will surely stand in your way.

2006-10-22 16:04:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I've heard even Christians say things like "the Printer God must like me today", so that's probably why she didn't pay any attention to it. It's not like you were bringing up your religion as a point, but just using a phrase to show how lucky she got in saving money. And I'm sure she probably thinks it's more you than the Gods. =) Where I work it's very open... in the office anyway. I work with a devout Catholic and we discuss different religious topics all the time. Sometimes they do get a little heated, but neither of us are trying to convert the other... well, he may want to try, but I think he knows better. ;-) I have been on the receiving end of phrases like that from Christians... Even from people in here!!! (Which made me wonder if they read my profile or any of my answers before sending me email lol) I accept it as a compliment or them just being polite and move on. The one's that really shock me are the emails which state "Amen Sister!!!!" rofl!!!!! At least not all the emails I get are "you're going to hell you damned heathen" =)

2016-05-21 23:52:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

All the Mormon values clash with your own?
So you don't like boys who are morally clean, don't cuss, respect women, love the Savior and our Heavenly Father, honor their Priesthood, don't drink, smoke, have addicting habits, and want to be married to their spouse forever, hu??
You're right, all those qualities are definitely not good ones...oh and be so careful....those Mormons will suck you in...
Please, give me a break people, this is ridiculous, you are warning her??? Being a Mormon is the best thing that can happen to ANYONE ANYTIME ANYWHERE...

2006-10-23 07:17:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1 1

Tell him to get on his bike. Mormons can be suffocating in a relationship. My very good friend had one for a boyfriend and it turned into a lengthy stressful issue.

Good luck :)

2006-10-22 16:06:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Move on. Find someone of your own faith. Life is too short to
make compromises. Be yourself. Be happy. Be with someone similar to you. Being opposite only causes arguments.

2006-10-22 15:57:50 · answer #9 · answered by rasckal 3 · 0 1

It is something you must overcome. If he was good enough to be your friend in the first place, he is still good enough to be a friend.

2006-10-22 16:07:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

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