I live in NY State and I have to pay child support for my daughter, which I don't mind, but she stays most of the week with me and I buy anything that she needs being necessities or just plain stuff that she wants in reason. My ex doesn't see anything wrong with this. I'm wondering do I have any rights to stop giving my ex the full amount?
2006-10-22 15:50:01 · 12 answers · asked by flappy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The court order is that I pick her up on Saturday at 11:00am and have her home on Sunday at 7:00pm. Instead she comes over Thursday and leaves Monday. Plus my ex lives at her mothers house and pays no bored.
2006-10-22 16:15:17 · update #1
Her medical insurance is $80.00 a month for the family plan.
2006-10-22 16:20:01 · update #2
If you are sharing custody equally then no. You're just supporting your ex. Sounds like you're the exception to the "rule" of ex-husbands. I would contact the child support enforcement office and then perhaps an lawyer. She's taking advantage of you.
2006-10-22 15:55:48 · answer #1 · answered by Lynda M ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are buying most the clothes, toys, and other expenses I would think you should not have to pay the full amount. Do you pay for her medical care, daycare or school expenses? If so, I would say the only problem you might have is what if your child support goes to paying some of your ex's rent or mortgage. That could mean that your ex could lose her residence, which would not be good for your daughter. I would think you have a good case for reducing the amount of support. However, don't just reduce the amount without going back to court or trying to negotiate with your ex.
2006-10-22 15:58:47 · answer #2 · answered by thrill88 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could probably go back to court to arrange new support orders but i would like you to consider the following...
1. can your ex afford to care for your beloved daughter without the support?
2. is your 4 days with your daughter court approved? perhaps you should consider the possibility of losing that special arrangement...
3. is it causing you any hardship to support your daughter, and is the money being used wisely on her care
another thing, many men are really bothered by having to give a certain amount of their income for the support of their children but forget that while they were married ALL their income was used for those purposes, housing, food, clothes etc. why would you object to having to pay only a portion of those expenses now?
2006-10-22 16:04:02 · answer #3 · answered by popant42 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, yet sure, you do. summer time holiday is 2 months long (the main) and how they do it extremely is they divide the each year expenditure quantity for each and every infant. enable's say your daughter takes 20,000 to conceal her each year desires (foodstuff, outfits, clinical expenditures, college classes, inner maximum classes, etc.); they divide this quantity via 10 as a exchange of 365 days, because of the fact this is going to be pronounced interior the contract, that your daughter will stay the completed summer time with you. So, except you probably did no longer stipulate this circumstance, you nevertheless could desire to pay infant help.
2016-12-16 12:30:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's in your decree you can ask the courts to change it. But if your ex doesn't agree with it then it will be a big hassle. I don't know about NY but here in Missouri, we can have our decrees or child support order changed after 3 years if both parties agree to it or there is good reason. And no it's not fair but that's the law for ya, good luck.
2006-10-22 15:54:18 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No if she stays with you 4 of 7 days there should be no support payed to either parent but you should provide clothing shoes and someone should provide health insurance . If you go to your local domestic relations office and file for half custody which is what you actually have they can mediate this for you . At least in the state I live in PA this is the way it is . If the child lives with one parent at least half of the time their is no custody payments owed .
2006-10-22 16:00:33 · answer #6 · answered by cookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to child support and re evaluate the situation. Are you going thru the system or are you just paying her from your pocket? If you are I would go thru child support. Personally I DON'T think you should pay child support if you have her most of the time. Good Luck
2006-10-22 16:00:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call and ask and see if you can have shared parenting. You will not have to pay and she will not have to pay. You just have her 2 weeks and she has her 2 weeks or how you want to set it up.
2006-10-22 15:53:11 · answer #8 · answered by tia p lump on dogs back 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember---your daughter will decide which nursing home you will be put in.
Take good care of her now, and she will be kind to you when you are old.
2006-10-22 15:53:31 · answer #9 · answered by papyrusbtl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not have a lawyer, get one. If you do have one, fire him/her and get a new pne. That is a bunch of bull, you should be getting child support.
2006-10-22 15:55:57 · answer #10 · answered by Brothaman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋