Every year, 4 lady friends and I rent a cottage near the lake and spend 2 nights there. They are SO boring. They want to do exactly the same thing every year. Eat at the SAME restaurants, shop at the outlet mall, watch chick flicks. This year I brought two games that would hopefully inspire some conversation, but the "leader" of the group, poo-poo'ed the suggestion to play a game, saying "I'm zoning out right now" and then put on another chick flick movie. Its dull to me to just sit there and watch movies, half of them fall asleep during the movie anyway! I'm tired of having to go to Hobby Lobby! When I get home from the weekend, I tell myself - that's IT - I'm dumping this group of boring friends...but I don't have any other friends around here and I'm 51 so its not so easy to make new friends. If you were me, would you keep hanging with the boring people? Help! I feel so helpless and desperate to hang with people who are so dull.
2006-10-22 15:47:52 · 13 answers · asked by different drumm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I can understand about hanging out with people who you have nothing in common with. How about next time asking everyone (all four of you) to bring a co-worker/another friend/family member whoever to come along to the cabin with you guys. This way you are still hanging out with the same women but its an opportunity to mix the crowd up a bit and maybe it could be more fun. Maybe the other women are bored as well but no one has the guts to say anything because they may offend someone like the so-called leader. Maybe a new breath of fresh air in the group will turn things around, and adding a new twist to the weekend my make things more interesting for everyone.
2006-10-22 15:53:50 · answer #1 · answered by BunnyRabbit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are only 51...........why are you hanging with boring friends??.............Get a boyfriend and date and go places and laugh and do different things..............Go to the gym and workout if you are heavy or even if you are not......take pride in what you eat and how you look.............in no time you will like you and have confidence to step out on your own and make a new life ........but remember put a smile on your face.......That is the top advise .......a smile brings new friends and maybe a boyfriend......sounds good
2006-10-22 15:54:16 · answer #2 · answered by ginny3282 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about anyone else,.... but I don't talk about my "friends" that way,... and I wouldn't consider someone a friend who talked about me that way either. Why put yourself and them through the misery of your fake friendship? And why criticize and insult them just for having different interests? You're the one that has a problem, so mve on.... find friends that are more exciting for you,and leave those women alone to enjoy themselves... since you obviously hold no value in their friendship.
This is the exact reason I choose men as my close friends.... there's no catty back-stabbing crap to deal with....
2006-10-22 16:11:11 · answer #3 · answered by just_me3575 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your friends are too stubborn to change you need to stop hanging with them and maybe find some groups you can join. Check out your church or other community centers and start doing something that interests you in life
2006-10-22 15:59:17 · answer #4 · answered by melthule 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling. Why waste your time? I bet you can find other people who have interests similar to yourself. Have you tried doing any volunteering, or taking some courses that might interest you? I bet you would find someone interesting.
Have you asked any of your 'buddies' that you go on those yearly holidays with if they are bored as well?
I hope you are able to find other people to spend time with.
Good luck.
2006-10-22 15:53:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anurri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes they have opertunities to meet new people at community centres. If you like kids, volenteer at a library ect. You'll meet interesting people and create relationships with people. I woulnt ditch these friends, but perhapes you can limit your time with these "dull" women and start doing things with new ppl you meet volenteering. Or, chill with these people one at a time (as opposed to all these women together) in a newer enviroment? GOOD LUCK :D you sound cool.
2006-10-22 15:59:10 · answer #6 · answered by Cloudyheartgurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join a gun club or an interest group. get some male friends and have some fun. If you only have 4 friends make some more.
2006-10-22 15:50:53 · answer #7 · answered by KSJTam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your aren't happy with them then you can't be a true friend to them. If I were you I would seek out people of any age with similar tastes in activities. Never settle because you don't feel like there is anything else out there for you.
2006-10-22 15:59:03 · answer #8 · answered by chinadoll31645 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I'm 29, but just went through the same thing. Its never to late to start over, and seriously at least to me its better to be lonely then in bad company. So right now I'm lonely but I pray about it, and know I'm likeable, and some day it will change, be true to yourself! xoxo
2006-10-22 15:52:11 · answer #9 · answered by sarah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont like hanging out with them anymore you probably shouldn't, it will just make you more bitter towards them. Join something you enjoy doing and you probably meet someone more into the things you like doing.
2006-10-22 15:52:37 · answer #10 · answered by April 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋