He is the father of my first daughter(my ex) and has new roomates who abuse drugs, so I have banned my daughter from going over there obviously. My husband suggested that he move in with us, so he could be with his daughter, and we would have more money for savings. He says he just wants to help everyone out. I feel he doesn't love me if he is at all o.k with me living with my ex, even though we are strictly platonic. What do you think? Thanks!
2006-10-22 15:45:01 · 19 answers · asked by sarah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OR HE'SE YOUR HUSBAND IS LOOKING FOR AN OUT AND FIGURED IF HE GETS YOUR EX BACK IN THE PICTURE THAT YOU AND HIM WILL EVENTUALLY HAVE SEX AND HE CAN DIVORCE IN THE END
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HES A DOWN LOW BROTHER AND WANTS TO HAVE A 3 SOME
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HE IS A FREAK AND WANTS TO WATCH YOU 2 GO AT IT.
2006-10-22 17:39:39 · answer #1 · answered by Kay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder if your boyfriend just is not thinking this through enough. Sounds like he trusts you an awful lot. And sounds like he is strained financially. Are you sure he was serious? My mother, father and now step-mother did this when I was a toddler (34 yrs old now) and for many years I'd still hear stories of jealousy, etc. In the long run it probably would not be very healthy for your daughter. You could probably just have him (ur ex) come to your house for the visitation. Plus, I'd talk to your now boyfriend about other ways to suppliment the needed income. Best wishes!
2016-05-21 23:52:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is a serious question and your husband's intentions are truly sincere he has got to be the most awesome and caring man on the planet! If he is seriously looking out for your daughter and cares enough about the bad housing situation of your ex AND feels secure enough in his manhood and his realationship with you to invite this man to share your home I think he deserves a Nobel peace prize. What a shining example for other's to follow on how to get along after divorce and re-marriage. And you think he doesn't love you?!
NOW, if he's a perv and just wanting the three of you to hook-up. Well, that's another story.
2006-10-22 16:07:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weeeellllllllllll that's really odd really odd this is the first time I think about something like this maybe he's after the money of your ex damn that a very confused situation talk to your husband cause it's not normal at all he needs to have a reason why he does that and it's not necessarly good btw girl good luck
2006-10-22 15:56:19 · answer #4 · answered by beautiful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say that he doesn't love you, actually, quite the contrary, he seems to have a great deal of trust in you. Personally, there would be no way in HELL that I would allow one my husband's ex's to move in, strictly platonic or not. Now, just because he says he would be okay with it, doesn't mean that I would take the decision of him actually moving in too lightly. I'd think long and hard about this one...
2006-10-22 15:51:37 · answer #5 · answered by missapparition 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Katy This not normal and it seems as though your hubby has underlying issues ,,He is not telling you .Katy.. you did the right thing in not letting your daughter be around the drugs..but I wonder if your ex is taking drugs then the problem gets bigger..Your daughter is confused now what will happen when or IF your ex moves in this is not good for her and you are her mother and you should make this choice...your ex can get another apt. too Good Luck Katy,,sureilll
2006-10-22 16:00:36 · answer #6 · answered by COOKIE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a dramatic soon to be disastrous situation! There is no way this will work. I would however ask your husband has he hit his head on something? Or maybe he reasoning for not seeing a problem with this, I would ask him, not to be mean, but seriously, if he has something for your ex. I just cant see how anyone would be ok with this unless that was the situation. I wish you the best, but god, I hope you dont go through with this.
2006-10-22 15:51:03 · answer #7 · answered by luv2bawifenmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Katy,
Your husband is very secure with your relationship! There is nothing wrong with that at all. He also wants what is best for your daughter...very thoughtful!
It sounds to me like he loves you and your daughter beyond belief! Not all men would offer something like that.
2006-10-22 16:45:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
life is blind and you got the blind leading the blind so i guess it's your shot to call. but what you may not notice about that statement he offered you is he probably never see any further ahead than the doors to life that he hasn't opened. it is in trust i believe that he is failing to percieve and develope enough retroperspective on this to make a clear head choice as you say , the things can get out of hand and it's does sound to weird to have a young girl involved in
2006-10-22 15:57:34 · answer #9 · answered by bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good idea so u all sleep in one bedroom to save more money!!!
my answer u have to wake up u husband before u ask him...
try to knock his head with heel
2006-10-22 20:29:42 · answer #10 · answered by MAJED 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋